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On 02/05/2017 at 10:01 PM, techno-trashcan said:

"You should try liking someone. Maybe that'd make you happy." 

I'm pretty sure most of us have tried at some point.. seeing as there are quite allot of us I'd say it doesn't work

On 04/04/2016 at 6:57 PM, Simowl said:

I find it hard enough being friends with my best friend because I feel like she's always going to choose romance over me - so, I understand what you mean OP. 

No matter how close I get to someone, I don't feel like our friendship will last (at least, in terms of really close friends who I can talk to about anything) if they're not aro. I feel too different from them..

I made friends with people that despite relationships want friend-time/girl-time. Also one of my closest friends is Poly so she doesn't feel the need to be with her SO instead of other people

On 03/06/2016 at 8:54 PM, Quinoa said:

I have accepted that it's likely I won't ever be the most important person in someone else's life, and that's okay.

I just think of this like, 'ah well, I'm the most important person in MY life'

38 minutes ago, Ice Queen said:

Typical alloromantic person: 

 

*gets a crush*

*dates the person and falls in love soon afterwards*

*starts a relationship*

*considers that person as the most important, and the no. 1 confidante, despite not knowing them well*

*makes grand promises*

*falls out of love*

*no strong bond with the person has been formed in the meanwhile, so it's bye bye*

*meets another person, and it starts all over again*

 

Me: Error 404. 

So true. So awful. So glad I'm Aro..

23 hours ago, brsajo said:

https://tapas.io/series/Anit-Social-Media

http://yuushiki.tumblr.com/

https://www.instagram.com/yuushiki_art/

https://www.youtube.com/c/YuuArts

 

I just read the valentines one.. It's pretty amazing

I love how non gender conforming it is. Depicting a normal relationship = Lesbians. Woman (wearing skirt and bow) = is bald. No explination. Just awesome.

2 hours ago, Zemaddog said:

The author of the webcomic "Anti-social media" (who goes by the name "Yuu") on Tapas is Pansexual and Aromantic.

Her comic has only touched on her experiences of being aro a few times so I can't really judge how good of a representation of being aro she is.

This is such an awesome picture Do you have a link for her stuff?

6 hours ago, techno-trashcan said:

I mentioned that I never planned on getting married and my dad responded with disbelief, implying that I was being ridiculous.

Have you ever watched Glee? You could do a Sue and have a wedding with yourself to shut your dad up

@Philbo Wiseroot I'm Agender too, and came to this conclusion a little while ago. Do you mind me asking (feel free to PM if private), do you feel that your body reflects your gender or does it oppose it for you? I am trans, as I am taking steps to 'neutralise' certain gendered aspects of my body, and I am curious If you feel the same or differently? I'm AFAB so I would be curious to know as an (I'm assuming) AMAB Agendered person, what your thoughts on your body are?

On 16/01/2017 at 4:34 AM, Ace of Amethysts said:

A while back I made an AVEN thread where I said I disagreed with underarm shaving because the fact that society kind of wants females to do it because it`s seen as feminine thing to shave off hair people rarely see in the first place irked me.

Saaaame I totally think you should do what makes you happy, but I hate the double standard.

On 19/01/2017 at 3:43 AM, aussiekirkland said:

Prom/ball culture is a huuuuge thing in Australia. It's so gross and gendered! Sure a girl could wear a suit, if they wanted to be ridiculed. Not to mention of my friends was a lesbian and wasn't allowed to take a girl, so she took a gay guy so they could share the pain of homophobic private schools together.

This is such a shame I like that they went as beards though. In the UK no one gives af. If anyone's homophobic, they're the odd ones out and are frowned on by everyone else

This post from Aven http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/36108-how-dou-you-say-asexual-in-different-languages/

has the Asexual words, so if you know the word for romantic, I assume you can use the same prefix (if other than A)

1. We need waaaaaaaaaaaay more.. that aren't children

2. Clariel by Garth Nix. I adore it Also, in some ways you could consider Skeeter from The Help (one of my alltime favourite books/movies) a greyromantic asexual

On 11/12/2016 at 3:08 AM, Ettina said:

The protagonist of Heartless is explicitly asexual, and reading between the lines I think she's probably aromantic too. She doesn't seem to have ever fallen in love, and it seems unlikely that she will soon. (She's also a newly-turned vampire in Victorian England, whose asexuality makes her immune to the vampires' mind control ability.)

This looks awesome, I wish it was a book

I say 'I love you' to my closest friends (who say the same). I wouldn't to anyone if I thought they might have non-platonic feelings for me as I wouldn't want to give them the wrong idea (luckily that doesn't happen allot)

On 13/04/2016 at 7:34 PM, Spud said:

No one wants to show yellow any love

I love yellow. YELLOW I GOT YOUR BACK **dances in a field of sunflowers**

53 minutes ago, Ice Queen said:

Also, I don't really get why so many alloromantics consider themselves a half of someone. If I ever get to have a partner, I'd see us as two whole entities who are right for each other.

Aaaghhh I hate this, why on earth would you choose to think of yourself incomplete? That's so sad!

Even before realising I am Aro I always said I am a whole person, and if I ever found someone I wanted to date, they would be another whole person who would simply compliment each other and be wholes choosing to stick together.

