LemonCupcakes Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 I’ve been on AVEN for a while now, but since I’m aroace, I thought I’d make an account over here as well. I first started questioning when I was about 14, but then I spent several years thinking I was ‘too young to know”, or “a late bloomer”, or that “the right person would come along someday”. I don’t know. It’s been a few years now, and while some part of me still has those thoughts in the back of my head (which might also be internalised amatonormativity) I also know that the word that accurately reflects my experiences in my life so far and into the foreseeable future is aroace. And I don’t want to wait to label myself just in case something changes in 5 years - because firstly, who knows if it even will? And secondly, even if it does, I can change my label to grey or demi or whatever fits my identity at that point in my life, and that won’t have made all these years of being aroace a lie. I’ve come out to, like, 5 people in my life, and they’ve all been absolutely amazing, which I’m very grateful for. But (as far as I’m aware,) I don’t know any aspec people irl, which is why I’d really like to be a part of the online communities on tumblr, AVEN, and here. So... hi. It’s very nice to meet all of you, and I’m excited to be here! Thanks for reading my confused ramble about my identity, if you got this far Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aro_elise Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 hey! you're right, it's amatonormativity, you know yourself, and it doesn't matter if it's different in the future. we all have those thoughts at some point, especially in the beginning. i'm glad people are supportive of you. and i hope you like it here; i do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ch0c0 Posted February 8, 2020 Share Posted February 8, 2020 Hello LemonCupcakes. What matters is that you are valid now. It's even better if you have some people aknowledging it irl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LemonCupcakes Posted February 8, 2020 Author Share Posted February 8, 2020 Thank you guys so much for your kind replies! Yes, I’m definitely working on ignoring those thoughts. It honestly just helps to know there are other people out there like me. I’ve spent a lot of time reading aspec community forums online and reading books etc, which was a big help especially when I was younger. And the people irl are amazing as well, of course. Thank you again! Looking forward to spending more time on here! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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