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That just reminded me of a similar experience I had in elementary school. All the other kids kept insisting that me and my best friend were a couple. And I absolutely hated that. Once, I got so fed up with the teasing that I just made up a crush right on the spot. I shouted "I don't like x, I like y!" in front of the whole classroom. Right after I realized with horror that I'd just announced I had a crush in front of everyone. Crap, crap, crap

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55 minutes ago, EGGHEAD said:

:D wow there's so much for me to analyze here!!!

I'd love to read your analisis!!! I love discussing art 🥰

I'm glad you liked it! @Holmbo And yes I also love how they use lists in the story, it was one of the things that stayed in my mind long after I read it for the first time.

4 minutes ago, sevan said:

this show looks very silly. i like the vibe of the artstyle

Oh it's very silly!!! That's one of the reasons why I love it so much. And also the music is so fun too! A lot of banjo

I'm totally down for a watch party, if anyone's interested. It's been too long since I've rewatched it! It's one of my comfort shows :)

13 hours ago, blueberrydragon said:

I'm late but....

I ID as a sex-favourable ace. To me, that just means that I have a libido and I'm definitely not repulsed, but I've never really wanted to have sex with any specific person.

Good luck figuring things out :)

Thank you!! 💕

I think I'm going to do some research into libido vs attraction and desire. My brain has those all jumbled up together (probably cause of allonormativity). Anyone know any good resources to start? 

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4 hours ago, Storm_leopardcat said:

What is WOY?

Wander over Yonder! It's an animated show by Craig McCraken, the same dude behind the powerpuff girls and fosters home for imaginary friends. Very good! I highly recommend it

6 hours ago, A User said:

like literally my art teacher wants real hands but for the practice (which has taken up like 6+ pages 😅) im just straight up watching WOY and stealing hand positions

No but WOY is literally so good for stylized and fluid poses! And also gesture! And also just understanding shape language! Argh it's so good asdjjskkja

Besides, realism is over rated!!

There's this short story by aroace writer Merc Fenn Wolfmoor that I absolutely love and, as someone with a complicated relationship to their own humanity, relate to very much. The main character, Tesla is ace and also heavily implied to be aro! 

It's called How to Become a Robot in 12 Easy Steps and you can read it here: https://www.lightspeedmagazine.com/fiction/how-to-become-a-robot-in-12-easy-steps/ 

But!! Massive TW for discussion and depictions of depression and thoughts of self-harm and suicide.  It left me pretty shaken and emotionally drained at some points, so, if you do read it, remember to practice self care!

Sorry for not responding earlier, midterms have been kicking my butt these past few weeks.

On 10/4/2022 at 10:57 PM, sevan said:

unrelated but i have that song in my playlist. cheers

anyhow im sex indifferent and repulsed sometimes so i do not have any similar experiences but i hope youll figure it out eventually

Thanks! Also, it's a really good song, been stuck in my head all week

On 10/4/2022 at 10:51 PM, Jot-Aro Kujo said:

Yeah I'm allosexual and I got specific bastards I'd love to fuck. Like, yeah, I like sex as an activity, but there's definitely people who I look at and I'm like ehhhhh pass vs. people who I look at them and I think like. HI ARE YOU INTO WOMEN PERCHANCE.

JAJAJA I've also got some specific bastards, but mainly celebs and fictional characters. With real, IRL people not so much.  

On 10/5/2022 at 2:20 AM, aro_elise said:

ooh can't relate.  i'm ridiculously picky.  attraction or lack thereof completely overrides my sex favourability.  i'm continually shocked by how many people are apparently either attracted to a substantial percentage of people or willing to have sex with them even if they're not. 

I often get told that I have low standards 😂 I like to say I find everyone attractive in their own way. But that was also the line of thinking I used to deny my aromanticism, so who knows!

On 10/4/2022 at 10:20 PM, Collie said:

There is a bit of controversy over "sex favorable aces" and how that is defined. Personally I'm more of the opinion that asexuality and sexual attracted is defined by an intrinsic desire for sexual activity, not necessarily being particularly attracted to specific persons. For me, a sex favorable ace would be one who enjoys participating in sexual activity when with an allosexual partner, but doesn't desire it for themselves and would be happy in a completely sexless relationship.

