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This is gonna be so frustrating to hear, but the difference between romantic and alterous attraction (and platonic attraction) is up to the individual. They're not objectively different things with hard drawn lines in between them. What makes an attraction type an attraction type is how the individual person feels about it. When you close your eyes and let your gut pick the term, what does it come up with? When you explore all the terms, which one just makes you feel the most comfortable? Which term are you most drawn to?
Kissing could be platonic, romantic, alterous, sexual, and/or a combo of those things. What makes it any of those is intent, which is completely subjective.
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When everybody is straight, not a queer in sight. 😒
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I don't want to make a whole separate topic because it's only a brief mention in season 8 or so, but the podcast Woe.Begone has a canon queerplatonic couple! Had to rewind and relisten to make sure I was actually hearing "queerplatonic" from a piece of media. :o
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You can find November's announcement over on the blog of Sara Jakša for Aromanticism and Holidays!Quote
This is a cal for submissions for the Carnival of Aros, a monthly aromantic/aro-spec themed blog carnival. I will post the link to the last month roundup on the topic of The Aplatonic Spectrum, once I will see the link.
Around the parts that I live, December the the holiday season. It is the time, when some of the other socialisation have to give space to a lots and lots of holiday teamed parties. Or in my case, have a relaxing month, since everybody is really busy with these parties.
I don't celebrate in the way people around me do - which is why this is a relaxing month for me. And I think the reason for this is, that since I had to question many points, where I did not fit in the society, that made me question all the things like that as well.
And now that makes me wonder. Aromanticism (with the whole aro-spec included) is something, that does include questioning at least some of the social norms. So that means, that it could be interesting to hear everybody's opinion of the celebrating the holidays. Don't even have to be the December's ones.
Below I have written some of the prompts, but feel free to submit anything connected to the topic of holidays:
- What do the holidays mean to you?
- How has the your aromanticism (or lovelessness or aplatonic or anything in the era) influenced the way you see the holidays or celebrate them?
- Do you celebrate the same holidays? In the same way? Or are there any changes in how you see the holidays and how you celebrate them, that you want to share?
- Do you celebrate some different holidays or traditions, that you want to share with us?
- Or share the reason of why are you not celebrating a specific holidaz? Or any holidays?
- How does the holiday season affects you?
- Is there something you want to point out in relation to the subject of the holidays? Some parts, that you think other people are missing - positive or negative?
Anybody can participate in the carnival. For this month, I am accepting the submissions in any modalities. So feel free to write a post, draw a picture, make a sculpture, edit a video or anything else you feel inspired to create in. You can also participate in any language you want.
In order to participate, just send the link to my email at sarajaksa@sarajaksa.eu. I will also be checking the comments on the Carnival of Aros post for this month, so feel free to post there.
I can also host it on my own site, if you do not have a place on the internet to post it.
Submissions are due by the 31th of December. I will probably only write the roundup post on the 3th of January, so if it is a day or two late, I will just include it and nobody needs to know.
I am excited to be able to see everybody's submissions.
We also need hosts for January and March, if you are willing to host! Hosting is easy and low time commitment and a great way to connect with the community. Find out how to host here.
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4 minutes ago, Isa1116 said:
then what caused it?
School.
Life.
Homework.
Constant pressure from your parents to live up to someone else's legacy.
Your parents casual medical neglect and verbal abuse.
Chores.
Socialization.
Not having the tools to handle your likely ADHD.
Navigating life without management techniques and accommodations you need.
Thinking about your future.
Being overly aware of the economy.
Planning for schools that are years and schools away.
QuoteBurnout is a state of complete mental, physical, and emotional exhaustion.
There's not a level of work you have to achieve to be burned out. It's about not having the capacity to handle the work you are being handed. You described feeling like 90% of the things on the list I linked.
I'm sorry your parents have gotten this hard into your head and made you feel so negative and self-hating about yourself. This is not what parents should do. They should support and uplift and encourage and help you. Not constantly act like you're not good enough. You are. You are good enough. You are enough.
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Burn out is not being lazy. You need a rest. Fighting with yourself about that is only going to make it worse. You gotta actually be allowed to take a rest to get better. Your mind needs taken care of just like your body. I'm sorry your parents are putting this pressure on you and not appreciating you for you and letting you grow into your own person.
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(Brain, why? o_O)
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Oop, I think someone started counting off the wrong page. We're actually at...
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You can handle this! Maybe some things need editing, like taking less classes or mixing up easier classes with your harder classes instead of taking all hard classes at once or joining a study group or getting a tutor or making use of get an accessibility plan in line if applicable (ex. if you have ADHD or something that gives you access to certain adaptations) etc., but you can handle it. Listen to your body and instead of just making this huge leap that you can't do it at all - adapt. What do you need to feel like you can do it? Work towards getting those things together for yourself. <3
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On 11/26/2023 at 3:13 AM, Synthetic Adrenaline said:
For example one of you is morbidly obese, ugly,
What the fuck?
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That's sexual harassment, and since you're minors, it's actually child sexual abuse. That is 100% something you can and should report. I'm sorry your school environment is so unsafe.
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Dalton and Chris from Insidious: The Red Door 👀
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I feel repulsed by romance but I also want to feel it
in Aromantic Discussion
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You grew up in an amatonormative society that punishes people for not fitting into a teeny-tiny, specific box.
To want to fit in? Yeah, humans be like that.
To feel bad about not fitting in when you've been inundated with messages about fitting in your entire life? Yeah, humans be like that.
To want to know what something you don't understand feels like? Yeah, humans be like that.
There really is no abnormal when it comes to human feelings. There are billions of humans on the planet, and imo, one of the things that makes us human is our diversity and difference. If you can think of a feeling, a human has felt it. If you can't think of it - a human has felt it. Humans feel the depths of all sorts of confusing, complicated, and contradictory feelings. It's all normal. It's all abnormal. Just depends on your perspective.
I'm not sure how good the book will be for you if English isn't your native language, but Jeffrey Marsh is a nonbinary activist who has a great book "How to Be You" about finding self-acceptance and maybe self-love. It might be helpful to you.
I hope you are able to find peace and understanding about yourself and how you feel and make room to just feel your feelings without beating yourself up. <3