Dodgypotato

You don't. The soccer training comes to you.

I wish that bugs would stop drowning themselves in my coffee.

MOST OF US KNOW NOW BUT WE KEEP CALLING YOU ZEMA JUST FOR THE LOLS. :IDKPAPO: : D

Hahaha! Banned because you started practicing BDSM before me!

Banned for... Sadism about banning! Yeah! That's right!

No! Banned for not banning me! How dare you not ban me!

Banned for thwarting me!!! Hahaha

Banned because James likes your ban. >.>

5 hours ago, Snapdragon said:

Truth! It's pretty messed up.

I personally feel gross when I haven't shaved, but that doesn't apply to everyone and the fact that it's shoved down the throats of people who aren't cool with it pisses me off.

Yep. There have been videos of people asking random people how they feel about women not shaving their armpits. And they often immediately reply, "It's gross!" or something along those lines. And then they get asked, "What about men?" And they reply it's normal or fine or whatever. But then when asked, they can't explain what the difference is. They can't explain why it's fine on men but not on women. It's literally the same thing in the same place. It's not as if armpits are different on men than women either. It's not unfeminine, as lots of people think, there is no difference at all! D:

5 hours ago, aussiekirkland said:

 

The same thing happened when I was 9, and the girls in the locker room were nagging me about when I was getting a bra (same shit, different school). Stuff like that was super isolating because I was an early bloomer.

 

In my experience puberty is used as an excuse to sexualise and feminise young girls which I personally think is really gross. It certainly felt wrong to me, all the pressure to "be a woman" and "be desirable to guys".

Yeah I was asked out in public by one of my *****friends***** if I wear/was wearing a bra. Surrounded by the whole class. This was year 7 I think. So around 11 years old. I never found a need to. I still wouldn't if I truly had a choice in the matter. I got pressured into it eventually because I got paranoid that girls would keep trying their best to humiliate me. I also was pressured into shaving my legs, which really sucked for me because as I mentioned, I had really bad eczema on my legs at the time. Really really not good for it...

For me, it was just a horrible time of absolutely no one telling me that anything was going to happen. Yeah, I had no idea what puberty was or periods or anything. So there I thought that something was completely wrong with me. Because I mean, I didn't see anything good to any of the changes - it was like a disease out of no where. And on top of that there's people from every direction pressuring me into hiding and suppressing all of these changes. What was I supposed to think? Obviously I thought something was wrong with me.

2 hours ago, Louis Hypo said:

 

Wait I don't get it.

 

@Zemaddog banned for spreading negativity.

Banned for not getting my pun!!! Geez! : P : P Cuz she made a tangent joke! (tangent = tan(x). Trigonometric identity: tan(x) = sin(x)/cos(x) )

Banned for not being supportive of Ace of Amythest's identity.

(if I could like my own posts right now I could, I am so proud of my puns)

Banned for having no good basis for your ban. ;D ;D ;D

12 hours ago, SoulWolf said:

Why didn't I realize this sooner though? It now seems like it should have been more obvious...

Probably because I spend a lot of time in my own little world, ignoring reality... for obvious reasons, I suppose. I guess I couldn't handle the truth until recently.

I just never used to pay attention to like... Anyone else at all. Lol! I mean, for example, I used to hear the words 'heterosexual' and 'homosexual' thrown around increasing more and more around ages 13 and 14. But I honestly learnt what all those sorts of terms meant only at almost 18 years of age. And then came the whole.. Am I bi? pan? etc.

1 hour ago, Ace of Amethysts said:

@Dodgypotato I hate to go off topic, but it seems to me that Australia is kind of obsessed with romance.

Yes. Extremely. We have soooo many soapy romance drama shows at the moment, the majority scripted. And a lot of people are just sucking them up like they're the best thing ever. Hah! Strange. But I think the majority of the rest of the world is very romance obsessed as well. Especially countries like India. I don't think it's as bad here. I know in some cultures, if you don't marry, you're perceived as a failure. Truly and utterly, way more so than here. Some places your parents are just constantly pushing at you to to get married regardless of your happiness. They'd rather you to suppress who you are in order to find a partner. I think that's horrible. With women in particular - I've witnessed this. If a woman is not particularly feminine, their parents will press them to suppress their masculinity (or neutrality) in order to 'attract men'. That's so dumb. You would then have to suppress your true self for the rest of your life. That would be horrible.

Banned because your set should be closed under addition and scalar multiplication.

21 hours ago, Dodecahedron314 said:

I confess that, as an aroace, I'm honestly feeling a little bit personally attacked by the amatonormative/allonormative bits of the most recent two episodes of Sherlock. Specifically:

 

The Lying Detective (S4E2):

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John's cringeworthy rant about how Sherlock needs to get together with Irene Adler. Just...stop, Moffat. Just stop. Take your humanization-through-romance trope and leave. Yes, we obviously already know that John doesn't exactly see eye-to-eye with Sherlock on relationships, but you would think by this point he would at least try to understand because he should know that there's no chance of this changing. And if he's trying to get Sherlock to "heal" this way...again, stick the romantic humanization trope where the sun don't shine.