I wasn't aware there was controversy! Very interesting. I relate a lot to your definition of sexual attraction, but I also think I'd be perfectly happy with a completely sexless relationship/life. Don't know what that means for me jajaja

Thanks y'all! You've given me lots to think about :D

Hi! So, I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I enjoy doing sexual stuff with people (as long as there's no strings attached) and do enjoy and seek out sexually explicit stuff when I'm by myself. But, as I've come to realize, I almost never think about those things as motivated by attraction to a person, especially IRL. Sure, I have an image in my head of the type(s) of people I'm attracted to, but when it comes down to it I guess my type is "you've got a pulse and you're breathing". I mostly do it for the fun of it? If that makes sense.

Idk if anyone can relate, but I wanted to learn more about how sexuality is experienced by both allosexual and sex-favourable ace folk to kind of help myself figure this out. How did y'all figure out your identities? How can you tell the difference between being sex-favourable and being allosexual? What is it like being sex-favourable? What is it like being allosexual? What does sexual attraction feel like to you? Was it harder to figure out you were ace cause of being sex-favourable?

And if anyone just has any insights or stories they'd like to share I'd be more than happy to read them :D Any and all help is appreaciated!

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Derby provides an example of how women transport pariah femininity discourses to local settings, dramatically altering them in the process and using them as resources in service of gender maneuvering. The symbolic discourse of pariahs is appropriated and reconfigured into an “alternative” femininity that is not seen as contaminating but rather is honored in that setting

I also love my friends very much. And I love love love when that love is reciprocated. Recently my bff introduced me to his new group of friends as his best friend and it was just the best feeling in the world. His b-day is this week and we're gonna go get ramen :)

Hi!! That's a really cool flag! Is it okay to ask about the meaning?

Whenever we'd play fuck, marry, kill (or kiss, marry, kill when we were younger) I'd always think about my answers very logically and seriously. I thought about income and temperament when choosing who to marry and about how much the person I'd kill would be missed or if the world would be any better with them gone. My friends, who just wanted to know who I had a crush on, were dissapointed, but in my mind I was winning the game. 

This is really looking into the future now, but I'd want my queer platonic partner to be someone who'd be willing to raise a family/co-parent with me! I really want to have kids someday, but I'm willing to settle for a couple of cats 😅

Pretending you have a partner 'cause people think being single = wanting a relationship.

Happened to me today :(

9 hours ago, A User said:

(it's a wander over yonder fanart if u were wondering)

I love love love woy, so it always makes me very happy to see your profile pic! Wander and Commander Peepers are some of the few characters I can draw from memory :)

On 9/16/2022 at 11:34 PM, sevan said:

probably? i feel like your friend would be very supportive of what you identify as. but at the end of the day its up to you and outing yourself is optional until its necessary [clearing up confusion etc]

That's true! For now I'm taking it slow and coming out to a couple of close friends at the time. It's so silly, but I'm scared that by coming out I'll be "missing out" on ever having a romantic relationship, even though I don't even want one in the first place. The good thing is that there's no rush

I wanted to share something that happened to me yesterday and makes me really happy to think about. 

I don't know if y'all remember several months ago that there was this guy that asked me out & thought I was flirting with him cause of this emoji 😈

Well, he's back. And this time he asked another friend of mine out while making her very uncomfortable. With such great pick-up lines like "I used to think you were pretty" and "I thought you were a lesbian, you dress like one". Then for some reason he low-key started talking shit about me? Just a bunch of weird comments trying to put me down because I study a lot? And don't date?

My friend defended me and I just love her so much for it. She literally told him "Whirl is a bichota (popular latam term for an empowered woman, like boss bitch) that's focusing on her studies and her career. She doesn't need anybody and certainly doesn't need you."

I'm not out to her yet, but when she told me about the situation I just felt so supported and loved as I am. There's nothing to fix, I'm great this way! Yes, I am a bichota 😌

Has this happened to anyone else? Is this a sign that I should come out to her/the rest of my friends?

11 hours ago, sevan said:

yo!!

im chiling rn. just finished taking an exam earlier in school and now its almost time for bed

10 hours ago, Merli said:

Not much at the moment and have barely even had school today so that's nice. How about you?

Glad to see we're doing good! I'm working on some uni stuff. Plus I'm reporting on an important international tennis game this weekend and know nothing about tennis so im low key freaking out, but also very excited that I get this oportunity. 

And if we're talking about teachers, shout out to my second semester teacher that loved shooting the shit with us and talking about her cats and dog. 

I'm only a teen for two more months but how do you do, fellow kids?

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