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33 minutes ago, H_K said:

KPOP MENTIONEDDD 👹

 

SE: Everyone on earth disappears within a year, you are all alone (introvert life goals)

SP: I can adjust the brightness and darkness of any setting and I can choose whether it affects others as well or just me

SE: You don’t get to choose how much, and it switches between a solid binary or blazing brightness or impossible to see. 

SP: I get to cast wishes for myself and others however I mean them to be.

19 minutes ago, smac n cheese said:

heya! so this is a thread for WoF fans to talk about the series, and stuff related to it! (I'm toooooootally not making this bc it's spring break and I desperately need someone to talk to about WoF lol).

who's everyone's favorite character in the series, to get us started?

mine's Sunny, but Qibli and Peril are close :)

Qibli overall had the most entertaining and complex book if you ask me, while I’d say Darkstalker was the most interesting and fun character with a deep lore.  

43 minutes ago, smac n cheese said:

SE: Everyone's an atheist

SP: kpop 

SE: You’re only in charge of the least important sides of K-Pop. Basically everyone hates you for it.

SP: I’ve got telekinesis that I can control via intentional movements and thoughts.

Hey everyone… I’m not entirely too sure what to say. It’s been over a year now, I’ve been so absent, lost some, gained more, an I’m not really feeling like I fully understand these developments either. I guess I’ll just start with the big stuff. I was outed a bit ago, my parents were more than fine with it, though we don’t really talk much about it because, honestly, they’re just glad I’m not gonna be a father before leaving the house. It’s been such a long time, coming back here even for a moment just floods me with nostalgia, and I’m so glad I came here in the first place.
 

I’m not sure who still is and isn’t here, but I hope that, like me, we’ve grown since then. I remember way back in February 26, 2023 (if my memory works right) how I started asking questions, all starting from a simple desire to educate myself on what the whole LGBTQ+ spectrum is, then I found something that sounded like me. I looked around, took an unholy amount of online quizzes, then eventually found this place, a haven to understand myself. And just like most others here, I learned about myself, looking inward and understanding what I felt, or in many cases, couldn’t feel.
 

After awhile, I moved to TrevorSpace, and gained all the more insight and friendship. Alongside that, I got addicted to roleplaying and it helped me discover that I also had ADHD. That roleplaying addiction kinda exacerbated ADHD, leading to some garbage grades last semester, and to a diagnosis. Thankfully, Concerta and a bit of help made things better. I got wide hyperfixations on so many things, both for good and bad, and in just the course of a year, I’ve changed a lot. 

I may not know much about everyone’s lives here, likely for the best, but I do hope that this site, this community, helped us change too. It’s been wonderful here, and I’ve been gone for far too long. I may not be nearly as active, but I miss this place, and I miss these people. From a mere internet rabbit hole, I gained knowledge of myself and a group I can relate to. To me, that’s more valuable than most things that changed last year. I guess what I’m trying to say here is thank you, thank you to those that remember me for helping me so much.

On 9/9/2023 at 6:48 PM, Rackson said:

I have adhd, I got diagnosed in 3rd grade. I have combined type ADHD, and it affects every part of my life. My personal opinion is that everyone has bits of adhd in them, just like everyone has a few ocd type behaviors. And I personally think that people blame ADHD a bit too much, ADHD runs so so much further than being distracted or heightened emotions. It even runs further on a neuro-chemical level as well. I don't have any problem with other people having ADHD, after all its more people like me. But my best opinion after 7 years of people finding out I have adhd and saying to me "Ooooh I think I have ADHD, I super cannot pay attention when my history teacher is talking" is as follows: go get tested, there are psychologists who study this stuff near you. If you are unable to go get a test, then ADHD or not nothing is offical. I don't wanna be rude, but im at the point where I don't know what to blame on ADHD and what else is living in my brain. 

To answer the main point at hand, I personally think that nerodiversity (ugh, I hate that word) and lgbtqia+ correlate. So I wouldn't be surprised to hear a lot of people with ADHD are aromantic, cuz ADHD messes with your brain dude. When you are high on the ADHD spectrum, it really fucks with your thinking and how you act. Idk, maybe im autistic or bipolar, the psychologist is still testing.

