So not that long ago I started being in a qpr with my best friend of nearly a year, i love them so much and I’m determined to convince them they deserve love (their previous partners have been….. really really awful and repeatedly told them otherwise.)
So my partner (I’ll call them M) is aroace, and M has been with some very “I’ll fix you” type people before. And has been pressured into sex by every previous partner.
im aro, but not ace. And as much as I hate myself for it, I do feel sexual attraction towards them and get horny a lot. (I want to clearify I would NEVER pressure them into anything and I can’t genuinely imagine myself doing anything that would make them uncomfortable)
M and I both feel communication is important, and they often say they want me to say if something is bothering me. But I don’t feel like I could ever bring this up with them, and I feel so much guilt about it even if sexual attraction and hornyness isn’t just something I can turn off.
im not sure what to do, but advice would be great. I’m still new to relationships in general and I care so much about my partner and want them to feel happy.
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So not that long ago I started being in a qpr with my best friend of nearly a year, i love them so much and I’m determined to convince them they deserve love (their previous partners have been….. really really awful and repeatedly told them otherwise.)
So my partner (I’ll call them M) is aroace, and M has been with some very “I’ll fix you” type people before. And has been pressured into sex by every previous partner.
im aro, but not ace. And as much as I hate myself for it, I do feel sexual attraction towards them and get horny a lot. (I want to clearify I would NEVER pressure them into anything and I can’t genuinely imagine myself doing anything that would make them uncomfortable)
M and I both feel communication is important, and they often say they want me to say if something is bothering me. But I don’t feel like I could ever bring this up with them, and I feel so much guilt about it even if sexual attraction and hornyness isn’t just something I can turn off.
im not sure what to do, but advice would be great. I’m still new to relationships in general and I care so much about my partner and want them to feel happy.
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