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TPBM knows how to play an instrument 

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I'm not sure. I think I was born with it, but environmental factors definitely played a role in me realizing that I was aro. Maybe if I lead a different life I never would've known I was aromantic. 

I'm glad I know I'm aro, cause it made me stop trying to conform to allocentric standards of life, which caused me a lot of pain and made me uncomfortable in my own skin.

Riz Gukgak, Liam Wilhelmina and Prince Andhera from dimension 20 are all canonically ace! Andhera is also canonically on the aro spectrum and riz is heavily implied to be aro as well :)

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Cousin (My cousin's nickname is Pipe, pronounced Pee-peh. It's a common nickname for Felipes here!)

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I don't think everyone feels happy and fullfiled all the time, not even allo people with their romantic partners!

Some days are better than others and I also feel lonely a lot of the time. I've found that what works for me best is actually chasing that feeling of platonic love or of wholeness. And that for me means reaching out and making extra time for my friends or spending some time with my hobbies and interests (so watching series, drawing, devoting time to a special interest, stuff like that). Also, learning to spend time with myself and being kind to myself (something I'm still working on) has helped a lot.

It's a journey! And as much as I want it to be a straight line, going from plotline to plotline... life is much much messier than that. And it's part of what makes it worth living!

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3 minutes ago, I am a schwa said:

Thanks! I'm sorry for your experience :( amatonormativity sucks! But I'm glad you found it relatable, maybe it can bring some comfort knowing you're not alone.

It definitely does! This forum has been really helpful in my journey. It's really nice to be in a space where you and your struugles are understood, cause in the rest of the amatonormativite world we're not taken seriously, I think. Like, people have been supportive of me when I've come out, but later comments tell me that some of them think my identity is just a phase.

And sometimes it can be pretty isolating, when all everyone does is talk about romance and treat it as it was a. the best thing ever and b.innevitable. 

Hey! Welcome! Also omg I relate so much to all of the things you said.

38 minutes ago, I am a schwa said:

I can't just use people as guinea pigs: that would be playing with their feelings out of selfishness, and I can't do that. I also really don't wanna retry cause I hated it and I don't wanna be uncomfortable again. I don't really think this will change or that I just have to find "the right person"—seriously, I'm sick of being told this, as if it were reassuring:

Especially this bit. I've been told to give a relationship a chance (and tried to, with dating apps and stuff), but the result is always the same. I feel uncomfortable and like I'm manipulating people. The second that like any romantic (or sexual most of the time tbh) attraction is shown towards me I also feel so violated and almost shut down. Y'know?

And also if someone else tells me that I'll meet the right person some day I'm gonna loose it. Dude, I think I know myself better than you.

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On 11/17/2022 at 12:37 PM, Nix said:

The sticker will wear down a bit though 🤔 I guess you could also make some sort of collage art with it and put it on your wall?

Wait… I’ve just realised that this sticker is some aroace art I created myself, so I DO own some pride stuff… nice.

 

Aroace kitty!! So cute! I always love seeing your art 💕I have a collage piece art up on my wall with like posters, photos and tickets for events and stuff, but I'm living in a rental rn and I'd hate to part with the sticker if I move soon jajja

On 11/17/2022 at 2:45 PM, DeltaAro said:

Yes, very impressing!! Of course I can order all sorts of aro stuff online but I don't know anything about fairs or LGBTQ+ groups. Must be great to find aro "merchandise" IRL.

It feels like finding a shiny pokemon tbh! Also, I think I prefer buying them in these spaces, cause it feels like I'm supporting local artists and my local community

23 hours ago, sevan said:

notebook maybe

I think that's what I'm leaning more towards. I have this notebook I use for doodling and I think it'll look very nice on the cover!

Is it still a squish if you're already friends with that person? If so then I've got a squish on my bff. I love spending time with him and will drop everything to hang out with him. Like, some weeks ago I was very, very sick. Like 40 C fever sick. But I didn't know it yet, so I was just trying to survive my lectures, feeling like a zombie. And I asked him to go get some icecream with me. And like the second we met up I felt so much better. Not only like happier, but actually physically better! Anyway I love him a lot and am very lucky to have him :)

As for squishes that I don't know well yet, I pretty much get a squish on all the cool queer and alt people in my uni. 

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15 hours ago, sevan said:

i will steal them and never return them. thanks for the aro merchandises 

We can have joint custody,  but I get the merch on weekends lol!

(also I've got no clue where to put the frog sticker 😭 any suggestions?)

Hi!! I just wanted to show y'all some of the aro pride stuff I've been collecting over the past months and also talk a bit about how I got each piece. I'm actually shocked I've found ANY aro stuff in my country, but I'm very happy about that I did!

So the first thing is the pride flag on the bottom right, I got it from a stand run by my uni's independent LGBTQ+ group. When I chose it out of a bunch of pride flags they were offering (for free!), I realized it was actually my first time admitting to myself that I was aromantic.

Then comes the pin. There was a fair for women enterprenours happening in Bogota and one of the stands was this like feminist queer one and it had this pin in its collection! It was the only aro one and it was kind of banged up (you can't really tell in the pic, but its a bit scratched and smudged), but I bought it anyway cause I was like "When am I going to get this chance again?". And this time I was with my brother and a friend of mine, so I kind of also came out to them! Another first!

And finally, the frog sticker!!! I got this one on sunday at an independent artist fair in Bogota's planetarium (along with some other stickers, pins, indie comics and zines). I was actually wearing my pin on my backpack (first time wearing the pin in public) and the person running the stand looked at me... then my pin... then at the sticker... then back at me. I think we both knew I was going to buy it lol

So, yeah, that's all! Do you guys have any pride stuff? Is it related to important moments in your journey, like mine? And, did y'all like the frog sticker? Cause I felt this was the ideal demographic for it jajaja

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