 

Holy crap, I-it’s been a bit since I last checked arocalypse. School just rolled back around and I’m just a mess. I’m drowning in homework, and the more there is, the more impossible it is for me to actually do that homework. Every single bit of task paralysis is just taking its course, it took my parents practically staring down my shoulder to get it done and my mind has just been so… elsewhere through all the classes I’ve been in. I can’t tell if I just have a strong addiction or hyperfocus with trevorspace, but it’s just looking unhealthier by the day. I’m legitimately worried and concerned for a lot of my next few months in school; and I just can’t seem to work much without the urge to distract myself, stimulate my mind somehow, any way possible. It’s like all the signs are there and I never noticed them before they were all pointed out. I’m fidgety as heck whenever I’m supposed to sit down at the table, my mind is just focusing on trevorspace roleplays constantly, and I’ve gone to incredible lengths to be able to talk again on there as it’s where a significant portion of my daily dopamine comes from. Even right now I’m supposed to write a talk for church and I accidentally wasted half the time away roleplaying and now I’ve done nothing before my parents get back.

3 hours ago, Keith said:

Prompt: Write a rap about being autistic and aromantic.

ChatGPT:

(Verse 1) Yo, I'm here to spit a rhyme, it's my time to shine, Autistic and aromantic, yeah, that's my design. In a world so fast-paced, where love's the main theme, I'm carving out my path, chasing my own dream.

I see the world through a different lens, that's my view, Sensory overload, but I push through. Autism's my superpower, it makes me unique, I embrace it with pride, let me speak, let me speak.

(Chorus) I'm autistic and aromantic, I'm rewriting the rules, In a world that's obsessed with love, I stay cool. I'm rocking to my rhythm, living life my own way, Autistic and aromantic, watch me slay.

(Verse 2) Aromantic, yeah, I don't need romance in my life, I find my joy in different ways, it's not just strife. I've got deep connections, friendship's the key, Building bonds that last, that's what sets me free.

Autistic and proud, I wear it like a crown, I break down barriers, I won't let them keep me down. My mind's a masterpiece, a colorful maze, In this neurodiverse world, we all find our ways.

(Chorus) I'm autistic and aromantic, I'm rewriting the rules, In a world that's obsessed with love, I stay cool. I'm rocking to my rhythm, living life my own way, Autistic and aromantic, watch me slay.

(Verse 3) I navigate a world that often misunderstands, But I'm standing tall, got the world in my hands. Autistic and aromantic, that's who I am, Breaking stereotypes, like an earthquake, I slam.

I'm the rhythm in the chaos, the calm in the storm, I'm carving out my path, I'm transforming the norm. Autistic and aromantic, hear my voice so loud, In this world of diversity, we all make it proud.

(Chorus) I'm autistic and aromantic, I'm rewriting the rules, In a world that's obsessed with love, I stay cool. I'm rocking to my rhythm, living life my own way, Autistic and aromantic, watch me slay.

(Bridge) This is my anthem, my unique declaration, Autistic and aromantic, I'm a vibrant creation. In a world of many colors, I shine like a star, Embracing who I am, just like you are.

(Outro) So if you're autistic and aromantic too, Know that you're amazing, you're breaking through. We're rewriting the story, creating our own say, Autistic and aromantic, we'll slay all the way!

Holy crap this is actually good.

Well if there’s nothing after death, we’re physically incapable of imagining that since the best we can imagine is darkness eternal, yet you’re still there for that, so that’s not what it is either.

On 8/15/2023 at 7:09 PM, Collie said:

You might be aro if you say you "ship" a pairing but when you see art of them doing romantic things you're like "hmm, don't like that"

Yeah, basically me in a nutshell.

46 minutes ago, Keith said:

Cinematic masterpieces 

Spider-Man Across the Spiderverse

My #1 favorite ways to help tackle doubt is that if you have to ask if you’re faking, you’re DEFINITELY not faking. If you have to ask if you’re doing this to feel special, ask who you “want” to be special towards. Often when I think that I’m doing that to feel special, I ask myself who I even care to talk about that with, and I tend to just want that label for the sake of myself resonating with it. I have a feeling that you’re not the only one who worries, my general suggestion is to just try and keep talking with other aros, experiencing anything to distract, and try to remember that labels are DE-scriptive not PRE-scriptive.

9 hours ago, Keith said:

Oppenheimer 

Barbenheimer

5 hours ago, Keith said:

Greenish 

Nuclear

11 minutes ago, roboticanary said:

"funky barn is not the greatest" 

 another one bites the dust

2 hours ago, DeltaAro said:

Remember... (spoilers)

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Barbie has no physical sexuality. This is canon. She's a doll after all, and she also says this very bluntly to the construction workers.

It's pretty very obvious that she cannot feel sexual attraction. It's just that the label "asexual" doesn't appear. Margot Robbie also said this in an interview.

But later she becomes a real human ... so is she still ace then?

I kinda hope that she is, I wouldn’t be surprised since her personality and most everything else is maintained.

