would explaining your concerns to her be an option? i mean you don’t need to tell everything but telling her you want to avoid misunderstanding seems like an easiest way to end it fast in a civil way if you don’t want to wait for the problem to disappear by itself
maybe this is not what you need but i just randomly found a post about struggles people with adhd might face when it comes to sex. there’re also some people sharing how’s it for them in the comments. so maybe it’s not a low libido or anything but adhd experience. i don’t see anyone talking about how’s it with meds tho
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allonormativity is a real thing. as well as erasure of those whose expression doesnt fit into gender identity one might potentially represent. we're a minoriry inside of a minority in this case which leads into a lot of people being complitely unaware such expiriences exist. i hope you can meet some understanding at those places if you correct someone there making allonormative comment on somebody whose orientation is unknow. it would be awesome if someone would like to learn more about it after that