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On 4/28/2023 at 3:37 PM, Cal said:

I'm tired of going to school and people making Jew jokes about me 

You're not funny or clever stfu

You have no idea how annoying it can be to see people say stupid bull crap about others race or religion and no one else blinks an eye. It frustrates me to levels unknown and I’m only the kid that sees it happen, I mean I tell them to shut up but it never does anything so I can’t imagine what that person is going through.

On 4/15/2023 at 7:24 AM, Cal said:

In my opinion going to prom with a date feels way more embarrassing idk why

Anyways I'm sorry about your mom :(( 

Yeah I can kinda see how, because now you have to make sure that that date is ok and then people are going to ask. Tbh I may only be a freshman but believe me prom sounds absolutely horrible to me in the first place. XD

On 4/15/2023 at 4:01 AM, Keith said:

I just talked with my mom about romantic relationships... 😨

She asked me who am I planning to go to prom with, so I told her I'm not sure yet, because my prom is in 3 years (😨), but I wouldn't mind going with my friends. I don't know why, but it made her genuinely so mad. She screamed at me and told me that going to prom without a date is the most humiliating experience that a highschooler can experience (which in my opinion, is the most untrue statement ever). After that she asked how come have I never been in a relationship (for the record - I've had a girlfriend once, before I realized that I'm aro, but I never told my parents about it because I was afraid they wouldn't accept me). I answered, that boys in my surrounding aren't exactly boyfriend materials and I don't want to force myself to date, or to like any of them. She didn't like my answer. In her opinion getting a boyfriend in highschool is an absolute must. I tried explaining to her, that even if it is a must for some people it's not a must for me, but she cut me off and didn't let me finish.

I just don't understand why she can't accept the fact that I simply don't want to date. That it's not my priority. And even if hypothetically it'll change in the future, she can't force me to change now.

Let me be honest, judging by the context you’re around 15 right? I’m a freshman at 15 years old and I’m pretty sure Im aro. How did you know you were?

So here's my experience, I'm 15 and have never once had a crush or a gf. I honestly don't care to do so, I just don't see the point because I know that I'd probably be happy but I don't really care that much. Whenever someone's asked me who my crush was I'd just say that it was one of my friends because hey that sounds right to me I guess! I've never really liked kissing in movies specifically or whole episodes of shows devoted to ones relationship, I didn't find it disgusting (kissing was though) I just wanted to get to the actual action of the story. All my life I've been in love with the idea of just living with my friends sorta roommate style and not marrying because all I need is a nice friendgroup! I've never really noticed others having crushes or being in a relationship unless it was so extremely obvious that it couldn't be ignored.

Throughout middle school I never noticed kids get into relationships at all because I was just busy doing my own thing talking with my friends and just being myself. I never realized that the thought of not marrying was considered abnormal because I just thought that meant that you'd just be single and happy. Flirting has always sounded like some really dumb concept to me, I just don't get why someone wouldn't just outright confess their feelings because all logical sense says that it'd be easier if you don't flirt. I don't get grossed out by physical contact but it's still uncomfortable outside of family. I guess that my whole life I never valued romance at all, like if I was offered 100k to never marry, I'd do so in a heartbeat.

In the very rare times that some has admitted they had a crush on me I sorta just tried to defuse it as politely as I could because I couldn't ever reciprocate. I mean, I've never even considered anyone as more than a friend in my life but if I ever dated I'd only do so after a LOT of time spent with that person as a friend. In my brain relationships go from some sort of process where it starts as friends, after a LONG time of knowing that person I'd possibly date (that sounds horrible in my head), and then get married if things work out. I mean let me be honest I never understand people that just walk up to some random person and go "Oh hey random stranger I don't even know! You wanna go to a restaurant with me and then kiss even though I could be a total freak and you wouldn't know?!" I just don't freaking get it! XD

The thing is that I've only a couple of times thought I have crushes but every single time I stepped back I realized, I didn't love that person at all. I liked that person as a person, nothing more than that. Every time I thought that it was something more I always realized that I don't want to kiss, hold hands, or anything. I didn't even want to date! I never thought that there was anything wrong with that and I'm glad that I learned what aromanticism is at 15 instead of 30 but dang it, I wish I had waited 2 more years to know, that's when I could at least be so much more sure.

That would be the age that I'd finally be able to put the pieces together and actually be sure enough to come out instead of having some twisted tsunami of mental exploration that makes intrusive thoughts and random questions that make me doubt everything I know. I've spent only a couple of weeks questioning, no OBSESSING over this because it feels right, but at the same time there's still some part of me in the back of my twisted mind that's thinking "what if you just want to be aro?" That part of my brain is crushing my own suspicions and driving me up the wall. I despise it so much I can't even describe it. I know I'm too young to be sure, I know that I shouldn't obsess, but here I am very likely just having some identity crisis that pointed me towards something that I'm too young to be sure about.

I don't know if this is just me rambling or having a teenage identity crisis but the more I think things through the more it feels right. The more I obsess about something I know full well shouldn't be a concern until the end of high school, the more I'm convinced that I just don't feel anything, at least not yet. And yes, before I get this response, I know that the aro label is not something you have to set in stone, but I can not mentally live with not being sure of myself so I just want to wait until I actually do have it mentally set in stone. I haven't communicated my concerns with anyone other than some close friends but I just want to hear what others think to sort of mentally build up some sort of case that I may or may not be aro. Anyway I'm gonna stop talking before I spend 3 hours on this thing, tell me what you think if you can. :D

On 4/7/2016 at 10:42 PM, hippiesthop said:

Dated someone because you felt like you were supposed to.

I'm like 15 and I'm on the verge of asking a friend of mine out (Yes I'd tell them my concerns) just to see if I feel anything at all. It sounds horrible and manipulative of me to even consider that but I just don't know if this is just me being too young or if my concerns are right. XD

On 4/8/2016 at 1:16 AM, Dodecahedron314 said:

Somebody asks you what a non-platonic relationship would look like and you genuinely have no idea because it's just not something you can really conceptualize. 

This is scary accurate. I know the definitions to both platonic and romantic relationships and the only difference I can conceptualize is that one doesn't have kissing. XD

On 4/8/2016 at 4:12 AM, pengu said:

When the question "What is your type?" really confuses you and you just answer with what you think would make a good friend. 

Whenever I'm asked that question I just say good personality and nice person. The exact same traits that I want in a friend.