Mlemon Posted December 23, 2019 Share Posted December 23, 2019 Hello! I just want to hear how some people figured out they were arospec—I think it might help me determine if I am. I haven’t ever really had a crush on someone, as far as I know, but I wouldn’t be against dating people that I like as friends/in general. I do want to be in a romantic relationship, and have been in the past, but it wasn’t much different from being really good friends who sometimes kiss, cuddle, and hold hands. I used to think I must have been a lesbian, until I didn’t really have crushes on girls either (and then I realized I’m trans masculine anyway lol). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tagor Posted December 24, 2019 Share Posted December 24, 2019 I stumbled across the term in a twitter bio and thought it was interesting. I researched (googled) it, and after a detour over AVEN I found this forum and began reading. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anon95 Posted December 24, 2019 Share Posted December 24, 2019 Hi! I sometimes wondered why it seemed to me that everyone around me fell in love (and in my eyes so easily.) For example, I was a bit amazed at how someone who confessed to me (and I rejected them) had a girlfriend not even a year later. I stumbled upon the term after searching the internet when once again I wondered if there was something wrong with me for not falling in love or not liking the idea of a romance in a relationship, or even not really desiring a relationship. I watched a clip of someone talking about aromanticism, and something clicked in my head, it was like “oh, a lot of this is really familiar." Though, I’m still not sure how well this term fits me, but what I know is that I can find myself in a lot of the characteristics of being aromantic. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goober5000 Posted December 24, 2019 Share Posted December 24, 2019 I always thought that i was very into romance because i had what I thought were multiple crushes all throughout middle and high school but for those i never actually would ever get to a point where i wanted to ask them out so they were always at a comfortable distance where no romantic things were happening. The summer after my senior year i went to a summer camp for music and saw someone I thought was attractive and we started talking and ended up being in a relationship except the night it actually got serious i was super uncomfortable. It was my first actually relationship so when i was going to bed i kept telling myself that we was supposed to like it. I ended up avoiding her the next morning and during a class i looked up the term aromantic and I felt like it kinda clicked although i wasn’t 100% because of the previous experiences i mentioned but I thought it was accurate and it took me a whole until the next day to actually tell her what was going on. Thankfully she was super cool and understanding but it took a bit to fully explain what was up. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tagor Posted December 24, 2019 Share Posted December 24, 2019 For further reading, there's also this thread, which asked the same questions some years ago. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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