ImJustChillingHere Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 I've recently discovered I relate to many of the aspects of an aromantic person but not all, and so I'm confused on which sub label suits me best. I've always disliked the idea of a romantic relationship for my whole life, and I've only ever had 3 crushes in the 14 years I've lived which were on guys I was very close with. One was very faint, the second one was more of an obsession, and the third one resulted in a romantic relationship with them, but I feel like over time it felt like I was in love with the idea of the person than the person themselves. Ever since that last one, I haven't had any of the "butterflies in stomach" feelings to anyone, including fictional characters which I would also have small crushes on. Currently I'm just going with the umbrella term Aromantic, but could someone help me pinpoint where exactly I fall? I would appreciate the help! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arsenic Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 You could be demiromantic. A demiromantic person only develops romantic feelings to the people they are close to. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dewy Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 You could fall under grayromantic. You don't necessarily have to choose a sub label either if you don't want to. For example I identify with quoiromantic but for the most part I just call myself aro. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeltaAro Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 10 hours ago, ImJustChillingHere said: I've always disliked the idea of a romantic relationship for my whole life, and I've only ever had 3 crushes in the 14 years I've lived which were on guys I was very close with Three crushes at 14 years old? Wow. ? I had zero crushes in my life and I’m more than a decade older. 10 hours ago, ImJustChillingHere said: Currently I'm just going with the umbrella term Aromantic, but could someone help me pinpoint where exactly I fall? I would appreciate the help! I would guess grayromantic or demiromantic. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImJustChillingHere Posted January 23, 2022 Author Share Posted January 23, 2022 Thanks for the help! I think Grayromantic fits me best after doing a little research on it since you guys all suggested it, and DeltaV, thank you for blessing me with your presence, I wish I could say the same, you are so wise sensei lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roboticanary Posted January 23, 2022 Share Posted January 23, 2022 grey might fit you. Remember though, you don't need to find a finer label if it doesn't help you. If nothing seems quite right just go on with life, try anything you want to try, avoid anything you don't and generally learn more about yourself. Maybe something will click with you later but you don't have to immediately go searching for the one label that suits you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImJustChillingHere Posted January 23, 2022 Author Share Posted January 23, 2022 1 hour ago, roboticanary said: grey might fit you. Remember though, you don't need to find a finer label if it doesn't help you. If nothing seems quite right just go on with life, try anything you want to try, avoid anything you don't and generally learn more about yourself. Maybe something will click with you later but you don't have to immediately go searching for the one label that suits you. Thank you for the advice, I'll definitely keep that in mind! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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