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I should also mention that I initiated the relationship (I asked them out to a date first) and they made it serious (asking me to be their partner)

I love spending 1 on 1 time with my best friend. I prefer it tbh as being in a group of friends is more awkward for me because if conversation slows it feels like you have to come up with a new topic or something. but 1 on 1 there's less awkwardness and the acknowledgement we don't have to be constantly talking.

I don't mind cuddling with family that much but outside of that and very close friends I'm usually not a big fan of physical touch in general if I'm not initiating it.

Same here with the fictional character bit! I used to think I was gray-ace but after my first sexual experience with another person i'm pretty sure I'm completely sex repulsed. I also am definitely with you on the romantic fantasy part.

I'm Alex (or Cosmo)! I just recently discovered that i'm aromantic and found this site looking for advice. Nice to meet ya'll!

I've been wondering if I was aromantic for a while but recently I've been questioning even more and after more research I've realized that I definitely am. I've always had a hard time telling the difference between platonic and romantic feelings, and in all my relationships after getting seriously romantic I get uncomfortable with affection and flirting. And I always wish we could just be friends. I also identify as asexual but I've known that for longer. I've been dating my partner for about 3, almost 4 months and we've been talking for about 6. We started as friends and eventually started going out on dates and then made it official. I've said I love them and all that other affectionate stuff but I'm realizing now I think I've always liked us better as friends because I don't like the idea of us romantically but I do like us platonically. I feel horrible for only realizing this now and I feel as If I've been leading them on. I realize I said that stuff because I thought that's what people are supposed to say in a romantic/sexual relationship. The big problem I have is if I should keep this a secret or tell my partner. I don't want to hurt them and I know if I come out we'll definitely break up. But I also realize that keeping a secret like this won't help anything and our relationship will deteriorate on it's own. If anyone's gone through a similar situation I'd be very glad for any advice at all. TLDR: I'm asexual and don't know how to tell my partner (PS: sorry for the rambling)