2 hours ago, Zariah said:

Yeah, I picked up on that bit as well. The only thing that confused me about Ken was a line in that song he was singing, near the end of the movie. I forgot the exact line, though - which probably isn't super helpful for this discussion. Maybe he's oriented ace, or something? Like graysexual, or maybe demi. Who knows. 

And yes, it was absolutely amazing to have an aroace character play such a prominent role in a movie. I never thought I'd feel so represented by a Barbie. There's a first time for everything, I guess!

It's always good to see, and I do think that Ken might be demi or something, but overall I'm just glad to see Barbie not need Ken at all in the movie.

11 hours ago, Zariah said:

Alright, I'm going to chime in on this discussion. After seeing the Barbie movie this afternoon, I can one hundred percent day that Barbie is aroace. (Just as a side note, the movie was amazing.)

I'm not sure about Ken, though. He's definitely romantic, but I'm torn on if he's ace or not. There were some times in the movie where he definitely acted ace, but other times where he acted allo. 

Yeah, Barbie seems very intent on not dating and shows no signs of being allo in any way. She's gotta be one of the most aroace characters I've ever seen, and honestly, I really hope that Mattel confirms it or something. Ken is DEFINITELY allo, but seems to be somewhat ace in a lot of ways. He asks barbie if he can stay at her house and she asks "to do what?" Ken literally says "I honestly have no idea." You have no idea how overjoyed I was to hear him and barbie be the most ace couples known to man!

10 hours ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

oh and on the advice to hide it?

I'm gonna avoid that area, try to deny deny deny, and pray that I can keep things on the downlow. I want them to forget the incident, and once I figure things out, I'll hopefully be sure enough to know.

42 minutes ago, AroAcedragon13 said:

I wanna watch heartstopper s2 so bad. i haven't had enough time yet and its killing me. i literally can't look at my yt homepage or my pinterest feed because its literally covered in spoilers. 

Oh boy, it’s like wanting to play a new video game and then YouTube is just begging you to watch content about it. XD

2 minutes ago, SwiftySpeedy said:

Also stop panicking if your parents tell you that "you're too young to be aromantic." There probably not going to say it and even if they do its only like 6 words. And they don't even mean anything since its what you thing matters or blah blah blah generic support poster HAnG in ThEre, Something like that

I’m saying they’ll be dismissive. Panicking lasted a short period of time, and honestly, I truly don’t care if I’m right or wrong, just that I don’t have to have this conversation with them yet.

So yesterday I was messaging on my account on quora, and dad inspected the account while I was awake. He checked my past messages and I had made a lot of messages on LGBTQ+ rights, and one of them used the wording “we” and “us”. Not to mention that the recommended questions on the main screen had “asexual” written on it, so now my dad probably thinks I’m bi or worse, ace (I actually am ace, but I’m not sure yet so I can’t explain this to him without really knowing more). I repeatedly said that “I’m not” when he asked about that (I never had any specifics on that), and now he’s probably already communicated his concerns with my mom as well. If I come out to my dad now, I’m gonna be told I’m too young to be aromantic, and I’m going to be called a liar for saying I’m ace. I can’t do that right now, and I definitely can’t take the worry of this anymore. He likely thinks that I’m bi, and well, he’s accepting, I just really don’t want to even get close to talking about that yet. Is there anything I can do to throw them off my scent? 

6 hours ago, Synthetic Adrenaline said:

'I’m mapping this crap out'

Where did I say that? I’m actually interested…

I headcannon Isabella from Encanto as aroace. She only tries to marry in the movie because it would make the family happy, and pretty much all she wants is her own freedom and not to be forced into outward “perfection” via family pressure. She literally says “I never wanted to marry him! I was doing it for the family!” She also shows no interest afterwards, so I think it’s not unsafe to say.

8 hours ago, NVLL said:

aggressive allies r my fav flavor

Well, if they’re good as well. Some allies can be a little… too much.

Okay, I just watched the Barbie movie. Barbie is just so freaking aroace, and the movie was pretty good, but also just absolutely weird at the same time. She explicitly said she doesn’t love Ken, and shows no interest in romance at all. 

14 minutes ago, Firebird said:

Wait, what is the difference between sexual attraction and being sexually aroused by someone?

Often they describe a slightly different feeling, and it’s almost uncontrollable for plenty of people. Besides, that arousal never really shows up irl for me, and it often has a feeling of desire attached to it. I think it’s partially the actual feeling people describe, and the wanting behind it. Someone would just naturally want to “do the thing” with that person, so if they were repressing, they’d struggle to withhold the wanting. I don’t really “want” anyone, and it’s never actually been about “that thing”. The definition for things is up in the air, but that’s personally how I see it.