Also when people talk like this it suggests they think there is someone they are destined to be with because they are two halves of one person. By the amount of relationships romantic people seem to go through i very seriously doubt they honestly think like that.

I physically cringe when people say "My other half.."

8 minutes ago, Ice Queen said:

I, for one, don't really get the point of celebrating anniversaries. What are you, people, counting exactly? :-? 

I recently had two good friends get engaged on their first (annual) anniversary. Don't get me wrong, I adore my friends and they make a great couple but this freaks me out.

Alternatively, my sister and her partner have their 10th anniversary this year and everyone seems to be anticipating (and frankly, pressuring) for them to get engaged on this date. Why does it need to be a special date? Why can't they just wait until they are ready, which may be never? (Also, why is it anyone else's business..)

I actually really like this video by Lauren Harkins

https://youtu.be/xO3ZNw_Eqo4

**She's Asexual Aro** I feel like it makes things very clear in a humerous way

Hi lovely people (and non-people)

I would love to hear which real people (not characters) in the media, celebrities, youtubers, etc you know or think to be Aromantic.

Do you think they give good reprisentation and why?

Two youtubers I've come across are simply kenna and Lauren Harkins, I haven't watched much from either of them but both are cis girls (Lauren prefers to be seen as a girl than woman) and have channels dedicated to vlogging/beauty.

1 hour ago, Ace of Amethysts said:

An aromantic meeting app? Yes!!

Someone needs to do this- I would pay for this app

I think this on a T-shirt, like @shotinthehand's profile picture..

The Umbrella could even be in the Aromantic flag colours

I had already come out once, thinking I must be gay.

My dad (who had been uncomfortable with the idea of me being gay) was relieved and not surprised. Being 21 and having no interest in dating he'd guessed it 'isn't really my thing'. My ma (expects everyone to want kids but doesn't care what your sexuality is) was both sad (she thought I'd be happier being gay) and maybe not surprised? She's more sad that I'm trans and won't have children (I don't ever want them).

They took it fine really I'm not out to my wider family but then turning up to all family events as THE ONLY SINGLE PERSON, I think they just think I'm odd by now and it's best not to ask

On 12/09/2016 at 5:58 PM, Philbo Wiseroot said:

I'm the same with colours over symbols. Aro green all the way! More subtle too - for most people, green is green, but for aces, purple is significant, etc.

I'm with you

On 02/05/2017 at 7:42 PM, Ice Queen said:

Has a green rose already been suggested by anyone?

I love how this plays on romance

GUYS. I found an Aro shirt 

On 2017-5-4 at 9:16 PM, rivkael said:

everyone is saying they picked a crush... like damn did I pick a crush. I had a 'crush' on this boy for two years just because i found him aesthetically attractive... two years when i'd moved to a different school and never had to see him. (just looked him up on fb and he's okay, but young me was freaking stunned at this draco-malfoy pretty boy)

 

Young me seemed to think that crushes weren't things you act on, merely objects to be admired from afar.

Last year me was considering asking someone out to see if dating was fun ( am still kind of considering it even though i know it's not a good idea. i hate the idea of not being able to give what they need... I JUST NEED A QPR  OKAY

 

Yeah I totally relate. I did make up crushes but the people I would squish on (sometimes thought was a crush) I never would admit to anyone because I was scared they'd find out or someone would try to make me ask them out. I REALLY didn't want to date them or anything, just look. They would be beautiful and smart/confident/creative and I liked to admire from afar. No way I wanted to do anything with them, why ruin it?? 

On 2017-5-7 at 7:30 PM, UnicornQueen said:

When I was on a school trip in middle school my friend has made up a fairytale about me and my best friends. At the end of the story she asked as to choose between the perfect boyfriend and something we really wanted. I was the only one not to choose boyfriend (but hey, not everyday you get the chance to get Aston Martin for yourself).

I love the ending to this story 

On 2016-4-3 at 7:27 PM, Spud said:

A bunch of people are sitting and going "awwwww that's adorable" or "they're so cute" and I just sit there wondering why they're wasting their time kissing while they could be addressing the problem/plot

Like in films where people stop to make out/have sex/whatever while the world's ending or there's a battle or disaster or something. I'm so confused like "...aren't you worried about what's going on? Nope? Just me then.."

On 20/04/2017 at 2:41 AM, techno-trashcan said:

almost trying to convince myself that I had a crush on some random kid just because I thought I had to. 

Me three

On 15/05/2016 at 0:50 PM, Dodgypotato said:

my dad felt the need to ask me quite frequently if I, 'like any boys at school?'. I would always reply, "No, they're all hideous."

That's hilarious

On 03/06/2016 at 11:00 AM, Elluna Hellen said:

Come to think of it, I never really tell people 'love you' (I do with my pets though. Go figure). Though it's not because i don't like the word.

 

Also this.

 

When I was 12 I was a fan of a singer. Cue some random aunts/family members. "OH, do you have a little crush on him? " And I just remember being like "will they just shut up I like the music that's all >_>"

Both of these resonate so much with me :')

On 11/06/2016 at 11:04 PM, Chronos said:

You people, at what age more or less you just said "f*** it" and stopped waiting for "the right one"?

20, I just got tired of trying to feel something that everyone says I should feel