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Putting this here since it's sort of visibility related.

Back in 2021 I remember seeing a TikTok of someone admitting to blocking random aromantic people because they thought the flag in their icons (the aro flag) was the "dreamsexual" flag. This rubbed me the wrong way back when I first saw it, you know, these innocent aromantic people being mistaken for a group of weirdos in more ways than one.

Today I saw a post by one of my favorite artists where apparently the aromantic flag has been taken synonymous for "dreamsexuality", complety stripping it from its meaning and significance and twisting in nothing more than a bad joke.

I was wondering what were other people's thoughts on this?

P.S. For those who don't know what "dreamsexuality" is, it's defined by the clowns themselves as "being sexually attracted to Dream" as in the Minecraft youtuber, probably one of the stupidest things ever coined.

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Saw the development on TikTok, it seems like a fun game! (though what really got my attention were the colors of the characters and how they relate to my current fixation ?)

15 hours ago, fern said:

the main character is greyromantic and nonbinary

I believe the nonbinary part was confirmed by the creator? I'd have to look for the post to be certain though, I think they stated that in a comment.

Definitely! February has barely started and people are already talking about it like it's next week ?‍♀️

Personally for me I define squishes based on how important this attraction is to oneself. You can feel a desire to be friends with any person and spend time with them, whether a strong or small one, but this desire must be important for you which I believe is what separates squishes from just wanting to be friends with someone.

On 11/19/2021 at 6:02 AM, Cocothecoconut said:

Do you have any comfort characters?

As of approximately 4-5 weeks ago my biggest bringers of happiness and comfort are literally a bunch of office supplies ?

Out of all things I could get fixated on...

Sometimes I think about getting one but get nervous at the thought of being questioned about it, the left middle finger is quite an unusual placement for a ring ?

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An aro character who is romance favourable, but I feel like that'd be too complicated to understand for allo people ?‍♀️

i would have loved to know i was aro around 2016-2018, back when i was caught on exclusionist tumblr ?

not sure why ask here out of all places but where did you hear this or get this snippet from? maybe that'll help.

2 hours ago, Blake said:

Look for a therapist, speak about how you feel with them, and they will be able to help you. If you are a minor, tell you parents that you want to see a therapist for your own health. You don't have to explain much to them if you do not want ofc, that is up to you.

definitely this, i might also suggest finding hobbies or interests to try and take your mind off the person? i believe some time apart could be beneficial in this case, log out and spend time off social media if possible.

8 hours ago, BloodyBlood said:

mhm srry for bad question

no need to apologize! i agree with the comment above, while blushing is a common thing in crushes, it doesn't neccessarily mean there's attraction.

i think of men whenever i think about how i'd like to have children, but it never goes beyond that

got aromantic the first time and cupioromantic on the second try ?‍♀️

On 7/30/2021 at 4:55 PM, alto said:

It's about what you want out of the relationship.  You want a romantic relationship?  Crush.  You want to be besties or permanent roommates?  Squish.

i agree with this definition, "qp" (term that doesn't really apply here) attraction and romantic attraction are both similar concepts with the difference that one is based more on platonic connotations, but then again qprs are very diverse in the attraction felt so i don't think it's fair to compare it to romantic relationships.

i also felt awkward most of the time in high school, i always thought that no one in my group was really "my type".

it did get annoying hearing the same relationship drama over and over though, and sometimes they would come up to me for advice ?‍♀️

not sure if its been mentioned before, but both kissing booth movies. the plot is stupid, all 3 main characters are annoying, and it's overall kinda cringy (the omg girls....).

not to mention that the friendship elle and the other guy (lee i think was his name) had going on is just incredibly unrealistic and it was almost obsession from the guy's part (the fact that he was ignoring his girlfriend during half of the sequel) and also i just don't like noah, elle should have stayed with the dancing guy from the second movie.

1 hour ago, Guest bug said:

the thought of romantic relationships really doesn’t please to me? and i think i’ve only had one crush, i only think though cause it could be cause of pressure around my age to like someone was there?

this part is similar to many aro discovery stories i've seen, the whole being uninterested in romantic relationships and crushing on someone just because people expect you to, that's a pretty big sign that you could be aro.

though, at the end of the day, you know yourself better than anyone; so if you think aro fits, i say go for it ?‍♀️

1 hour ago, reinyday91 said:

I was trying to vent to a friend this morning and she was liek "Well you're aro" even when I said multiple times I'm talking about making friends first. And she just kept pushing the "WELL YOU'RE ARO" as a reason people who I want to just build friendships with stop talking to me. Like no. I'm not even trying to flirt yet. I'm not even thinking about that yet. I'm just trying to have conversation. 

so according to your friend aro people can't get to know others anymore or start friendships, that's certainly the first time i've seen that take. i guess we can't truly comprehend the art of asking someone what's their favorite color ?‍♀️

personally 1 looks a little weird to me and 2 is too dark. i think 3 looks really nice though my only complain would be that it kind of resembles the lesbian flag and people might say it's a copy, but other than that it's the one i like the most.

2 hours ago, nonmerci said:

I would say it is the feeling that gives you the urge to date someone, usually associating with things like butterflies in the stomach.

i agree with nonmerci here, i saw someone once define it as this urge/desire to be the other person's everything, that makes you think about them constantly or get nervous around them. i've never experienced romantic feelings so i can't truly describe it (like the majority here).

18 hours ago, Ashe. said:

is aromantic lgbtq+? I think that would answer if it's queer.

there was a whole discussion about this one question on tumblr before, it didn't end so well...

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