Blue Phoenix Ace

1 hour ago, RedNeko said:

Ah, but if you were ace you still might have that problem, not all aces have no sex drive

Yeah but we're perfectly happy taking care of it ourselves, which is pretty hassle free.

I would think being aro-ace is easier than being aro-allosexual.

I think this is going to be a long and informative thread for all of us.

First let me preface by saying that although I administer this site, my opinion holds no more value than anyone else's here. I'm just another fish in the same pond.

It may seem foolish, but perhaps we can all ask our romantic friends to describe what romantic attraction means to them. I may even go on Facebook and make a total fool of myself, but it might help a lot.

Even still, the question of what romantic attraction is has so many books written about it, and they probably all have their own unique definition. Will we really come up with a better solution, one that we all agree on here?

Something else to consider, do we really need to define romantic attraction? Can we go about this another way? Maybe it would be better to compile a list of 20 or so "you might be aromantic if..." bullet points. That still leaves the conundrum of dividing aro from greyro. I really don't want it to be some checklist that you have to tick all the boxes to be aro. But the bullet points might help a reader think through things in their own mind. If they've honestly never felt a crush then they are aro, but if they think they have, then they are grey. I'm not really sure.

It can also be confusing to define other greyro spectrum terms like Lithro-. Can you be sure you are repulsed by romance, or have you just confused other feeling for romance but you've never felt real romance (so you're aro then right... I guess)?

Hello world! Looks like the source editor is kinda working if you wanna try that out...

Ugh this is bad the reply stays open now...

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Sorry it's getting late so not sure how to make this work without leaving stray HTML codes in the reply field by default.

OK, I just added the unformat button, looks like a T next to the underline, and for some reason font got lost so I just readded that too.

Not sure about BBCode or the like. I think I have to install an advanced toolbar somewhere. I can go look for one.

Born and raised Catholic. Now a recovering Catholic.

I'm pretty sure the Bible mentions singlehood being a blessing in several places. The problem most people would have is if you got into a platonic relationship, somewhere between singlehood and marriage. To not get married might be considered "sinful" as they assume what you are doing in your bedroom (when you aren't if you are ace, and isn't really harmful anyway).

As for being a "special snowflake", people are just using that as an insult. You are bearing this important facet of yourself to be truthful and honest, and they throw that snowflake crap back in your face. You've got a few crappy options, according to these folk:

• Live a miserable life to conform to other people's expectations
• Lie about yourself to appear to conform to their expectations, which is miserable
• Tell the truth and be labelled an attention seeking "special snowflake"

So see, no matter what you do here, you can't win. In my opinion, it's better to tell the truth if you feel like doing so. Those people can't be won over anyway, better to lead the life the way you want to and be open about it.

5 hours ago, Starry Sky said:

Maybe it only shows to me but my notifications seem to be showing up on my profile... It shows a long list of posts that other people liked. Is there a way to be able to turn that off? It makes it look cluttered. It's not a problem if it can't be though : )

If you click on the notification bell, then click on notification settings, you can tailor them to suit your needs.

Fearing loneliness is very natural. I have experienced my friends running off to get married many many times now. Fortunately, none of them have completely forgotten about me. They may spend less time with me, but it's not zero time. I've had a great time acting as the honorary uncle to their children too. I'm trying to make more friends, but it is difficult as I get older. I have met some great people through AVEN, so that has been a positive experience as well.

All I can say is, yes it certainly does suck to see all your friends get married. They seem to have this special bond with someone, but it's not an arrangement that would probably ever work for an aromantic. You aren't anybody's NUMBER ONE, but then again deep down, would you really want to be? I find that kind of obsessive attention a bit icky.

