maisyy1212 Posted March 12, 2018 Share Posted March 12, 2018 So me and my boyfriend were what I thought going strong for a year. He came out asexual to me and even though I said that we never have to have sex again, he said he just didn't feel like being in a relationship with me or with anyone. So maybe he is also aromantic? Through out the relationship he was always the one to initiate everything, wether it of been talking about the future or doing anything sexual. He always pushed for pictures, always validated his love for me when I was down, and even needed his fare share of validation from me. I truly thought he loved every aspect of our relationship, I didn't realize any underlying things going on. He was always pushy about doing sexual things and talking about them. I often found I was uncomfortable and just didn't like talking about it. I even snapped at him once, because at one point I really felt like he only wanted me sexually. He one time even questioned if I was sexually attracted to him, which I told him I was, but he thought I didn't find him attractive enough. I always felt loved equally as much as I loved him. When we finally had sex for the first time is when he apparently realized something was off. He once told me my opinion on sex is wrong and that sex with someone you love is supposed to be so amazing. He never said anything felt weird at the time. He's even had sex with people before me. He said he didn't enjoy porn and stuff of that nature. We had sex so many times and he would always beg for us to do it, and it hurts me to know he put himself in an uncomfortable situation. When I first asked if he ever loved me he said that it just wasn't as strong but later changed it to he felt it tapering off a couple months ago. I really don't mind never having sex again as long as I can have him back. I really don't know how to cope and I also don't know if he ever really loved me more than a friend. I think of all the things we planned together and I'm just so confused as to why he would ever say that if he was neither sexually or romantically attracted. I'm willing to give him time and space to figure stuff out but I just need a little hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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