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Does this sound like I'm aromantic?

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Hey. I'm pretty sure I'm aromantic, but I want to hear about what other people think. When I was younger I think I would mistake platonic/queerplatonic attraction for romantic attraction. I think it's not romantic because I never think about dating someone I'm attracted to or kissing them, I just think about being great friends (and I really want to hug people who I'm attracted to). Though I still wonder if I'm lying to myself, but I don't even understand what romantic attraction is. I feel platonic/queerplatonic attraction strongly sometimes and that makes me feel like it could be romantic because everyone talks about romance and having crushes on people all the time. And you know how with romance, if the people you have a crush on don't like you back that's very upsetting. It's like that for me when I have a squish on someone and they don't like me or something like that. I'm just very upset that I'm not their friend.

Whenever I see the word 'love' I think of platonic love. But platonic love can be as strong as romantic love, right? Can you be really nervous around someone you have a squish on? Because I am. You know how there's 'signs' that could tell you if someone has a crush on you? (ex: blushing around you, nervous, is happy to see you, wants to be around you, you notice them staring at you, thinking about you a lot) Could those things happen if I have a squish on someone? 

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Only you can really determine what kind of attraction it is. I can only speak about myself, when I have a squish and very strong platonic attraction I may want to be physically close to them like cuddling hugging etc but I def dont want to do romantic things like dating them kissing them etc.

In the end of the day nothing is romantic unless theres romantic attraction/intent combined with the action, you can platonically kiss, hold hands etc. and romantically hug someone. Its extremely subjective which sometimes makes it hard to determine what your feeling, especially when its about determining the absence of something instead of the presence.


Hope this  helps :)

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