HelloThere

2 minutes ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

It is a saying that I don't see a lot anywhere and that stuck with me because of how it isn't said that much.

Yeah tbh I’d rather not share a bed with anyone much less the actual thing. I mean a high libido definitely messes with surety but almost all the time I’m generally on the NO side for that, nor have I felt that urge for any person irl.

On 6/2/2023 at 2:39 PM, HelloThere said:

I got the most gender nonspecific stuff possible. I always wear a t-shirt, a hoodie, and shorts. Literally the most gendervoid clothes o can think of. XD

I don’t even wear it because I’m agender, I just hate uncomfortable clothes and most stereotypical guy clothes are just uncomfortable.

Just now, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

Don't know if you ever heard the saying of someone knowing the outline or body of their partner, but I just stating that I would only want my bed to "remember" that lol

Ooooh. That makes a lot more sense now. Yeah the saying is definitely foreign to me, I’ve never heard it. XD

Just now, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

Had an aro moment where I thought to myself, "The only thing that I want to romantically remember the outline of my body, is my bed."

I’m not entirely sure what that means…

On 7/1/2023 at 6:30 PM, cabbij said:

having "crushes" on everyone

And then it just turns out to be aesthetic and platonic attraction. 

6 minutes ago, Zariah said:

😂 They're all hypocrites.

Seriously if I was ever in a relationship and my partner cheated I’d be like “…ok, new friends no biggy” .

8 minutes ago, Zariah said:

Eh, probably. Tbh, they sometimes seem like the insane ones. 

 

Yessss! It really is stupid. They're allowed to like each other. But staying alive and saving everyone takes priority over confessing their feelings. 

Oh my gosh yes. They talk about how not liking people that way is childish and then I see them go into some sort of depressive state when their partner looks at someone of the opposite gender for .5 seconds more than they’d like. XD

9 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

If that ever happened to me, a billion alarms would instantly start ringing in my head, and my brain would be the equivalent to this.

I take it easier but if it’s irl it’s gonna be bad. I legit had a meltdown before but I think that I’d survive that. I mean I’d come off disrespectful possibly but I’d survive.

36 minutes ago, Zariah said:

Getting mad a characters in books when they don't let the bad guy kill the love interest so they can save the kingdom. 

They need to use common sense!! Kingdom > love interest. 

Or when they randomly kiss in the middle of a fight. Like that one scene in pirates of the Caribbean where they marry as they’re literally fighting two large groups at once. It’s stupid, they both know they’ll live.

1 minute ago, Zariah said:

That is an amazing list. I'll definitely keep it around. :D

It’s been insanely useful.

Just now, aRowanAce said:

Impostor Syndrome hits HARD 

Oh my gosh yes. I think because I can be aesthetically attracted to people that it’ll inevitably get super attracted. It’s insane, everytime I see someone attractive I wonder if it a fraud. XD

34 minutes ago, aRowanAce said:

You haven’t met the right person

You just need to mature

You should try harder

You just have too high standards 

and my ALL TIME FAVORITE is I could fix that

shut up and rejecting you is not homophobic or ableist random guy online

It’ll change as you grow.

That sounds lonely.

You need to marry to go to heaven.

So you just have no emotions?

Its just a phase.

You’ll inevitably feel lonely without a partner.

How do you know for sure?

Well you were ALL OVER this person a really long time ago. 😒(for all they know that was platonic and I was just 8 years old, I remember no emotional connection besides friendship to people)

So you can’t get turned on?

So you don’t find people pretty? (Of course I do, I just don’t feel some magnetic pull towards people, I just have some emotional response I can’t pin down. Though I know it’s not romantic. And finding people pretty isn’t a requirement)

You’re just scared of love.

You’re just a closeted gay.

You’ll be depressed if you don’t date.

YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. (BULL SHIT)

Someday you’ll meet someone.

I can’t wait until you like girls, you’ll change and we’ll forgive you. (Challenge accepted turd snorters, I’ll bet you my whole college account if I have to)

You want to live alone? (Just with friends, and really I’d live with a dog or two as well, that’ll definitely make me happy)

You just feel bad about people not liking you. (I prefer it that way. XD)

You just want to be LGBTQ+. (I hate this possible response with a burning passion. I’ve spent months wondering if I’m a fraud, if I actually experience anything at all, if I’m even remotely aromantic at all. Everything seems to align, I could not be more comfortable in this label, and anyone that tells me otherwise can go shove it.)

