As an Alloromantic I envy Aromantics [and my gripes with romanctic relationships]

[Storm_leopardcat]

7 hours ago, nonmerci said:

If I'm not mistaken, gender, romantic and sexual minorities.

Yes, exactly what she said. I think you can also call it GSRM?

[Alaska Native Manitou]

Some English speakers do rearrange the letters. I first encountered the term on a Japanese website in the 90s as just SM=Sexual Minorities. Over the years it became SGM=Sexual & Gender Minorities; the latest version is SGRM.

I'll understand what you mean if all but the last letter is moved. However, be aware that when I saw someone spell it RGSM it was followed by a troll saying that it really meant "orgasm." 🤢

[alto]

4 hours ago, 2 Spirit Cherokee Princess said:

I'll understand what you mean if all but the last letter is moved. However, be aware that when I saw someone spell it RGSM it was followed by a troll saying that it really meant "orgasm." 🤢

That's pretty funny

[EternallyTBD]

On 5/1/2022 at 5:48 PM, jjaee_jaee said:

lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, questioning, intersex, agender and ALLIES. nothing else :D 

I find this odd actually. It could just be google showing me what it thinks I want to see, but whenever the acronym comes up it is always defined as lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer/questioning, intersex, and allies/asexual (I think many people group agender as part of trans). Maybe it’s just a difference in the definition? Though hopefully aromatic will someday join the allies/asexual people under A. 

Edited November 21, 2022 by EternallyTDB

[The Gray Warlock]

I guess the grass is always greener...

[tiger_hoods12]

On 3/15/2022 at 5:29 AM, Cavaajia said:

It sounds so freeing to not think about people in a romantic way. I hate how getting a crush consumes my whole mind, my every thought. I want to treat someone differently just because I "like them." I think it turns me into a manipulator when I don't want to be. But then I wouldn't go do the same for my friends just because? I push friends to the wayside inadvertently if someone else is on my mind 24/7. Then I feel terribly lonely if I can't be with this person who's my "crush".

Despite this it's always bothered me how when someone will get into a relationship it seems that you often abandon your friends. I asked my brother once (he has a girlfriend) about people in relationships spending less time with friends and he was of the mindset "it's complicated/difficult." I don't think it's ok that we should push others aside.

I think friendship is the most beautiful thing because they seem like they outlast any romantic relationship and are there for you (the good ones at least) without demanding loyalty. You don't need to recite vows at a wedding to show commitment. 

Also why do we show more loyalty to romantic partners who we've known for way less time than friends? Perhaps I'm a cynic (no I am one!) but I look at marriages of family members and I'm like it's crazy you don't seem happy... ...my mum and dad have so many differences and there are complaints (but to be fair I haven't helped sometimes I stick my nose in where it's not my business), my aunt is getting divorced and I feel like deep down people hate each other?

Then there's the whole thig with affairs... ...I feel like if you commit to a relationship you are always in fear of getting close with others, you worry if you step across that line and aren't being loyal to a partner. Relationships seem so possessive and I'd feel trapped if I had to commit to one person.

Okay, so I know this is two years old, but I totally get what you are saying! When I developed my first crush, I became so obsessed over him. I absolutely hated it! My thoughts the entire time was this is so pointless. All this emotion for ONE person!! We didn’t even know each other that well, and I hated how I actually felt lonely whenever he wasn’t with me. Having a crush is just weird. I was so mad. Like why did this have to happen TO ME!! I get what you mean with the whole “abandon your friends, to prioritize your romantic life.” Of course, not everyone does this, but most people do. As a kid, I noticed that and thought to myself, “I could never.” My friends meant to much. I dreaded the day I would end up in a relationship with someone or more likely, when my friends would end up in relationships. Like they’d ditch me for some stranger essentially. Or our meet up time would now be cut in half. I grew to deal with it because technically, I knew that this is what they wanted. In the sense of them wanting to be in a relationship with someone and just wanting to spend time with them. I get that part now. But then, I thought it was so selfish. Your views on marriage I definitely agree with. They may have changed now, but what you said here basically encapsulates how I feel entirely. I don’t understand why society is so romanticized, excepting people to get married or settle down with a person,  when all you ever hear are awful dating stories. ALL marriages have a 50% of getting a divorce!! That’s like you flipping a penny on your wedding day and jokingly saying, “Welp, heads we stay together, tails we don’t.” Like can you imagine. All this just for people to complain. I may have this view in marriage because my parents are currently going through a divorce and I’m not surprised. Their whole marriage seemed like they were just too different or something. They always argued and had poor communication skills. Personally, I don’t view marriage as this romantic gesture. I hear the word and I just think to myself “shackles” and “less freedom.” This isn’t me having commitment issues or anything, I genuinely feel this way about marriage. If I ever ended up in a QPR or an actual relationship, it would take a lot of convincing to get me to that point. Anyway that’s it! 😁