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    What made you question(?) if you were aromantic?

    in Aromantic Relationships

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    14 minutes ago, Firebird said:

    Wait, what is the difference between sexual attraction and being sexually aroused by someone?

    Often they describe a slightly different feeling, and it’s almost uncontrollable for plenty of people. Besides, that arousal never really shows up irl for me, and it often has a feeling of desire attached to it. I think it’s partially the actual feeling people describe, and the wanting behind it. Someone would just naturally want to “do the thing” with that person, so if they were repressing, they’d struggle to withhold the wanting. I don’t really “want” anyone, and it’s never actually been about “that thing”. The definition for things is up in the air, but that’s personally how I see it.

    What made you question(?) if you were aromantic?

    in Aromantic Relationships

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    7 hours ago, Firebird said:

    Conversations that went something like:
    "Keep your chin up, I'm sure you'll fine someone"
    "Actually, I'm not looking for anyone"
    confused alloromantic noises

    Or whenever people wonder why I’m not looking for anyone and I’m just like “I’ve got enough friends, so I’m good…” then they just look at me like I’m confused or something. Seriously I don’t see why either romance or sex are really… necessary at all. I mean they sound nice as concepts but I can’t name a single person I’d really want a relationship with as much as just have friends. Like I always used to think “well clearly I’m straight, I can be aroused by the opposite gender.” And then I realize that it’s not actually “attraction” per se.

    Neurodivergent Peoples

    in Intersectionality

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    3 minutes ago, DragonWithAQuest said:

    Yeah. During summer I’m not being given specific tasks. So I get restless.

    My parents try to give me those tasks, but even then it’s hard to follow. It’s incredibly annoying when you try to maintain the order of things and it just falls apart.

    Neurodivergent Peoples

    in Intersectionality

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    5 minutes ago, AstrophelDragon said:

    No I like, really burnt myself out being too perfectionistic about school, and my mental health has just been really baad in general, and so this past year has just been switching between too much time on youtube, or rapidly changing hyperfixations every couple of hours (mostly the former though unfortunately). Even in general though my hyperfixations change too much for me to feel like I ever really accomplish much. The most reliable things I can finish are either reading books or learning new songs on the piano/marimba, and now even those are failing me and I feel kind of broken.

    During school (I'm not even sure if I have adhd I'm just here to see if I can relate at all) I remember somehow being even... more productive? Idk it's hard to describe because I just felt tired and practically insane half of the time, yet by some miracle I kept my grades high. I even managed to get a bit of drawing done, but I never managed to really focus on it during then. During the summer though, my ability to just do... anything kinda drops to 0 all the time. I've gotten like a total of 4 pages done in the past 3 months, and I just keep getting angry at myself for it. That was like, the whole plan for the summer and the moment I try to get it done, I fail miserably no matter how much I like it. It's like there's a mental block in the way.

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    Neurodivergent Peoples

    in Intersectionality

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    14 minutes ago, Rackson said:

    I feel that, my adhd kinda just overides my internal voice sometimes, but it all really depends if I took my antidepressants that day and my adhd meds.

    Like I’m not even sure I do, I just feel that way but I’ve neither been tested nor voiced my concerns.

    Neurodivergent Peoples

    in Intersectionality

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    3 minutes ago, Rackson said:

    Didn't you just say something like that over on the teen corner? Whats up with you?

    Anyone else here have a brain that sorta functions in two modes? Like I’m always just thinking in static, or random “colorful” memories of shows, movies, songs, and ideas just dominate my mind.

    Fashion styles?

    in Off Topic

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    1 hour ago, Rackson said:

    Soooo true, whoever decided that guy clothes should be "rough and tough" has a special place in hell. 

    I have only recently been finding my style, but during the summer Its Hawaiian shirts that I got at goodwill, matching color running shorts, white t-shirt under the Hawaiian shirt, and old running shoes that I should have gotten rid of a long time ago. Maybe I will wear knock off aviators if im feelin cool that day :) 

    During the school year, I don't have much brain power to think about style or fashion, but when I do I usually go as "casual hiker", I wear baggy green outdoor hiking/"tactical" pants with a green matching hoodie or flannel w/ white undershirt. I even have a hiking bag that I use for my school bag (green of course)  One thing I love to do is put carabiners on things that shouldn't have them: hiking pants, backpacks, water bottles, lanyards, car keys, etc.  I think it comes from living in an outdoorsy part of Oregon where that style common.

    Long story short, my style can be boiled down to "Woke up naked in an REI and had to find clothes" or "casual outdoorsy"

    During the winter/fall, I just have more of a “style”. I often just wear a zip-up hoodie, my favorite t-shirt, and sweatpants. Wow… I seriously think that’s a “style”. Though if I managed to add white and black rings, then that’ll feel more complete.

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    Petition to rename the arcade section to Aro-cade

    in Site Comments

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    9 minutes ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

    I swear to God, it's probably going to happen anyway, but I sincerely hope that Trump doesn't get re-elected, that would be a nightmare.

    Or worse, Ron DeSantis gets in. Ron has actively declared his war on “woke”. He’s playing to the furthest right masses, and he’s just so much more extreme than I could’ve imagined.

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    Hi!^^ I'm new here

    in Welcome And Forum Rules

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    32 minutes ago, Rackson said:

    Dnd 5ed, pathfinder, I am looking for a group for monster of the week. 

    You?

     

    Yeah, that is the same exact issue I had with 7cups, and exactly why I stay away from trevorspace. I don't need more issues to worry about. And every time I go on a platform like that I feel like my issue is worthless because people will always have worse issues than me.

    They seem to be more generally understanding, plus there’s more activity so I see few issues. 😁

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    Hi!^^ I'm new here

    in Welcome And Forum Rules

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    2 minutes ago, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

    Nice to meet you. What's Trevorspace?

    Oh it’s amazing (sort of). It’s the larger forum employed by the TrevorProject to give LGBTQ+ people a sort of social media to talk, learn, and just overall discuss things. It’s a very messy place though, the mods are practically useless, there’s some minor pedophilia issues from adults gaming their age, and so many people just feel horrible sometimes, but that’s the reason I’m there in some ways. I wanna jus talk and help them out. Besides it’s fun to meet more aroaces.

    Aro Headcanon time!!

    in Aromantic Pride and Culture

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    On 7/21/2023 at 10:56 AM, HelloThere said:

    You guys, I recently saw moments from the movie Nimona online, and Nimona just seems like a fricking aroace gender-fluid character. There’s no romantic interest in her entire character and she seems more interested in murder and random anarchistic behavior than anything out there. Not to mention a strong obsession with friends over relationships. I sense an aroace, and no one can tell me otherwise. I looked it up, there’s no recorded romantic interest of hers (that I know of). 

    Not to mention that in one scene of the movie she confuses Ballister’s love for Ambrosius as him having a nemesis. That’s gotta be a fricking huge sign.

    My experience with aromance and aromantic relationships.

    in Aromantic Relationships

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    I can’t say that I had the exact same experiences, it was more of not thinking about romance, but when I did I drastically misunderstood it. Like I thought that because I was staring at someone a bit (aesthetic attraction) that it was automatically a crush, and I remember no emotion behind it or obsession. I never thought about it, I never cared, and at most I had one legitimate crush, and it was a LONG time ago, not to mention all of those feelings just disappeared after a while. That possibility of one legitimate crush took me until July to remember. I learned I was aroace in April. 

    Strangely enough I don’t remember anyone in my childhood having any relationships, I was probably just ignorant but dang did seeing how much allos care about romance open my eyes. 😅

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