I had a girlfriend for a few months once but I couldn't seem to reciprocate her feelings. I started to feel lack of freedom, and stifled. So, I broke it off. I met her on Match.com since I had never felt strongly about asking anybody out in person. My reason for doing it was because everybody else does it, and I figured it must be nice. But my experience taught me that I really didn't want it after all. I kept trying to date for many years after that, not ever accepting that it was simply OK to just be single. Fortunately, I figured all this out about aromanticism and now I'm at peace with it.

I've got IPS support looking into the search bar. I have a temporary ally Overlord I just noticed.

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Quote added to toolbar. Done!

26 minutes ago, DeMorgan said:

 

Fine, but there are some serious UI problems. If you tile the page on one side of your screen (in Chrome, anyway), the "create" button disappears.

Why do you need the create button? There's a "start new topic" and "reply to this topic" button at the top. I'm not saying you're wrong, just trying to figure out what the use case is.

26 minutes ago, DeMorgan said:

Similarly, the "unread content" button only exists while the page is tiled.

You can see "unread content" in full screen as well. It's right under the search area.

26 minutes ago, DeMorgan said:

 

The "Like this" buttons jump to the left of the posts above the "quote" button, which increases the length of the page by one line per post. Over 20 posts, that's 20 lines that could have been text making scrolling take longer and adding more whitespace.

Fixed! But I had to do some hacky CSS stuff, and it might break something else. So I'll have to keep an eye on it.

10 hours ago, DannyFenton123 said:

Ice cream emoji? C>

Done! Find it under the food aisle of your emoticon dialog! 

3 hours ago, Robin said:

Can we hide member profiles from the public for safety an privacy?

I could, but that would defeat the purpose of filling the information out. If you wish to keep it private, simply leave it blank. None of the fields are required. (If you are referring to a setting where each member can alter the privacy of their profile, then that makes more sense, but I can't seem to find such a setting.)

Outstanding issues are:

- Advanced search goes to page not found, I have contacted tech support about this

- Arocalypse logo, being solved in another thread (thread is pinned and deadline set for April 10th, resolved)

- Font in upper right is hideous, site aesthetics not so good. This is more of a "philosophical" problem as we say in the programming world. There's no clear solution in other words. One person may think the site is hideous and others think it looks good. I realize some of our users may have various types of color blindness and this can certainly make some colors look much worse to them.

We do have a "solution" for this. At the bottom of the screen you can click on Themes and try out another theme. Let me know if neither the default Green theme, nor the Default theme work for you and we can try to figure something out.

I do plan on gathering some opinions on the colors, fonts, etc in the upcoming weeks. I am open to specific suggestions as well. Thanks!

52 minutes ago, Robin said:

Profile fields displayed next to posts under the avatar

Done!

35 minutes ago, Robin said:

Profile fields displayed next to posts under the avatar

A link to the Arocalypse homepage in the menu bar

Logo

- Would be nice, can't seem to find the option but will keep looking

- Will take care of this when we get a logo/banner image and can attach a link to it

24 minutes ago, Robin said:

Status updates on index page

remove time limit for editing posts

- Done!

- Done!

28 minutes ago, DannyFenton123 said:

Ice cream emoji? C>

- Will add soon

21 minutes ago, Spud said:

Remove like limit

-Done!

18 minutes ago, DeMorgan said:

You should change the icon that goes with the site's name in the browser tab to something more aesthetically appealing (i.e. not square). See AVEN for an example. I'd suggest something like this, which is already an accepted symbol among the aromantic community.

- Will do this when we have a logo (your link looks like an Ace icon by the way...)

17 minutes ago, DeMorgan said:

 

Speaking of which, you should like my posts. Ah, you need more fonts! I exclusively use Lucida Sans Unicode on AVEN, so you should include that.

- Done! (I think)

Yep, there's the font you are looking for.

Similar to the other responders here too. I feel that I am razor thin close to being aro. I have had one crush in my life, but no real desire to turn it into a full relationship.

So, technically this would mean I am not aro, but so close that I feel comfortable using the label anyway. I hope claiming that doesn't offend any aros out there.