SnailSatan Posted April 23, 2019 Share Posted April 23, 2019 I've known that I am aromantic for a couple of years now, but I just found this forum. I'm 18, and my hobby is keeping aquariums. I know that it's common for aros to confuse platonic attraction for romantic attraction, but I initially thought that my sexual attraction was romanctic attraction. It made me feel like a creep, but I felt obligated to try dating due to general amatonormative notions given off by everyone in my life. I went on one date and felt incredibly gross and uncomfortable. Thank goodness we have google and words to accurately describe romantic orientation now, because I'm sure I would have kept trying to enjoy (and fail at) romantic relationships. I've only ever told one person about my romantic orientation (being a lesbian in the south US usually gets people off my back about things, but I'm sick of using this to avoid telling people about my aromanticism due to a lack of understanding). My parents will not know until I am financially independent (they aren't supportive of a lot of my life choices/ways including religion and sexuality, so I walk on eggshells around them). I'm glad to not feel so alone in my lack of romantic attraction online. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coyote Posted April 23, 2019 Share Posted April 23, 2019 Hi, welcome to Arocalypse. :3 Not alone at all. Have some ice cream. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apathetic Echidna Posted April 23, 2019 Share Posted April 23, 2019 7 hours ago, SnailSatan said: Thank goodness we have google and words to accurately describe romantic orientation now, I thought the words were the best part of it all too! because finding them led to heaps of interesting concepts and the ability to find communities. I hope you find things of interest in the forums and welcome! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aro_elise Posted April 24, 2019 Share Posted April 24, 2019 On 4/22/2019 at 11:42 PM, SnailSatan said: I know that it's common for aros to confuse platonic attraction for romantic attraction, but I initially thought that my sexual attraction was romanctic attraction. same, 'cause they supposedly go together, right, so i was like 'ok i guess that's what's going on.' though it helped (if confusion is helpful) if i also liked them platonically, like i thought finding someone hot was the difference between wanting to be their friend and wanting to date them. not that i consciously thought about it much before discovering aromanticism. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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