aro_elise
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just aesthetic attraction things: i saw a gorgeous woman at a party and said to my mom "she's so pretty!" though i've told her i'm definitely not, she may think i'm bisexual. it's far from the first time i've observed a lovely lady. ? but wow, she sure was.
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my friend (possibly ace-spec) asked about different types of attraction and i explained them and QPRs. ?
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i might be going to a seminar on platonic affection and love languages! i just saw it on fb. in the description they didn't mention aromanticism but they did mention amatonormativity; it sounds cool.
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i find myself thinking i'd like to meet a guy...exactly what sort of relationship i want, i don't know, but i've been single for almost 3 years and, well, if nothing else it would stir up some drama in my life. ?♀️
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i saw someone (not on here) whose username had 'aro' in it so i messaged her asking, "like aromantic?" she goes "how do you know???" apparently she'd never met any others. we had a good chat.
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off topic but after i relapsed with self harm i asked my roommate to take my blades (and the one from the blender, in case). it was uncomfortable but i'm kind of proud of myself. you have to make deliberate decisions to heal.
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It's good that you have friends like that. I think it's really important to recognise that we can't do everything by ourselves (actually, it may be unhealthy to tell ourselves that we can, particularly when trying to make positive changes in our lives to do with breaking old habits?) and to feel able to ask for support from other people. Even (especially?) when it feels awkward to do it.
Now I just need to try taking my own advice there more, hah.
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I reckon it takes a bit of practice to pick up on things earlier, before they get out of hand. A bit like keeping your balance on a tightrope or slack line (I was trying this the other day, lol). At first you make a few big movements and fall off a lot; but if you can learn to make a lot of smaller, more frequent corrections, you keep your balance better (random analogy, but maybe it helps?)
I'm doing better recently, actually. Made myself get out of the house more to interact with people. It helps.
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just btw, i'll gladly answer pretty much any question you have for me, whether apropos of something i wrote or of nothing. i may not be thrilled with everything allos ask me, but i know you guys are always motivated by genuine interest and open-mindedness and i love talking to you.
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Whew, I can relate to this a lot. People thinking it's acceptable to blow off their friends irritates me a lot. My first long-term girlfriend regularly criticized me for not blowing off my friends to be with her instead, and I told her that was a shitty thing for her to ask me to do, but she maintained it was not. It's frustrating that mistreating friends is normalized.
I think I'm out of questions for now, but this has been great. Feel free to contact me any time if you want to talk. There have been some interesting conversations on Tumblr lately about the intersection of aromanticism and polyamory, though I think a lot of it would just be really obvious to you.
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Just wanted to say to both of you that I really enjoyed reading this conversation
. Good questions from @Eklinaar and interesting and thoughtful responses from @aro_elise.
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my best friend just called me her best friend and told me she loves me endlessly and i cried. i'll never get tired of hearing that stuff.
