Spud Posted April 10, 2016 Share Posted April 10, 2016 Hi. So I've been neglecting to make this post, but I feel like I should, because this is a place for aros and gray-aros and stuff, but I'm not sure which one I am. There is one person in particular I can't tell if I'm crushing on or not, and it's really bothering me lately. I've had questions for almost 3 months now. I made a post on AVEN, but no one could really give me a good answer. I hope it will be better here because it's more about romance. So I enjoy her company and really enjoy being physically close to or touching her (not sexually, just in the sense of closeness). And I've been trying to be around her a lot more. I had a few dreams where she was in them and I kind of got excited because I was to date her or something. I can't quite remember anything specifically. But I'm not sure I would enjoy dating in real life. I also don't want to kiss her or anything. But it feels slightly different than for other friends when I'm alone with her. It's hard to describe. But I really want to stay around her a lot. I'm not sure if I have a crush or it's just a passing platonic squish, but most of my squishes have been really small and not anything like this. It's probably worth mentioning she's one of my best friends and I'm shipped with her a lot by my other friends. I've also been mistaken to be in a relationship and I was a little weirded out by that, but I'm not sure if it was because I find the thought gross or because I'm so sick of being shipped haha. I'm also not particularly attracted to her aesthetically (I don't want to look at her for a long time or anything). I used to get awkward moments when I couldn't look her directly in the eyes, but I'm not sure if that was because I just ended up awkwardly laughing because I'm awkward around people I have never experienced this before, I was wondering if any of you have felt similar things (especially if you are gray-aro) and if you would classify this as a crush? EDIT: Okay, some things have changed since I posted this, but here is the AVEN topic I started- http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/134840-question-about-crushesromantic-orientation/#entry1061645026 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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