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Is water wet?

I feel exposed because I exeperience all of the following-: Found on AVENwiki:

Quoiromantic/WTFromantic experiences may include:

• Being unsure if you experience romantic attraction or not
• Being unable to understand attraction as a concept or feeling
• Finding the concept of attraction to be inaccessible, inapplicable, or nonsensical
• Being unable to pin down a clear understanding of romantic attraction, so being unable to say whether or not you experience it
• Having a difficulty distinguishing romantic attraction from other types of attraction, or being unable to distinguish them at all
• Questioning romanticism for such a long time that the questioning itself becomes the identity, rather than a path toward any other more stable identity
• Struggling with romanticism because it feels too complicated
• Simply not feeling that any other romantic orientation label is applicable

Well then guys, gals, and nonbinary pals, it appears as if I'm WTFromantic.-

Not able to understand the concept of wtf romantic attraction is and if I experience it or not. For the life of me I can't understand romantic attraction, even after having it explained, since there are so many different ways it is defined. Never feeling I fit into other romantic orientations, and the aro/aro-spec community offers a sense of fitting in. Sharing experiences that are common with aro-spec individuals. Genuinely wtf is a romantic attraction and how do I know I exeperience it? I guess Wtfromantic fits me well. ^^"

Now I have to find that book! It really is touching! I'm glad to see something about friendship for once!

How's the book though? Is it good?

Ty!!

This label no longer fits.

Honestly, Idk if what I imagine is a qpr or just strongly platonic or possibly romantic. Probably, just me being oblivious lol. So I'm sticking to Quoiromantic rn. ^^"

What sounds nice is just someone to give me affection, and someone who I care about and who cares about me, who wants to be by each other's sides. I want to live with this person, have a pet with this person, hang around with this person, talk to this person about everything and nothing, having a qpr or close friendship with this person, cook with them, maybe even start a family with them, share a life with them, and a bunch of other lovely things. Nothing romantic.

I want to get married platonically, or maybe even queerplatonically (I hope that I phrased this right). But not romantically, although my mind's eye makes it seem glorious. But I've learned that fantasy only makes things seem more better than they really are.

So what if platonic or queerplatonic marriage or even queerplatonic relationships aren't as good as my mind makes it seem? What if I never want a qpr? I know not everyone wants qpr's and that's okay, but I kind of want one.

I don't want to be kissed ESPECIALLY if the kiss involves tongue, (because hello! Saliva exchange! Probs just mental health there.), and I don't like being kissed. I find it gross.

I just so happen to have not had a crush in a little while. What? Was my last one like, I don't know, months ago??

Besides, who's to say it was a crush? Who's to say any of my crushes were really romantic crushes? For me it's hard to differentiate if my crushes were romantic or queerplatonic because I seem to have a mixture of romantic and platonic elements when it comes to them.

Like I'll want to be around them all the time: just like I want to be around friends or even new exciting people. I want affection: but I always want affection from lots of people not in a romantic way. I'll think of that person a lot: but I sometimes do that with friends, and new exciting people I recently met. My heart raced for those people. I'd have wanted to date them.

Oml. i just realized I might be overthinking this, lol. :'(

Edit: And even in relationships I'm/was in with people I do like, it feels old and like a chore. I just don't want romantic relationships anymore. Just platonic or queerplatonic ones.

Are you ready for Freddy? (if ya know ya know) /ref

The FNAF movie is almost here and I'm excited and sad at the same time.

8 hours ago, Pony5005 said:

I had a crush long ago, but I realized it wasn't actually a crush? Sure, I found them attractive and all but never really had any romantic feelings. They were more like obligations. Nowadays, I don't have any crushes on people even when I think I do. It doesn't feel like a crush??? I just think they're pretty or attractive. Maybe I'm forcing myself to like people because I don't want to learn the fact that I might be aro. I want to love but I can't. But I do things that may be considered romantic, like cuddling and holding hands, I don't see it that way tho.

Another reason why I think I'm aro is when I see real-life couples, it makes me uncomfortable. Even when it comes to my friends. I'm very supportive and really happy for them, but when they get all lovey dovey it makes me uncomfortable. It can sometimes change, but it always made me uncomfy. However, when it's about fictional characters, I don't feel uncomfortable like real-life couples.

