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For the love of god, do not make every aroace character cold, logical and stoic. We still have emotions.

It’s been forever and a day since I’ve visited these forums, but I’m coming back strong. I was just coming out of the shower and getting dressed when my mind began to wonder, as it does. And I remembered a video I found while browsing TV Tropes. It’s a song from Sesame Street called Five Purple Conkers. It’s about the titular creatures hanging out together in various places, while being killed off one by one. Yeah, you read that right. Who knew a segment of Sesame Street could be so brutal? Except, it’s not quite as straight forward as that. Normally songs of this nature would keep going until one remained, like some G-rated Hunger Games. But this song stops when there are two Conkers left. They get married, have a baby, and all is well. Now, look. I’m not so naive to believe that this was intentional, but the more I think about it the more I realize that this is the perfect example of how many allos view relationships. In the song, the three less fortunate Conkers are taken out fairly quickly, with very little fanfare. If you were just listening to the song and didn’t watch the animation, you wouldn’t even know that’s what was happening The singer is very quick to gloss over the carnage. He just says that one swam away,one flew away and one got stuck. Very innocent compared to what actually happened. However, the narrator is very eager to tell about how the two remaining Conkers were ‘living in harmony,’ and how they and their yellow honker baby ‘loved one another for they were a family.’ And this is the very definition of amatonormativity. Your friends are getting more distant and drifting away from you? Well that doesn’t matter as long as you have a romantic partner and/or children in your life.

When I first saw how the ending of Frisk's and Papyrus's date went and they ended up being friends, I was so happy. This was before I learned I was aroace and it struck every me as weird why I loved it so much. But now, ✨I know.✨

I'd get sad when characters got together because I knew they wouldn't spend as much time with their friends and family. Also, I always hated the phrases "just friends" and "more than friends" since the first time I ever heard them.

There have been times when characters in stuff I read or watch get together and people are like "I knew it! There was so much subtext and chemistry!" But to me it felt like it happened out of nowhere, and I thought it was just people's tendency to romantically ship everyone before it became canon.

Yeah, that sounds like a squish alright.

I thought about watching this movie, but now I don’t think I will. Also, I hate how they changed Lake’s pronouns to she/her in the movie, or so I’ve heard.

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Update: Okay so I thought about it, and I realized that I don't think I'm actually a paragirl. I'm now pretty sure that I'm fully female, but just gender non-conforming. This feels like a much better fit to be honest.

Update: I think I mit be genderflux, as well. Because right now, I don't think I'd want to be called they/them. I'll have to think about this more.

Hi. I was wondering if there might be anything that can be done to make this site easier to navigate with a screenreader? It works okay already, but it can be a bit confusing to navigate at times. Mostly because a lot of the links don't seem to have labels. Tbh I have no idea how to fix that, but I still think it is a good thing to keep in mind.

I recently posted a status about my pronoun changes, and decided to look up a label that might fit, and I've decided that the best one for me would be a paragirl. It's sort of like a demigirl, but instead of identifying as about half female it's like 90 percent. I think it explains how I mostly want to use she/her pronouns but also like they/them, plus the fact that I've always been kind of a tomboy. I don't know if I'm going to tell anyone IRL. Definitely not my grandparents but my mom might understand. But since I don't feel dysphoria when still describing myself as a girl and using she/her mostly, I don't really think I need to and might only say something when or if it comes up.