Guest Spence Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 Hi ! So I’ve been questioning whether I am aro for awhile & I thought I was fully aro for some time & was happy with that. I felt a relief from the pressure of needing to like someone/the labels of bi/gay/pan/poly & such. Recently I’ve realized I really leaned Into using the term even though I know for a fact I have felt this attraction before at least 3 times in my life. The most recent time was with my guy friend. However, with all of my crushes, the attraction was never stable. It wasn’t consistent. When I met someone I found aesthetically attractive (I’m ace) & start to learn a little about them, I start to really like their personality, I start to feel that attraction. I want to get emotionally close, maybe physically (sensually, not sexually e.g. hugging/cuddling). But then after putting them up high on a pedestal & thinking they make my life complete (yk the usual feel really happy when I see them, happy to be talking to them, close to them, I want to make them happy & see them succeed & such) give me a reason to go somewhere, it dissipates. It goes away. It’s either very sudden or sorta slow. They say something that kinda hurts my feelings, or do/say something unkind toward someone, or is very judgy & I don’t agree/like what they said or their facial expression while saying it. Then I want to take a step back & not be as close with that person & im either happy as their friend or realize they’re not such a great person to be around. I’ve only felt this way with a friend twice. Does this count as frayromantic ? Thanks for reading this ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skylord Posted November 17, 2020 Share Posted November 17, 2020 What you're describing seems to fit pretty well in the definition of frayromantic, so I'd say yes, this would count as frayromantic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Spence Posted November 18, 2020 Share Posted November 18, 2020 22 hours ago, Skylord said: What you're describing seems to fit pretty well in the definition of frayromantic, so I'd say yes, this would count as frayromantic. Thank you ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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