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I just like the poem by Percy Byyshe Shelley and though it would be a good name ehehe. sometimes I just go by oz or ozzy on other platforms

Oh, I fell into that rabbit hole of the quizzes so bad. It didn't help me at all, and I also did end up looking more into micro-labels, which also didn't help like you mentioned further down as I felt i didn't fit into those specific "categories". My friend off-handedly mentioned to me (i honestly don't know how this conversation started) "Oh, you sound like you are aromantic!" and I had no clue what that meant, or why I seemed like that just from interactions. and then I looked into it, and went in a spiral. And now I am here. I actually considered using those labels, but then I felt I didn't even "qualify" to be arospec, so I just stopped even thinking it. thank you for reminding me that more general labels exist! Most of <<this>> is probably because of a dislike for labels, but this puts the options of being a little more general and vague about it, which I definitely am. Thank you, truly, for your responses! They really helped me put a bit of perspective on it. you don't even know how much relief I felt when someone could relate to my experiences. I do think I got in my own head a bit (it was late when I wrote that lol) and need to just stop overthinking it. Because really, it isn't that deep. But it is so useful to hear someone else's experiences on something I thought I had alone. Thanks for taking the time out of your day (or night) to reply to this! I won't hesitate to ask more questions if needed.

Thank you, this makes a lot of sense! this whole topic probably isn't as deep as seemed as I wrote it at late last night. Everything I wrote is true, but thank you for the reality check.

hi there! :)))

This is my first time writing on here, and I genuinely need advice. I have had some perhaps unique experiences, and are wondering if anyone relates. Sorry for the paragraph in advance, just needed to put it into words. Please, read to the end. Is it normal for an aromantic to "obsess" over romance? Like thinking about it constantly, watching for warning signs in people and always watching motives, liking occasional romantic stuff, ect? This is all very funny because me myself don't feel that way about people very often, so it seems like a paradox. There is this constant sinking feeling in my chest and I believe it is being caused by that. For some reason, in the fall I always become a little more uncertain about myself, which is odd (maybe because of hoco and lots of stress on romance). I really would like to believe I am aromantic, but I am young and don't want to shut out the possibility of the other, even though I am perpetually terrified of relationships in real life. I like romance, but the thought of it being in my real life and letting myself get to that point terrifies me. It seems as though there are two people inside of me, one romance favorable and the other scared. Maybe I am just shutting down emotions, even though none have been for a real person in a while. Which is amusing because even though I can imagine myself with "them" (it literally can be anyone), it is never "me". It is just a story, a work of fiction. I don't know how to explain it in the most tactful way, it just feels wrong. I have had problems with trusting people, so maybe what I am craving is just a person I can trust with anything. I feel like a fraud, truly. I probably am having trouble differentiating between romantic and platonic attraction. In all honesty, I don't think I could, my idea of romance has been twisted to the point of unrecognition. I don't really know what romantic attraction really feels like anymore. Sometimes I wish I could live as a blind allo living in blissful ignorance, with no knowledge of anything of the sort, and just feel. Oh well. Can't go back now. This all probably seems very melodramatic, but I am just trying to be as logical and pragmatic as I can in this situation. The real reason I am writing this down is because I haven't in truth seen many other aros have this problem before and am wondering if any others have experienced this before. Some say the definition of aromantic is to either not feel romantic attraction, or have a unique experience with romance/romantic attraction, but a lot of what I have seen on this site is the first. I am probably some mixture of the two. All i know is that something isn't right, and I have become desperate enough for an identity to ask random strangers on the internet. I really would appreciate some advice, anything. Just if you relate to the experiences, I don't even care. I feel very alone. I really hate the thought of me being an allo in denial, but if that is the way it should be, that is the way it is. To be quite honest I am terrified of romance in my real life, and I think that thought would finally send me a little further off the edge. To be even more honest, I don't have a solid "point" to this entire writing, but it feels good to somehow put it into words. I know I am signing myself up for disappointment by even asking about something as convoluted as this in the first place, but I am past that point of caring now (i definitely still care dont fall for that). I think I am aro, in some way or another, but I don't know how comfortable I would be using that outside of my own head. Sorry for the vent, genuinely thanks for taking the time to read this. It means a lot to me, although I am pretty scared to see what people think of this whole writing. signing off, ozymandias

Idk man, the internet is wild when it comes to Miguel. I honestly didn't know what to expect, so it's probably just me being overly cautious, even on an aro forum :)

I know I am gonna get so much hate for this, but for some reason I hc Miguel o Hara as aroace. I don't know, he just gives off that vibe-