Guest yoikesimawreck Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 I've always felt that friends are my top priority. This idea is kinda what propelled me into thinking I might be a-spec (at the very least). I would do anything for my best friend and I'm kind of a whore for close emotional connections. Anyway, my best friend just got into a relationship and i haven't come out to her quite yet...but I have told her that it really scared me that they would ditch me for their new partner. It terrifies me knowing that I'll be knocked to second tier on the relationship priority list over a romantic relationship. I feel like her finally knowing I'm acearo would help her understand why I feel the way I feel. But I'm really scared to come out because I feel like I'm in a way outting myself. Like if I tell her that I've always felt like my future isn't that of a romantic one and more aligned with marrying a best friend, I feel like they would assume I'm talking about her. And the truth is...I kind of am. If she were a-spec I would be totally cool vibing out marrying a best friend and living together in a platonic relationship. I want to tell her about my feelings and come out to them to help her understand why I feel the way I do about her being in a relationship but I'm just scared. I don't know if coming out is the right solution even though I really want to because this has been weighing in my head for a year now. Any advice or reassurance would be so so helpful. I'm so new to all of this and it's scary. Btw she's not super into relationships, she doesn't plan on marrying (in a traditional romantic sense I think) and she's pan I don't know about romantic orientation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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