So, I know the whole "I don't know if I'm Aro" question has been asked in this part of the forum many times over but I'm just really confused and I don't know what to do, so I'm going to ask anyway and hope that somebody will be able to give me a piece of advice.
I'm a 19 year old girl who has never felt romantic love for anyone. I have been in a long-term relationship once but it was more of a "I was overwhelmed so I said yes and I didn't want to break his heart afterwards" situation, I never had feelings for the guy. I don't have any problems with other people talking about relationships with me, as long as they don't ramble on and on about them, but I am absolutely terrified of the thought that somebody I know could develop a crush on me. So much so that when I suspect any of my friends having feelings for me I immediately distance myself from them and only really doing anything with them during group activities with multiple of my friends. I never really have had a crush on somebody either.
Up until this point everything seems to point to me being aro, but I here comes the point where my problem lies. I fantasize a lot about romance. I dream about me and a faceless partner doing all of those great couple things together and reaching milestones in the relationship. All of this is always in a very idealized and theatrical fashion and tends to be overly dramatic.
However I never dream about the romantic feelings themselves but only about the actions (like dates, proposals of weddings).
Now I don't know if that is just my creativity running wild or if I just haven't found the right person yet.
Does anyone know anything that could help me with my confusion?
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So, I know the whole "I don't know if I'm Aro" question has been asked in this part of the forum many times over but I'm just really confused and I don't know what to do, so I'm going to ask anyway and hope that somebody will be able to give me a piece of advice.
I'm a 19 year old girl who has never felt romantic love for anyone. I have been in a long-term relationship once but it was more of a "I was overwhelmed so I said yes and I didn't want to break his heart afterwards" situation, I never had feelings for the guy. I don't have any problems with other people talking about relationships with me, as long as they don't ramble on and on about them, but I am absolutely terrified of the thought that somebody I know could develop a crush on me. So much so that when I suspect any of my friends having feelings for me I immediately distance myself from them and only really doing anything with them during group activities with multiple of my friends. I never really have had a crush on somebody either.
Up until this point everything seems to point to me being aro, but I here comes the point where my problem lies. I fantasize a lot about romance. I dream about me and a faceless partner doing all of those great couple things together and reaching milestones in the relationship. All of this is always in a very idealized and theatrical fashion and tends to be overly dramatic.
However I never dream about the romantic feelings themselves but only about the actions (like dates, proposals of weddings).
Now I don't know if that is just my creativity running wild or if I just haven't found the right person yet.
Does anyone know anything that could help me with my confusion?
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