sage-dazey Posted June 6, 2023 Share Posted June 6, 2023 So I’m aroace, I have a queer platonic partner, we’re long distance. We are not in a romantic relationship. anyway, recently I sent a nude to a another girl just to experiment. It really didn’t cross my mind that this could be cheating or that it would hurt my partner…. So now I’m wondering was this cheating? Do I have to tell my partner about it? I’m not in contact with that girl anymore it was a one day thing. Ironic, I thought I would never cheat since I’m asexual…and can’t feel sexual desire for anyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Posted June 6, 2023 Share Posted June 6, 2023 To be honest there's no straight answer for that. Some people will definitely say it's cheating, but it all depends on the boundaries you set with your partner. Did you ever talk with them about anything like that?? If you haven't, then I suggest doing so, in other words - telling them. I think it's better to tell them now, then them randomly founding out about it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sage-dazey Posted June 6, 2023 Author Share Posted June 6, 2023 2 minutes ago, Keith said: To be honest there's no straight answer for that. Some people will definitely say it's cheating, but it all depends on the boundaries you set with your partner. Did you ever talk with them about anything like that?? If you haven't, then I suggest doing so, in other words - telling them. I think it's better to tell them now, then them randomly founding out about it. Okay, thank you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Keith Posted June 6, 2023 Share Posted June 6, 2023 1 hour ago, sage-dazey said: Okay, thank you. No problem!! I hope you'll be able to work everything out!! :D 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted June 6, 2023 Share Posted June 6, 2023 For me cheating is about doing with someone else something you agreed to do only with your partner. There are things that are clearly cheating in a romantic relationship except if you agree you can do it, as it is expected like this. However, in the case of a QPR, the point is that you define your own rules. So I don't think something is cheating except if it was stated that you should not do it with someone else. However I think that if you enconter a situation that you haven't thought about and you don't know if your partner would be ok with it or not, it is great to ask before doing it. So if you want to know what your partner think about it, you have to ask them. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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