Honestly, I can't tell you if you are or not. That's your choice. I'm sorry you had to go through that and still might. I can relate to some level. It sucks. Some advice I have is to just try out the label and see if you feel comfortable and happy! You also don't have to label yourself if you don't want to. Either way you're valid and loved! 

12 hours ago, opal said:

yayy, can I see them?

Sure! One sec!

H3ll0 th3r3! 1 l1k3 y0ur n4m3! ^^

(If you can't read it it's: Hello there! I like your name!)

I have no idea why I need to feel certain textures sometimes and need to say or do certain things, and if I don't I go nuts, and it becomes the only thing I can thing about and focus on, and why I hate specific textures, but all I know is that it sucks. A lot.

Diagnose w/ ADHD, PTSD, dysthymia, and derealization. 

I feel this with my friend group all the time! It's a wonderful type of love isn't it? >w< 

My sketches are actually turning out good and it's making me happy!!! :D 

He is a bastard. Still should talk about it. Want a hug? :)

1 hour ago, dordor said:

hiii, thankss 

khhdfbba i love your pfp, it freaking cute

Hi! Thanks! (If your talking to me, if not sorry)

Hi. And welcome!

Wassup??? >:D

I've noticed things through, even having some pointed out to me, and idk if it's neurodivergency or what it is, but it upsets me. The

• I repetitively say phrases over and over, seeming like I have to, and it feels like it will never end, when I'm anxious or scared or excited. An example is when I'm anxious or scared and I repeat oh god over and over and it feels like I can't stop. Sometimes it is hard to stop, but I manage to.
• I have trouble controlling my emotions. Sometimes it gets so hard that I fail to hold back words. It's like a big explosion. Then again, this is probably normal.
• My emotions used to and may still be able to change rapidly.
• I notice that when I sit and stand, I think I rock back and forth, just barely noticeably, especially when anxious.
• I fail to tell when someone is being sarcastic, and when someone is joking most of the time, though it's gotten just a little bit easier.
• I'm way too serious, and hardly laugh at the jokes I do get, and when I do get them they aren't funny. I don't get them. And I don't laugh at funny things, because I don't see how they are funny.
• I find myself fidgeting sometimes without realizing it.
• I have these weird, gross thoughts.
• I have unwanted thoughts.
• For some reason I hold a pencil with my fingers and read that way, and have in the past, or read with my fingers, and get upset when I can't.
• I hate loud noises.
• I procrastinate.
• I can get distracted easily.
• I have issues communicating my wants, feelings, and boundaries with people in romantic relationships, and this has led to fights and the end of relationships.
• I hate certain textures (though everyone does, right?).
• I get upset when things aren't done a certain way.
• I wash my hands twice now, and if I think of germs, it gets to the point that I feel the urge to wash more, and get the feeling the germs haven't gone away.
• I wish I had noise canceling headphones.
• I stutter heavily when in a place with little to no familiar faces, and sometimes find myself having an extremely hard time trying to talk to strangers due to fear. On top of being afraid of being judged based on my actions and words.
• I feel like people are watching me when in public spaces.
• I feel like inanimate objects watch and judge me, and can hear my thoughts 99% of the time. This causes me to feel like I'm in a show of some sort, and the inanimate objects are cameras and the audience, and the audience is nice in my mind when I imagine myself in a show. But when I'm not, the inanimate objects just watch and judge me negatively.
• I constantly imagine myself as a fictional character 99% of the time (probably normal too)

Then again most of this could be dysthmia, or just normal behavior. Idk. Probably me overthinking. And idk if this is all of it or not.

Amazing peoples on this forum fr. /gen

I like that label and it kind of fits and I want to use it. Should I just go for it?

Hi.

I kind of, and I mean KIND OF relate to the definition of aegoromantic-

It feels like it fits.

I enjoy consuming romantic media sometimes, but do not wish for a romantic relationship and do not wish to participate in romantic activites. 

Also could someone tell me if this orientation involves a lack of romantic attraction? I'm pretty sure it does but I want to make sure I'm accurate.

Even so, this label still feels correct and I wish to identify with it.

I'm offended that we both think their pfp is cool.