oona Posted October 23, 2017 Share Posted October 23, 2017 So my name is Oona, I'm aroace, 20 years old and come from Finland. My favourite things are Christmas, chocolate and blankets. I realised that I'm aroace a little less than a year ago and it's been a rocky path for me to come to terms with it (I'm still not that at ease with the whole thing, but I'm getting there I think). My friends don't really know how to talk to me about it, or actually I'm not even sure if they want to talk to me about it, I think they would just like to forget I ever said anything and that really bugs me because it just takes me back with the whole progress I've made with accepting myself. Also I've just made some new friends who I would so much like to tell, but really dont know how to and I'm in need of emotional support:-D (Things are getting quite awkward with "let's find a boyfriend for oona!") Okay so yeah I'm quite bad at ending things so nice to meet you all and now I'm just gonna stop writing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apathetic Echidna Posted October 24, 2017 Share Posted October 24, 2017 5 hours ago, oona said: My favourite things are Christmas, chocolate and blankets. Not long to wait now! I hope you make the most of them when they happen because for the rest of the year you will only have chocolate The friends I have told don't really want to talk about it with me either, but it seems your friends don't understand or are in denial about it if they are trying to set you up still! When they talk about getting you a boyfriend I think clearly saying 'No, I am aroace' is your best option. Maybe try explaining it to them again as well? If your new friends meet your old friends they will take social cues about interaction from what is already happening, so it is possible they will start treating you the same way if you don't tell them (your old and new friends) that their actions are hurtful. You can tell people they are being hurtful without coming out, but it seems your old friends need the constant reminder of your orientations for a while at least. Also a warm Welcome! I hope you find some support reading the other experiences forums Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippiecat Posted October 25, 2017 Share Posted October 25, 2017 Hello and welcome, fellow Finn I think the best way of telling friends is to just say "Hey, I really need to tell you something because it's getting weird that you don't know. I'm aromantic and asexual, yoooo." So if you want to, just go for it ^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NullVector Posted October 25, 2017 Share Posted October 25, 2017 @hippiecat your avatar is a Tove Jansson drawing of Little My, right? :Finnish pride: Also, welcome to arocalypse @oona Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hippiecat Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 @NullVector It's Snufkin , but yes, Finnish pride ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NullVector Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 23 minutes ago, hippiecat said: @NullVector It's Snufkin , Haha, whoops! It was hard to tell just from the back! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SamwiseLovesLife Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 On 23/10/2017 at 8:36 PM, oona said: My favourite things are Christmas, chocolate and blankets. ^ I relate Welcome Oona! I like your name, it sounds pretty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Louis On Air Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 Hello up there, welcome Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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