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14 hours ago, JetSettingAro said:

I am incapable of building a deep relationship that doesn't start as a friendship...so conventional dating is out of the question. As you say, dating really is a concept that I can't wrap my head around. 

Man I am so glad to discover that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I have always been utterly baffled by how people can just start dating someone they barely know. 

19 hours ago, Cee Fox said:

A million dollars but you can't buy anything worth more than 100 dollars.

I invest the million dollars in 10,000+ shares that are each valued at less than 100 dollars.

A million dollars but if you take it, a million dollars also goes to funding a political party you hate.

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On 5/22/2018 at 9:38 AM, Apathetic Echidna said:

Maybe that is part of the allure for me, the well written non-fluff fanfics at least, make it a tangled illicit powerplay as well as a shipped relationship. 

I missed this earlier but ??? 

I'm not really into the Handmaid's Tale fandom, but this is definitely the sort of trainwreck that I'm into in most fictional contexts. Have you seen this Lin Manuel-Miranda quote? It definitely gets across the idea of wanting to vicariously try things in fiction that would make you uncomfortable in real life:

"I find that, for me, the work is a safe place to put all the stuff you don’t want to put in your real life. ... I don’t want to have an affair. I don’t want to have a fucking gunfight. But! There’s a part of your brain that wants to experience everything, and so work’s a safe place to explore it all. Both in the writing and in the performing. I get to write about an affair. I get to have the guilt and the feeling of that without having to fuck my life up. [laughs]

"Art is the place to safely explore all those other sides of you, because the side you want to bring home is the side that wants to be a good father and be a good husband and be a good son. In art we can be fucking nuts."

75% aromantic.

For the rest, even split of 8% each for romantic/demisexual/asexual. 0% chance of being aroace. (I'm definitely not ace, so that makes sense I guess...!)

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I think that my attitude to shipping is very much influenced by my attitude to romance in general. I have never had an OTP. I'm most interested in fics where the characters struggle with identity differences and find a way to be together regardless, on their own terms. I absolutely do not subscribe to the idea that any character is meant to be with another character, ever.

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14 hours ago, nonmerci said:

True. But if I had known I'm aro, I guess I would have mention it to him way before he asked me out, so maybe he would have understood that I will never date him, never ask me, and never threaten. Or maybe not, I'll never know.

Honestly, the thing about abusers and manipulators is they don't give a shit about logic or reason. They will trample all over any boundaries you try to set, no matter how genuine or important the reason you have for setting those boundaries. I would bet good money that if you had known you were aro, and told this guy you were aro, he would still have tried to convince you otherwise, and would still have blamed you for not being interested in him romantically.

None of his behaviour is on you, it's all on him.

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47 minutes ago, Holmbo said:

Then I met someone who was like perfect on paper. And I thought, huh that's weird. 

Oh man, STORY OF MY LIFE

Career-focussed. Commitment-phobic. Incredibly picky. Selfish. 

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Buy stock in Google. 

On 5/26/2018 at 8:51 AM, Holmbo said:

It's renewed for season four by Amazon! 

Is that what she is now? It wasn't clear to me. She did seem like she was in charge but is it temporary or has there been an election. (imagine a world election, what a mess) I'm not sure how I feel about it in that case. Love the character but she does seem to be playing fast and loose with human rights when it suits her. 

I definitely don't think she's officially been elected, but I love seeing her in charge. My favourite scheming Machiavellian genius, who might now be able to actually Get Shit Done about the protomolecule problem ❤️

SO GLAD TO HEAR IT GOT RENEWED!!! Thank you evil capitalist overlords.

Singular 'they' is totally fine in English. Ignore the overzealous prescriptivists who say otherwise.

"I've just made a new friend from another country!"

"Oh really? Where are they from?"

On 4/21/2018 at 1:21 AM, nonmerci said:

And when he told me he loved me and I rejected him, he told me that he was going to commit suicide if I didn't date him. I think it would have been easier if I knew I was aro at this time.

Aro or not, him threatening to hurt himself is a textbook tactic of emotional abuse. That's not okay under any circumstances. 

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Sooooo after this week's episode... 

CHRISJEN FOR SECRETARY GENERAL Y/Y

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I love this show so much, but somehow nobody I know seems to be watching it! Chrisjen is my favourite character by a million miles, but I'm also a big fan of Bobbie and of Amos. Crossing my fingers hard that it'll get picked up for renewal by someone else, otherwise I'm definitely going to have to look into getting the books!

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