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I've always hated children except for a rare few who fit my very picky criteria for a "tolerable child" so I feel like having children is a bad idea cause unless they happen to be perfect, we're both going to have a very bad time.

Also I really don't want to be a single parent (my mum is and I've seen how it's affected her) but I also super duper don't want to get married.

So I never wanted to have children, but once I realised I was aro ace I realised how difficult it would be even if I wanted to.

I just remembered a couple of incredibly aromantic moments and had to share them here.

A couple of years ago I had an insane squish on this one guy and I thought I was in love with him. I remember talking to my friend at the time about my feelings for him and she was very insistent that there was no way I was in love with him. I remember getting mad and slamming the screen shut (we were on Skype) and thinking how could she know because she's a year younger than me. Turns out she knew my feelings better than I did!

When I was in kindy I had a best friend who I kind of had a qpr with. We were practically joined at the hip, we were always physically affectionate (we often kissed) and we even had a pretend wedding once (thanks heteronormativity) and everyone kept on calling him my boyfriend and poor five year old me was so confused because I didn't have a crush on him at all. Honestly, not much has changed haha

On 4 April 2016 at 2:27 AM, Spud said:

Additionally: When we are watching a play or something with romance for class.

 

A bunch of people are sitting and going "awwwww that's adorable" or "they're so cute" and I just sit there wondering why they're wasting their time kissing while they could be addressing the problem/plot.

I remember when we watched the Romeo + Juliet movie for English class and I was trying to figure out why everyone loved it because from a media standpoint it was cheesy and stupid as hell but from what I could gather

1) "it's so romantic"

2) "Leonardo DiCaprio is sooo hot"

I really like OP's definition but I can't think of a definition for a romantic relationship, but I also feel like it's kind of unnecessary?

I feel like I'm pretty lucky that I've never had to worry about this with my friends. My closest friends at the moment are O, K and @brsajo

O is bi but isn't interested in/looking for a relationship in the near future. She's focusing on her study and her friends (K and I )

K is very Straight(TM) but isn't looking for a serious relationship and is also prioritising her study and friends

@brsajo is hanging out with me on an aromantic forum so I feel like that speaks for itself haha

So yeah I've always been drawn to people who prioritise their friends, I don't have time for people who don't have time for me. It's often that simple *shrugs*

On 5 April 2016 at 11:42 PM, pengu said:

 

Yeah.. Most of mine are some kind of queer too. It's great that our parents are open-minded I guess? 

I think that happens with a lot of queer/not straight people. They just seem to be drawn together and when one person comes out the rest of the group comes out haha

16 minutes ago, brsajo said:

Are squishes and crushes mutually exclusive? Because from what I've read, when I get scrishes (what I'm calling them for now until I know which they are), I get symptoms of both, but not all the symptoms of both. 

When I get one, these are some things I go through:

• "OH MY GOSH THEY LIKE THAT TOO!? WE HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON"
• "OUR DIFFERENCES COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER OMG WE'RE SO COMPATIBLE"
• I want to be close friends with them
• I want physical closeness
• I want to spend my life with them
• I hypothetically imagine kissing, but it's mostly out of curiosity since I've never done it before. The idea is silly, but I don't wanna knock it till I try it

I'll edit this post when I have more time

All of that minus wanting to spend my life with them is how I experience squishes. You could have a look at alterous attraction, which is in between romantic and platonic.

I agree that a lot of distinctions that can be made are up to the individual (like physical affection and butterflies) but I think what separates squishes and crushes is how you see the person. Could you see yourself in a romantic relationship? If not it's probably not a crush. While there are a lot of similar feelings, alloromantics want to be in a romantic relationship with someone they have feelings for. This was what made me realise that I was aromantic because no matter how strong my feelings were I never wanted a relationship with them.

I've always wanted a qpr, even before I knew what they were. It's the kind of relationship I can see myself in when I have feelings for a person (regardless of gender), but if not I just don't think about it. Like right now, I don't have any platonic feelings so I don't feel like getting into a qpr.

I've suffered through two romantic relationships but still no qpr's 

Chips and gravy

Platonic love (ahh much better)

Pepper

15 

Cinderella Story (do you guys remember that movie? It had Hillary Duff in it)

YUCK! I can't even drink coffee out of a cup with dishwashing liquid residue!

Sour cream and onion Pringles (my favourite snack)

Pirates

129

(29 is my favourite number :3)

Saxophone

(I play tenor sax)

Jazz

(what I'm studying at uni)

Ouran Host Club

Pizza party

Call me maybe

(apparently haha)

Asexual reproduction

Biology

advertising

Titanic

(well, yknow...)