Tinkere

I actually made it with paint, it’s not digital :D im fine with you sharing it as long as you credit my username here

So this dude that I’m friends with that 100% has a crush on me asked me today if I wanted to go watch this movie with him and this other guy we’re friends with next week, normally, I’m not much of a social person at all, so it typically takes me like a whole year or so before I actually get comfy asking someone to hang out outside of said organization where we met. (not sure if other people normally feel the same). The other dude that he invited has tried to wingman several times, so I’m just feeling like this is basically a date except with a third wheel so it isn’t awkward?? My aro ass genuinely cannot tell if this is a date or just a hangout, please help- I’ve never gone out with anyone before and I have zero experience on what to even know what counts as a date

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Hi! I’m Tinkere, but you can just call me Tink or Allie. Although I only realized recently, I’m pretty sure I’m aromantic and possibly just homosexual? Anyway, some stuff about me to help you guys get to know me: I love drawing, painting, playing electric and acoustic guitar, and just listening to music in general! I’m so glad I’ve found such a great community for aros!

As a pretty committed member of the MBTI community, I’ve seen a lot of INTPs and INTJs identify as aro/ace. I know it’s probably mostly got to do with their functions (mostly referring to INTP here), but I was wondering, if any of you guys know, I’d like to hear what mbti types you are, and see if there’s some sort of correlation! I’m an aro INTP, and my sister is an ace INTJ :)

not ever having a “crush” until i was 11 and a half!! potentially maybe choosing him because i don’t recall actually liking him… wanting to be all my crushes’ NUMBER ONE BEST FRIEND obviously not actually dreaming of romance, just wanting to be extra close best friends with my “crushes” …. giving mean/bad relationship advice bc i genuinely don’t understand romantic relationships and how they function feeling disconnected and confused about romance in general not knowing the difference between romantic and platonic attraction for shit averse to touching people and feeling uncomfortable like, whenever one of my “crushes” cuddled me on the bus on the way to camp, i don’t know if i was feeling anxious and panicky cause there were basic cishet girls watching me, but like i dont think i actually enjoyed it cause i was too anxious my only two online relationships being extremely shallow and superficial, the second one with making me incredibly uncomfortable ,with barely anything but saying “i love you”, and having the label of girlfriend, otherwise it would have been a normal friendship

Hello! (sorry if I accidentally double posted, I’m new to here so i’m not really sure how it works) So obviously since i’m here, i’m aromantic. i have a pretty good friend who has an obvious crush on me. Pretty much my whole life i’ve never had to deal with anyone liking me, and I don’t really know what to do with this. He’s pretty much already suggested going to homecoming with me and being polite, I told him i’d probably go. I’m just so nervous because with every passing minute, I’m scared he will ask me out. Everybody at my school already thinks we’re a couple, and that we’d be cute which is a bit hard for me. I’m just really scared of romance. I’ve seen him browsing r/Lgbtmemes, so I know that if I came out, he’d understand, but I feel like it would just break his heart. I really do like him as a person, but it’s just the romance aspect specifically that scares me a lot. I’m not really sure what to do as I’ve never been in a relationship, I don’t really know how to deal with this, and I really don’t want to break his heart by letting him know i’m aromantic.