shortgrlstp1 Posted March 14, 2021 Share Posted March 14, 2021 Hey Guys! I'm excited to have stumbled upon this website today. To be perfectly honest, I am not sure what my orientation is at the moment. I have not lived my life as an aro. I have lived my life as an extroverted hopeless romantic turned nymphomaniac turned introverted hermit. After many years of dating disappointment, rejection and hurt, I have decided that living a solitary lifestyle is what makes me happiest at the moment. I invite all of you to say hi and tell me your stories and perspectives on being an aromantic person. Here's to a great day :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted March 14, 2021 Share Posted March 14, 2021 Hello there ^^ I too am an introverted hermit at the moment. If you like the solitary life then live it at its fullest, and my perspective on being aro is that I enjoy it cuz it is what I am and is something that no one will be able to change nor steal from me. Being aro means that I criticize romantic subplots and just say "leave his/her ass" to the protags. Here here to a great day/existence. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shortgrlstp1 Posted March 14, 2021 Author Share Posted March 14, 2021 2 minutes ago, Blake said: Hello there ^^ I too am an introverted hermit at the moment. If you like the solitary life then live it at its fullest, and my perspective on being aro is that I enjoy it cuz it is what I am and is something that no one will be able to change nor steal from me. Being aro means that I criticize romantic subplots and just say "leave his/her ass" to the protags. Here here to a great day/existence. Thanks for the reply! Just wondering, have you ever been in a romantic relationship before? If so, wasn't there some sort of satisfaction to it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blake Posted March 14, 2021 Share Posted March 14, 2021 I was in a relationship before and there was some kind of satisfaction from both parties. However, they where allo-allo and I had not discovered myself as aroace. So eventually, since I did not know I was aroace, I was seen as heartless, cold and it lead to a breakup. The satisfaction from my part is that I was with someone who I could be honest with, but it was short-lived since the more I shared of me, the distant they where to me. The relationship for me was as super best friend however for them it was a romantic/sexual relationship and I did not know we both had different views of the same relationship. The joy/satisfaction I took from the relationship wasn't romantic, it was of sharing time with a friend. For them, it was romantic but for me no. Hope that answered your question. After the breakup I began questioning my identity and eventually I discovered I was aro, and then ace ^^ and here I am. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InvisibleSquid Posted March 14, 2021 Share Posted March 14, 2021 Hi and welcome! I'm pretty new here, myself. I figured out I was ace a couple years ago. I've lived my life as an aro trying to act like, and convince myself that I am, a romantic person. After several relationships and two marriages ended, I'm now realizing that being aromantic is a thing, and that it fits me. It's been a hard road, but I think it's better for me in the end. I'm tired of hurting people inadvertently, and am much better off being a friend or maybe a QPP at some point. I do love me some good snuggles, after all... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Holmbo Posted March 15, 2021 Share Posted March 15, 2021 Welcome! Have some ice cream ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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