BasicallyEmoPotato

12 minutes ago, KoconutBounty said:

im crocheting a blanket lol

What colours are you using?

35 minutes ago, KoconutBounty said:

spoiler version, or non-spoiler version?

I don't mind. Either is fine.

what do you think of the collector?

7 hours ago, Holmbo said:

I've listened to the podcast but I've not read the book. You could check out the podcast and maybe get an idea of you find the book interesting.

Thank you :)

Just ignore them if you want.

I don't know if I have ever experienced crushes when I was younger. I don't recall any fancy I had with anyone, so I guess I didn't get crushes. And yes, aromanticism is a spectrum, and you can experience crushes!!! They may not be as often or as strong as an alloromantic person's, but that's completely okay!

 

4 hours ago, nonmerci said:

It can be both. Personally I don't have squishes, but I still have friends (I suppose you can call me platonic-favorable). It can be more difficult to keep the friendships as the lack of attraction leads to a "out of sight out of mind" thing, but I tend to see my friends at least once a month and I'm happy this way. When I was a teen, I was telling anyone I don't have Facebook cause I was already seeing my friends all day at school and didn't see why I would need to see them after; that was probably a big aplatonic sign lol. I still care about my friends and enjoy their company when they are around.

I personally never used a word for that before I entered the aro community when squishes are discussed a lot, and noticed that the way I felt about my friendships were different than other people. But that's probably because I have friends and never mind it.

 

Some other aplatonic people are not this way though and indeed don't want or need friendships. Usually they value alone time but not necessarily, they can enjoy other type of relationship, like familial or romantic (cause yes, there are people who are aplatonic but alloromantic). They also usually have a stronger bond with this term than I do as it impacts their platonic relationships more. For instance I read a lot of stories about aplatonic being pressured as kids to form friendships even if they didn't want to and prefered alone time, cause their parents were concerned about it.

 

As aromanticism it is a spectrum, so you find a lot of different experiences.

This is a very interesting reply. Thank you.

I have come out to my siblings and hinted that I am aro to my parents. But my parents don't know officially. My friends know, but they don't seem to understand it except for a few.

Faking crushes to fit in.

I am aromantic and have thought of myself as sensitive because of a number of reasons. I don't have ADHD, but there's a chance I could be autistic.

hello there :P

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I have been wondering about this lately. I myself do not believe I am aplatonic, but I am curious of the topic and wanted to ask what some personal aplatonic experiences of some of the users are. 

Is it a general lack of not wanting friends or is it where you don't experience squishes?

I didn't initially get introduced to the term until I came upon the term on AUREA.

It's called "Sounds Fake but Okay. An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else."

If you have read it or are interested in reading it, could I hear your thoughts?

that crown slays 

what is something that made you annoyed today?

What is your favorite books with aro-spec characters or aro-coded characters?

My personal favorite is Loveless by Alice Oseman. It's the only one I've read with an aromantic character.

I just want to know if I am not alone in this. I have become obsessed with labeling my aromantic identity to the point where it takes up a lot of mind. It's not as bad as it was, but I am still struggling with this. 

To someone who has never done this, it may seem irrational to be obsessed with something like this. But my therapist pointed out to me that I might be obsessed or concerned with putting a label on every experience, when I should just let the experiences be. 

If you are wondering why I am struggling with this, it might be because of OCD. I don't generally like talking about it online for everyone to see, but I was just seeing if someone else who has OCD has become obsessed with labels in the past or just someone who doesn't have OCD and has become obsessed with labeling their experiences too.

23 hours ago, Rather be Reading said:

At the moment, "Crush Culture" by Conan Gray, but it's been stuck in my head for three days and if it doesn't leave soon I'm going to get sick of it. 

that one is amazing as well :)

19 hours ago, Isa1116 said:

I don't have a favorite but I have a list of a few:

• Prom dress. (If you listen closely to the lyrics you can hear it.)

• Never been in love

• Version of love

• Love love love

• Turning out

• Don't miss me

(I probably have more which I can add later.)

i'll have to check those out 

17 hours ago, Keith said:

I really like "Despair"! It's not necessarily about being aro, but I've always interpreted it like this. Same goes for "Emotional Machine", "Oh No!" and "I Am Not A Robot".

despair by leo.?

15 hours ago, 7sev said:

lovejoys songs are pretty darn aro coded. the protagonist always falls in love with what seems like an aro girl lmao

lol

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mine would be "this is home" by cavetown. wbu?

If anyone is interested, I have a TOH meme book on WP:

https://www.wattpad.com/story/321931600-owl-house-memes-i-found-on-google

On 3/16/2023 at 8:05 AM, KoconutBounty said:

TOH FANS!! UNITE!!

If anyone wants to talk about later on in the series but doesn't wanna risk spoilers you can message me as I have finished the series and enjoy rewatching the series.

tysm for making this 

got loveless aro :/

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what is the cheesiest joke you have ever heard?