dewy

I'm trans and I don't really play this gender 3d chess. Usually I dress more traditionally masc/androgynous but sometimes I dress fem simply because I want to. If people see me as a girl, fuck it, not like I don't get that all the time already (I'm not fully out). Really all I think about when I'm choosing clothes is if it's comfortable, looks nice, and matches :p

tired

senate

On 6/28/2022 at 12:36 AM, Holmbo said:

Tuba is a brass instrument so that's already covered. I'm trying to think of big non brass instruments but all I can think about now is piano which I don't think is ours.

Bass clarinet, some types of saxophones (although they make me think of careless whisper so i don't know)

On 5/25/2022 at 4:45 PM, alto said:

I have recently come to realize that even if I never have another partner of any kind (romantic, platonic, alterous, etc) I would still probably be ok and happy in my life.  Does this make me loveless?  I don't think it makes me aplatonic, I still get squishes.

You might find the label nonpartnering applicable

Found out I was aromantic when my friend found out they were ace and started talking about it, kinda why I think it's important for me to talk about my aro experiences. It can help spread awareness and help others figure things out.

I thought I was asexual at first, maybe since that's what my friend mainly talked about since he found out he's ace first, then aro. I guess I related to the lack of attraction but ace still didn't feel quite right. Identified as gray-aroace or simply aspec for a while, also tried the label aroace but it didn't feel right. Then I started questioning being aroallo, so I started looking for more information about that, ended up finding this forum where I could read about other aro people's experiences. That helped, and eventually I figured it all out. I think.

6 minutes ago, queer_kaleidoscope said:

Definitely Plagg from Miraculous Ladybug! He often talks about his love for cheese when other people bring up romantic relationships (iirc he once wrote a love song about it) and doesn't understand Adrian's crush on Ladybug. Plagg also seems romance-repulsed (not saying all aro people are, I sort of just relate to him in that way). Also... green and black? Sort of like the aromantic flag?

Haha Plagg's been mentioned here before, I believe on a topic in this subforum. The people there were talking about how aro cheese should be a thing and I totally agree!

meow

On 6/2/2022 at 4:54 PM, roboticanary said:

hang on, when you wrote this i got it confused with the contrabassoon.

maybe they are both aro instruments.

I feel like almost any large instrument could qualify. Like, I don't know how I'd feel about someone trying to serenade me with a tuba.

Used to be sure I wanted a romantic relationship but now I'm not sure. Still figuring things out, it's just a "maybe" for me right now.

On 6/7/2022 at 12:20 PM, Guest AnxiousAF said:

So, I like the idea of love stories in books, movies, tv-shows, and such, but I do not like the idea of having a romantic relationship myself. I feel perfectly fine with myself, I feel zero pressure about finding love or romance. But, as I said, I like love/romantic relationship if other people experience it, so this confuses me.

Does this make me aromantic?

If you feel the label fits, then by all means use it.

I'm aro and I love fictional romance, but feel lukewarm at best about actually having a romantic relationship. As Arsenic said, it doesnt affect your romantic orientation. Lots of arospec people enjoy shipping and fictional romance.

I've never been in that kind of relationship as I only recently found out I was aroallo and came to terms with it.

But to answer your second question, yes, I feel some of my loved ones would judge me for it. This is partially why I haven't told my family I'm aromantic. I've started being more open with my friends about being aroallo, though. It's mostly been positive - even helped my friend find out about aroallo as an identity, and that they identify with it - and I feel it's important for me to be completely honest about my identity. But I do fear judgement. Luckily I haven't received much, most people seem pretty chill with it. One time though, when I was talking about being aroallo in a group chat, one of my friends said something like "oh that's just me when I'm feeling sociopathic and horny". Said it was a joke but I did not find it funny (like seriously, that's not the same thing at all >_>)... it felt like a glimpse behind the curtains of what people really think about us aroallo folks.

Comparing sexual attraction without romantic attraction - and just aromanticism in general - to sociopathy... is not it, even if it's meant to be a joke. I don't get it, it's quite common for some alloallos to experience that as well. Is it just "redeemed" because there's more of a chance of romance happening as well? I think amatonormativity affects aroallo people in a unique way, and this is an example of that.

On 5/21/2022 at 5:47 PM, roboticanary said:

I like this reasoning. But if we are thinking about what not to serenade someone with I think the kazoo is a far more aro instrument

No need to limit ourselves to just one aro instrument. How about drums?

Can we please have trumpet be the aro instrument?

My reasoning is, trumpets are typically quite loud so they wouldn't be the best instrument to romantically serenade someone with.

- an aro trumpet player

grass

I'm offended because you're offended for no reason

bakery

Many have had friends neglect their friendship in favor of a romantic relationship.

And I may just be aro but I feel like a lot of unhealthy thoughts and behaviors (i.e obsession, possesiveness...) are excused or normalized because of romantic attraction. I also know some people will get quite upset having confessions be rejected, and I wonder if part of that is romance being seen as something you need.

Kris from Deltarune, their gender is never explicitly stated but they're always referred to with they/them.

20 hours ago, Cocothecoconut said:

I mean i do have these moments too, but only if they’re fictional. Cause people in real life doesn’t really attract me sexually or romantically. However i do find people aesthetically attractive, like looking at some beautiful paintings. And of course i’m interested in the idea of sex, i’m sex positive and i’m not repulsed by it at all. People regardless of their gender just doesn’t attract me and i don’t feel anything towards them. 

I used to kinda feel that way but I think it's because I feel a bit weird about being attracted to real people, like afraid I'm objectifying them or being creepy I guess

On 4/18/2022 at 2:43 PM, Cocothecoconut said:

I can’t look at someone who might be attractive and hot for everyone and think “My gosh you look so hot! I’m gonna have sex with you”

Haha personally as an aroallo that's not what I usually think, but I suppose I have those kinds of moments where I realize someone is hot in that way. For me it is more something I feel than think.

I'd probably just think of it in terms of friends as well as sexual attraction.

bark

blue cube does things

so true!

TPBM likes video games