Demiromantic?? Kissing??

[Shizvnc]

For about a year now, I have been describing myself as aromatic. Nevertheless, I love romantic relationships and also have a partner since a few months. I have the desire to spend my time with him, to cuddle and also to hold hands, I simply have nothing against kisses. I have ''chosen'' him as my partner, because before he was my best friend and therefore I already had a strong platonic bond with him. Since I often hear that this is what romantic love is all about (even if I would just classify it as sensual attraction) I've been thinking about if I could be demiromantic, but the kissing part is very confusing to me. As I said before, I don't mind, but it's (the only thing) I don't have any desire for. I guess I wouldn't say what I feel is romantic attraction, but honestly I have no idea of what it even feels like at all. This maybe sounds stupid, but does the desire to kiss someone determine your romantic orientation?

~Best wishes

[Rolo]

1 hour ago, Shizvnc said:

This maybe sounds stupid, but does the desire to kiss someone determine your romantic orientation?

No. Kissing is romantic-coded in western cultures (there are some cultures which do not do romantic-sexual kisses at all), but it is not innately romantic. It is possible to want to kiss people in a non-romantic way, and it is possible to have no interest in kissing even when romantic feelings are present.