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Elizabeth

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Hi people,  I'm new and I was hopeing someone could help me understand where I am on the aromantic-spectrum. I've never had a crush on anyone and all of my friends have had at least one boyfriend/girlfriend, so I started to look into it and I do not fully understand it yet but that I know I fall somewhere on the spectrum. I completly miss when guys flirt and when people talk about if someone is cute I've never really known and just go along with it. I used to force myself to have crushes when I was little and just made myself uncomforible. 

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Welcome! I'm not the best at advice, but I just wanted to say hi, and I'm glad you're here and starting to figure yourself out. It can definitely feel daunting trying to find a label that fits, especially when your friends are all dating people, so I hope being on this forum can help :)

On 4/7/2021 at 11:07 PM, Elizabeth said:

I completly miss when guys flirt and when people talk about if someone is cute I've never really known and just go along with it. I used to force myself to have crushes when I was little and just made myself uncomforible. 

Yes! Same. I think a lot of aros can probably relate to this.

Anyway, welcome, and best of luck!

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Hello there mate ^^ welcome and if you want to find a definitive label, then the best thing is to see what experiences you find you share with other people. From what you said, it is a common experience for aro through the spectrum. Going by definition, if you see someone and do not feel mushy feelings toward that person never or super super rarely then you may be aromantic. If you develop romantic feelings after you bond with someone in particular you may be demiromantic. It is a case by case and the one that has the final say is you. here if you want to read and familiarize yourself with identity terms and terminology. Hope it helps and you can always make posts so we can help you ^^

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