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On 03/04/2016 at 9:41 PM, Vega said:

^ Reminded me of another thing movies love to do. 

"Villain, you will never win because you lack the most important thing of all! Love!" 

Or really any movie where the bad guys are just evil because they can't fall in love, and the hero wins because of the love of some random woman. 

It could make sense for this to work when the love in question isn't romantic love.

Such things as agape and phila enabling the good guys to work together whilst the bad guys find themselves obstructing each other or abandoned by their minions.

On 06/04/2016 at 9:03 PM, Simowl said:

Anyone else listen to a song and think "Aw this is really sweet, I'm gonna send this to my friend!" then look at lyrics more closely and "oh they mean love in a romantic way, nevermind"

My first though was this song.

On 03/04/2016 at 2:49 PM, pengu said:

I had that moment when I once discussed love with my friends. In contrast to them, I'm very cynical when it comes to love, and said that romantic attraction only last for a maximum of three years- and if you haven't established other forms of bonds with that person your relationship is likely to fall apart. My alloromantic friends didn't agree with me of course and one of them said "No, not true, my boyfriend and I are still going strong even after two/three years! Just wait until you fall in love!"

How very arrogant of your alloromantic friends to assume that the way things work for them would work for you.
If you are aromantic you'd, obviously, need to have "other forms of bonds" in place from the start. It's not like you can use romantic attraction as a form of "scaffolding".

On 03/04/2016 at 4:22 PM, Vega said:

Every time I see a cheesy, cliche, or badly written love story in movies and am torn between constant facepalming and trying not to fall asleep. And then some of my alloromantic friends keep going on about how cute the story is and I am just so confused sometimes.

Or they end up confused by you treating it as a ludicrous comedy.

On 11/04/2016 at 9:25 PM, Spud said:

• You're too young to know that! Give yourself some time (or) Just wait until college/some other arbitrary threshold. You'll definitely start to feel something by (insert arbitrary point when you are considered "mature")!

Possibly you could get "OK, you were right all along!" as an epitaph.

So you don't want (a) relationship or "emotional connection" with anyone.
But everyone wants that...

 

8 hours ago, Cassiopeia said:

I'm soo glad to see the older generations slowly arriving to this forum. I love seeing aros over 25, with most of their friends married, but still having a great time, enjoying their life.

Actually I appear to have spent a fair part of my life feeling like a square peg wondering why I don't fit with social expectations.

Anyone care to guess my age, BTW?

Attempted to try monogamy, even though it wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Was just completely weird.

On 13/04/2016 at 1:51 AM, AroArtisan said:

YMBAI you watch that Match.com commercial (i see it on Hulu) where the guy says to the random lady on the street, (paraphrased),   "What if I were to offer you a dating service that has people on it that exactly fits your dating criteria?"

And.....you can't even process that.  Wat??  Where do i even start?  How do you even?

Or you think "That sounds great. But your service would need some radical changes first. Like non assuming that everyone wants hetero-monogamy."

On 09/04/2016 at 6:03 AM, DannyFenton123 said:

YMBAI you found kiss scenes in the middle of action completely stupid. Like, why are you kissing right now when zombies are about to kill you?

Without kissing having a zombie disabling or confusing effect. Thus making sense in terms of plot.

On 08/04/2016 at 4:09 PM, breaddd said:

YMBAI you never understood the point of marriage. (Seriously, why would you stay with the same person your whole life and then make it harder and more expensive to get out of the relationship if things go bad?)

As well as living with them, entangling personal finances, doing just about everything with them, etc... Seriously WTF!

On 09/04/2016 at 3:10 AM, 46odnetnin said:

YMBAI you wanted a relationship, but when you started trying it just felt wrong and boring to you

Or you wanted relationship(s) but "not like that".

On 04/04/2016 at 2:17 PM, nina said:

I assumed that my inability to prioritize my romantic partner over my friends, and also the lack of certain feelings usually associated with romance (especially jealousy), simply meant that I was polyamorous - I've loved more than one person at the same time without being able to make a distinction between different types of love/connection (i.e. friendship vs relationship) and also sometimes felt sexually and sensually attracted to a few of them.

Somewhat similar. Though it took me quite a while to find the term "solo poly". Since I find "group poly" and "hierarchical poly" as unappealing as monogamy. Where I had a big difficulty with fitting in with poly was never having wanted anything like being married, nesting relationships or to be "coupled".