 

The Final Problem (S4E3):

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Can we just all agree that the BS with Molly was just the cheapest of cheap shots? Yes, it's supposed to be sick and twisted because that's this episode's entire schtick, I get that. But just...I'm having trouble putting into words how much that scene enraged me. Fanservice and amatonormativity and needless manufactured angst, oh my! I would elaborate, but I can't quite articulate a cohesive argument over my ongoing internal screaming of "NO. NO. NO. NO." and overwhelming urge to flip off Moffat.

 

Moffat is obsessed with entering romance into everything because it's what he thinks will sell. And sadly, he's right. The majority of fans for that kind of stuff go crazy for someone turning someone who seemingly hates romance into a romantic soppy git. I hate it as well. We can't just have one non-romantic character. Ever. Those fans make me so mad. You don't need romance IN EVERYTHING. If it's not a romance genre, don't insist on putting it in everywhere!!! It's unnecessary!

I confess that I get really really REALLY annoyed when there is a complete over saturation of romance in things that are not classified as a romance piece of entertainment!

I'm closeted NB, so vast vast majority of people think I'm a woman irl.

Repeating what others have already said, but anyway... I really don't care what women do with their bodies. It really bothers me when they think it's gross for women not to do the same as them. Why is hair seen as inherently bad on women when it's FINE on men? It's literally the same thing, except it's generally thicker and more dense on men.

Also when people get grossed out by muscles on women. I don't understand that. People get grossed out whenever a woman is not stereotypically feminine. And that pisses me off. I didn't even realise this was going on for many years of my life. Up until a few years ago, I did as well. Because we're all conditioned to. We all grow up, and are presented with the 'perfect feminine woman'. And told it's disgusting if we don't shave. Around entering high school, I didn't want to shave. I never wanted to. Made it worse that I have eczema and couldn't if I wanted to anyway. But that meant I had to hide it. I could never show my legs because I would be completely shunned for not shaving. I don't give a shit now, but I did when I was 10-12 years old... And when I realised the pure brainwashing most of us go through (at least in Australian culture), I was disgusted.

And then of course I figure out a few years later that I've also been brainwashed into thinking that I can't be happy without a romantic relationship, and that that was bullshit as well. Haha!

But yeah, I don't care what others do. Slap on a cake face. Be bald all over. But don't force it onto me. Don't say that I'm disgusting and shouldn't show parts of myself because it's not good enough for you. Especially if it's just because you perceive me as a woman. Especially if it would be a different story if you thought I was a man.

On 6/1/2017 at 8:44 AM, Untamed Heart said:

I feel like at this point, if I ever had kids and one of them kept bringing the same person round I'd assume they were just good friends  

Hahaha! You're way better than my parents. If I even mention someone not of the same sex as me, we're automatically engaged in some sort of romantic relationship. Even in 2015 (last year of high school), I kept staying as late as possible at school. Dad suspected it was because I'd "Found someone". Lol..

Banned for sharing my confusion.

Not yet eaten a rainbow :sadpapo:

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On 25/12/2016 at 8:58 AM, Untamed Heart said:

I honestly hadn't heard that, I thought allo and zed were the same thing. At least, the way I've seen them used suggests they are. But I could be wrong.

They are used the same way, yes. But some people are transitioning over to using the term 'zed' because some sexual/romantic people has expressed their distaste for the term. Which, might I add, is not usually because of the specific meaning of the prefix 'allo' (other). The most common thing I've heard is that they just want to be called sexual/romantic. So changing to 'zed' doesn't really make that much sense. Except for the people who are actually offended by 'allo' for whatever reason.

I confess that I still have no idea whether or not I'd actually enjoy a romantic relationship. Just because I've never experienced romantic attraction to date, doesn't mean I'm sure I never will. I have no idea. I think it seems too stiffling, as I even have trouble with platonic relationships (friendships) sometimes. But I don't know.

16 hours ago, Louis Hypo said:

(en Français) "A life without love is like a year without summer,"

 

...fuck off

I hate Summer as well, guys. Lol.

I'm kind of the same, I guess. I've come to the conclusion that because I honestly believe that gender is stupid and harms our society more than helps it, I probably just can't conceptualise me having one. It doesn't affect me at all, other than other people's perceptions of me. It's deeper than disliking stereotypes, I'm not 'not a woman' because I don't like gender roles. It feels wrong to be called a woman, there's nothing that makes me a woman. There's nothing that makes me a man. There's nothing that makes me anything. I suppose if I could pick a sex, I would choose male, and to be perceived as a man. But in the end I just really don't care because it's just so meaningless.

I don't know if that line of thinking will help you at all... I hope it does. Your 'My feeling when I think of my gender is like my brain returns a 404 error.' Does sound similar to what happens to me. : P Not sure for a long time if I was a man, a woman, agender, neutrois, bigender, or some demigender. I decided not quite that I don't care, but it doesn't matter (for the reasons I put in the first paragraph).

3 hours ago, Untamed Heart said:

That one's fairly new to me, too, but I still prefer allo because I find it easier to remember.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure that 'allo' actually has a meaning ('other') whereas the prefix 'zed' was just picked because it's the opposite end of the alphabet compared to a.

Only if it were a doctor, and even then never anything between the waist and thigh. D:

I've had to show my dermatologist my legs and back and stuff and that was bad enough - I've gotten used to that though. Only ever a doctor who I'm confident would be professional and other stuff...

Banned because it is overrated!