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Hi y’all, I’m planning to live alone in the future and I’ve been wondering how other aros living alone plan to celebrate Christmas (or other non-Christian holidays)? Any fun traditions or do you not really bother? Also open to anyone with ideas ofc 🎄

I'm playing a circle of spores druid in a dnd campaign... bc I'm a nerd... and also queer

I’ve got a bit of fabric stitched with the aroace flag colours (orange, white, blue) in my phone case (it’s clear). It’s nice bc it’s small and subtle since not many people recognise the flag so it feels like a lil nod to other aroaces.

Hi, I understand where you’re coming from, it’s fucking terrifying to realise that you’re experiences are the opposite of what you expected. I certainly felt really hopeless about my future for a while, and still do sometimes. my only advice is to take it slow and think about what makes you happy and comfortable. It doesn’t have to be what you expect. Some aros have platonic partners, some have kids, some live alone etc. It’s all okay you just gotta trust yourself and do what feels right. Your future can be whatever you want it to be.

I’ve been in two and from what I’ve read here I think we can all agree that there’s something uniquely traumatic about being in a romantic relationship as an aromantic…just trying so hard at something so alien and knowing that you can never be enough for that person in the way they want you to be. The near-constant fear of being broken. Trying to force yourself into something that will never work. Also, reading y’all’s messages is great because it puts my own experiences into perspective. My first romantic relationship got really toxic and the second I only go into because I was trying to prove I wasn’t ‘broken’. I mean most of us ended up feeling trapped and / or things turned toxic in these relationships. Guess it proves it ain’t meant to be, and that’s okay!