I remember not feeling the need to, I grew out of that. (At what age?! I’m nearly 16 and had 0 crushes. That’s a hell of a sign.)

You’re incapable of loving people. 
You’re just a late bloomer. (Ohohohoh, you don’t want to pull that card. I was one of the first people in my school to go through puberty, nothing changed emotionally, it’s been exactly the same, and I doubt that the emotional part is late at 15.)

Your H E A R T L E S S. (You little child, I nearly cried after listening to the soundtrack of the owl house. I’m very emotional about topics that make me happy. People just exist, as friends they’re the best, as partners they aren’t that great in my opinion)

You just want attention. (I want to know who I am, and be sure of my life. I want to live my own truth, and be able to actually, FINALLY focus on my interests and dreams. I don’t give a crap if people know I exist, I mean it’s always nice to talk to others but that’s not what I’m looking for.)

It’s a trend. (If I wanted to follow trends I’d be wearing crocs and making every horrible joke in the book)

You have a skill my friend. (This is one of the more okay responses but that still feels incredibly uncomfortable, as if it’s hard for me not to want to date)

I’m worried about literally all of these being said at some point, especially by parents for some.

Oh my gosh I want both of those things so bad!!!!

35 minutes ago, aRowanAce said:

I like the chiller vibe here than a lot of social media.

You say that as if the grimace isn’t right above your message.

42 minutes ago, aRowanAce said:

That is just weird. Machines I don’t like but get. Animals that is just where does that come from

I mean seriously, animals don’t have to all have sex. 

Just now, SwiftySpeedy said:

Just asked and I'm probably gonna print mine.

Sounds cool! :D

1 minute ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

My mom has a 3D printer she allows me to use so I've been thinking about printing myself one.

That’s the coolest possible way to get an aro ring. :D

52 minutes ago, DeltaAro said:

I Want to Eat Your Pancreas (2018)

This isn't a horror movie, but an anime about a terminally ill teenage girl and her relationship with some weird introverted loner boy.

The idea, I guess, was to subvert the teen romance genre, which would've been nice. But it totally fails. "Introverted loner boy" turns out to be rather creepy, so all suspicions others have were justified. Also, we learn that platonic relationships don't work.

Long explanation with spoilers here.

How the actual frick does that get funding to be a show?

6 minutes ago, Kira- said:

Only having “crushes” on my closest friends

Yeah the closest friends I had were also the only real candidates for crushes. 

And an owl house fan as well. Welcome aboard! 

13 minutes ago, Keith said:

I'm unfortunately addicted to social media. I use Instagram, Messenger/Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and Reddit on a daily basis (😒😒), which probably isn't the best for my mental health.

I’m addicted to YouTube, arocalypse, trevorspace, and random bull crap online. 

4 minutes ago, aRowanAce said:

My parents thought it was hilarious that when any sort of kissing scene came on. I always and will always look away.

Most of my childhood is loaded with me just being sick of those long romantic scenes. The shorter stuff I could live with but I couldn’t help but either not care or feel a twinge of disgust.

3 hours ago, HelloThere said:

The worst assumption that people can make is absolute, binary assumptions about certain groups. Like that all republicans stand against abortion or that all democrats support LGBTQ+ rights. It’s just more prevalent, not constant. It’s an issue that I’m still trying to stop inside myself in some ways. There’s always grey area in things, and that just makes it all the more diverse and beautiful for it.

Sorta how they always call things “normal” or “abnormal”, nothing is “normal” it’s just common or uncommon. Nothing is even normal about humanity either. We’re a species of two legged, weak skinned, no clawed, and weak primates with no actual weapons besides ingenuity and dexterity. We’re not “normal” especially after being the species with the capability to, at any point, just completely obliterate the earth and almost every species on it.

Can you add a “same!” emoji to the reactions? I’m honestly amazed how often I’d use that, I’ve just said that like 40 times and I think itd be a cool emoji to add.

46 minutes ago, Collie said:

Most places I frequent seem pretty accepting of the fact that most people don't live in absolutes and also acknowledge the grey area, but I'm not surprised that there are areas that do not.

The worst assumption that people can make is absolute, binary assumptions about certain groups. Like that all republicans stand against abortion or that all democrats support LGBTQ+ rights. It’s just more prevalent, not constant. It’s an issue that I’m still trying to stop inside myself in some ways. There’s always grey area in things, and that just makes it all the more diverse and beautiful for it.