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Six hours just wasted. Why do I even bother trying?

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Too young by what standard? There's no law or there shouldn't be. Your identity is about you. Is aroace a helpful term for you now? Then you're aroace. :)

What do you mean "is it actually an identity"? People identify with it. That makes it an identity. 

Here's what matters to your question:

- Does grayro make sense to you?

- Is grayro a helpful term to you?

- Do you want to or feel more comfortable identifying as grayro?

Grayro is the specific umbrella term for aromantic spectrum. It's a term beyond just arospec to denote you don't relate to the stereotypical alloro experience but feel you (maybe) experience some amount of romantic attraction at some amount of time. :)

PIcking a label doesn't mean you're not ever gonna be confused about things. It means that word is a useful one to you to communicating some sort of simplified version of your feelings on some way. 

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13 minutes ago, Isa1116 said:

Thanks lol, sorry if it gets annoying replying to everyone with the same thing. 😅

No, lol, I'm just saying it louder for the people in the back. If something annoys me, I just won't interact with it. =) It's your forum, too!

1 hour ago, Isa1116 said:

I have been id as aroaceflux but I just learned about myrsexual and myrromantic, which means feeling multiple aspec ids. Can I be both?

A) Like I was just saying in another thread, there are no rules. Who the heck is gonna stop you from being both? Be both! Do what makes you happy! That's all that matters.

B) Myr- is literally about being multiple aspec identities. Wouldn't it make even less sense if you couldn't be both? 🧐 The myr- consolidator is just so you can just say "myrsexual/romantic" instead of listing them all out.

There are no rules!!! Do what you want!!!

4 hours ago, Oko said:

It's nice. Can it be used for somebody who don't know what she/he felt in the past?

There aren't any rules. That's what I've been trying to say. It's about you and how you feel about it. You don't need permission to feel your feelings or to categorize/label them different ways or to explore and experiment with labels and different expressions and boundaries.

There answer to "Is it"/"Can it" is pretty much always "yes if that works for/makes sense to you".

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1 hour ago, Oko said:

So it doesn't matter if someone was in love/relationship in the past? This person can still be aro?

Exactly. It doesn't even matter if you were the most alloromantic to ever allo in the past. Labels aren't about how we used to feel or predicting how we will feel. They don't need to be forever terms. They're just about how we feel now. 

1 hour ago, Oko said:

I never heard about it, I read about it. It's name for "asking about romantic", right?

It's a pretty broad term for anyone who doesn't know how to distinguish between attraction types like romantic/platonic, doesn't know if they do experience attraction, or doesn't understand the concept of attraction at all, etc. 

https://aromantic.fandom.com/wiki/Quoiromantic

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Identity cannot be diagnosed. No one can label you for you. Labels are just tools we use to communicate simplistic concepts to others. What labels help you communicate? What labels feel right to you? That's what matters for labels. There are no right or wrong answers. It's just about what helps you - helps you communicate, helps you understand yourself, helps you feel seen, helps you feel at home, helps you connect with a community of people with similar experiences, etc.

Also, asexual folk can have fantasies. :)

6 hours ago, Oko said:

Of course not. They just didn't know it.

You deserve the same understanding you are giving others. :)

6 hours ago, Oko said:

I thought aromantic people can't "be in love" with somebody. Maybe I'm wrong. Romantic people usually want to some "love person" and they're sad if don't have any.

So aromantic means "low or no romantic attraction". Someone who is around may never experience romantic attraction. They may only experience a low level attraction on the rare occasion. They may only experience romantic attraction to someone they've formed a deep bond with. They might only experience aromantic attraction towards strangers or fictional characters. They may go through rare periods of experiencing really intense romantic attraction. Aromantic is a label for anyone who doesn't experience romantic attraction in the strict societally expected way (regularly, consistently). 

Some aros may indeed love romantically. Some may love platonically. Some may love in another way (alterously). Some may experience love multiple forms and some in no form. Aro is still a broad label that allows for a great variety of experiences!

6 hours ago, Oko said:

No, I didn't want to say that. I'm just confused about the attraction what I felt. I don't know if it was romantic/alterous/platonic/another? I don't know how to know it.

Maybe not knowing or not being able to tell is your answer! (Heard of quoiromantic? It's just an example of embracing not knowing or not prescribing to such concepts.)

Mostly what's changed is that people understand me better. :)

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18 hours ago, Keith said:

witers

Definition, please? o.o

12 hours ago, opal said:

waiters

Gaiters

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