Could “spadille” be a good nickname for aroaces?

[Stoneandglass]

”Spadille” could be a good nickname for aroaces. It could be a neutral term that indicates anyone with no sexual and romantic attraction but without automatically assuming they do or don't  use the SAM. And if they don't like to use the term aroace it could be used as an alternative.

It's based on the card symbolism in the ace community. Ace of hearts= romoace, Ace of diamond= demi, Ace of clubs = gray, Ace of spades = aroace. Another term for ace if spade is spadille( I've been informed ”spade” has unsavory connotations in some places) So from that an aroace would be nicknamed as a ”spadille”. 

Edit: I've found out some places use spade as a racial slur. I've found the word Spadille, which is a synonym. I've edited the post to be about spadille instead

Edited August 20, 2020 by Stoneandglass

[nonmerci]

10 hours ago, Stoneandglass said:

but without automatically assuming they do or don't  use the SAM.

But the ace of spade came from the asexual community and is used to say someone is both aro and ace. So spade sounds pretty SAM aro to me.

 

For the rest why not, ace of spade is already an aroace symbol.

[Stoneandglass]

6 hours ago, nonmerci said:

But the ace of spade came from the asexual community and is used to say someone is both aro and ace. So spade sounds pretty SAM aro to me.

 

For the rest why not, ace of spade is already an aroace symbol.

Hmm that's an interesting point I didn't think of. I feel that Aroace has been the only word we had to describe it but does that necessarily mean that anything using ”aroace” operates on the SAM? Like I think of the aroace flag. Isn't it more about the experience of being aroace itself? If there was another word for that experience we’d call it the (that word) flag. You know what I mean?

 

[nonmerci]

I am not very aware of not SAM aro problematic so if a non SAM aro comes here, correct me if I'm wrong. But I think that not SAM aro just don't use sexual attraction to describe themselves, so don't use words as ace, allosexual to describe themselves. So for me, if someone use aroace, this person use the SAM, because non SAM aro just say aro. At least that's what I get, maybe I am wrong.

[Stoneandglass]

7 minutes ago, nonmerci said:

I am not very aware of not SAM aro problematic so if a non SAM aro comes here, correct me if I'm wrong. But I think that not SAM aro just don't use sexual attraction to describe themselves, so don't use words as ace, allosexual to describe themselves. So for me, if someone use aroace, this person use the SAM, because non SAM aro just say aro. At least that's what I get, maybe I am wrong.

Ohh I didn't realize you had said non-sam ARO. That's something completely different from an aroace who doesn't want to use the sam. There are non-sam aces and non-sam aros but there are also aroaces who don't use the split attraction model because they don't see their identity as being split. 

[Rolo]

It's a pretty silly sounding word. Sounds like some sort of super food you could get as a massively over priced supplement in a health store.

[Stoneandglass]

2 hours ago, Rolo said:

It's a pretty silly sounding word. Sounds like some sort of super food you could get as a massively over priced supplement in a health store.

Really? I don't think it has the same ring as spade but I didn't think it sounded bad. I'm curious to know if others feel this way too. (it's pronounced spuh- dil for reference) 

It's derived from the Spanish word espadilla (diminutive of espada which means sword.) Not coincidentally on the other site I posted this to some people seemed to like the idea of taking up ”ace of sword” instead of spade. Which I thought sounded cool but ”swords” isn't really something you can nickname people as, is it?

[nonmerci]

7 hours ago, Stoneandglass said:

Ohh I didn't realize you had said non-sam ARO. That's something completely different from an aroace who doesn't want to use the sam. There are non-sam aces and non-sam aros but there are also aroaces who don't use the split attraction model because they don't see their identity as being split. 

Oh ok. I get it now.