BasicallyEmoPotato

Name two or more characters you ship in a QPR (or even just as friends).

No judgment here, people. 😶

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I think it is part of the community, yes. But I believe it is also up to the person whether they themselves are a part of the community.

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here's a link:
https://medium.com/@caitlin_murphy/whats-a-squish-cb07ce59adc1#:~:text=A squish is kind of,but as 'just a friend.

On 3/5/2023 at 11:52 PM, frittatacrisis said:

no, i have not read loveless! but it's been on my tbr for a loooong time. i love alice, though. can't wait for season two of heartstopper!

Well, when or if you get the time to read it, it's amazing :)))

On 3/5/2023 at 11:58 PM, frittatacrisis said:

aside from those genres though, i'm definitely a swiftie. one of my friends actually managed to snag us tickets to the eras tour in july!

 

my older sister is a Swiftie as well lol.

6 hours ago, AroAcedragon13 said:

sleep is the best thing ever

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Hey, welcome to the forum 🤗

My name is Hugo.

I discovered I was on the aromantic spectrum in late 2021 (I don't remember the exact dates), and I found out I was fully aromantic in the summer of 2022.

At first, I thought I was demiromantic because I was dating a close friend then and I thought I liked them after I became closely attached to them, but I didn't like them like that. That's when I decided to use the term aromantic. It felt way more suiting.

I got this question from a VeryWell Mind article. Just gotta be honest bc I am not great at conversation.

But yeah. Have they?

On 2/28/2023 at 3:52 PM, Loveless Lizard said:

Hamilton cheats on eliza and that’s her response to it. Also I made my cousin watch it and he kept saying how that’s the worst thing someone could ever do. (Worse than murder apparently)
It’s a super cool line and I get that she’d be mad but I didn’t understand why she’d wish death on him for that though

I watched Hamilton and was sort of confused why Eliza was so sad.

18 hours ago, rob said:

I go by Robin. I'm a 20 y/o literature student in Bucharest. I love English literature, horror stories and games, comic books, and I've been a fervent enjoyer of anime and manga for years

I'm aromantic, romance repulsed, as well as gray-asexual and achillean. I identify as genderqueer, but I enjoy masculine terms, I also go by any pronouns, but he/they are preferable

While I know a few other aces, I only know one other aro, with whom I am not in contact a whole lot. I've just ended a relationship of two years partially because of our fundamental differences as an aro (me) and alloro (her), and I have no one to talk to about this that would truly understand. This made me realise how starved I've been to meet fellow aros, so I came here

Hey, Robin :) Name is Hugo.
Hope you enjoy the forum. 

Find me Arocalpyse:
https://www.arocalypse.com/profile/9296-basicallyemopotato/?tab=field_core_pfield_1

I also really enjoy wondering what it feels like. I really enjoy the idea of romance, but I am also confused by it. I don't get why it's so "needed" in society. 

That sounds like something straight out of a poetry book.

I feel the desire to have a close friendship with someone else, though I sometimes get worried that I am just faking my aro-ness because the desire is so trog, and I have a crisis just to find out in the end that it was a platonic or queerplatonic attraction all along.

I also feel queerplatonic attraction. Though it is hard to distinguish from platonic attraction sometimes. I also think I have experienced aesthetic attraction very rarely. I also experience sensual/ physical attraction, specifically among squishes or very close friends.

And def emotional attraction.

3 hours ago, DeltaAro said:

If we discussed this in a universal basic income utopia, it would be much more relaxed.

Yeah, lol.

This is a very controversial topic, I see. 

Personally, I don't consider it real art.

moose tracks

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14 hours ago, roboticanary said:

welcome.

now thats an interesting idea!

yeah :)

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3 hours ago, frittatacrisis said:

if you wouldn't mind, perhaps we could do a private message chat and just talk about signs and experiences or things that were obviously signs in retrospect that we may have overlooked :)

5 hours ago, BasicallyEmoPotato said:

sure :) I dont mind at all :)

I am not the most excellent at intros. But hai! My name is Hugo and my pronouns are he/they. For more info, visit my profile if you would like.

I am having an aromantic freak-out crisis, but it has gotten a bit better since I came to this forum and affirmed my identity. Even though it's hard when we live in an amatonormative world. (And it sucks that the word isn't an official word in Grammarly.)

I know for sure that I am aromantic. The past two relationships that I have been in did not work out. There was a perpetual sense of wrongness about it. Not like there was anything wrong with romantic relationships, but with ME being in being in a romantic relationship. I felt like I was faking it. That was a major sign that I was aromantic. I didn't really understand that until I read Loveless by Alice Oseman (who is also an aroace author), and that book helped me figure out a lot of stuff regarding my aromantic identity. Another example is me just never understanding what a crush felt like. I have tried to familiarize myself with all the different types of attraction, and one I still never get is romantic attraction. And you know how some ppl just KNOW when they have a crush on someone? Well, I am not like that. Another sign. And I have always felt like when someone tells me romantic stuff, I don't really want to hear it. (That sounds strange considering I love romantic stories, just in media.) Another sign was liking the IDEA of characters being in a relationship, but the reality of ME being in one would never make me happy. I don't know if I like to imagine myself in a relationship. I wonder that sometimes, but I think it's just me imagining myself in a QPR or a close emotional/platonic bond with someone else.

There are a lot more signs I could cover, but I don't want to overwhelm the reader

In regard to where I fall on the aromantic spectrum? I would say 100 percent aromantic, Never experienced romantic attraction ever. Even though I do enjoy romantic plots and stuff, I don't see them as pleasant. I see them as almost magical.

Do any of you have any signs you would like to share in regard to being aromantic?

it feels so nice to meet another person HAIII ALSO

I hope you enjoy this forum and come to terms with your identity. also, just sort of a personal question, did you sort of go into a flow of thoughts while writing the essay on how you believe you are aromantic? of that makes sense? like you just sort of let the thoughts flow into your hands?

and bro ur essay is amazing. i just want you to know that you are no alone in your struggles.

also have you ever read loveless by alice oseman?