Ivan-The-AroAce Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 I had many aromantic times in my childhood to 10th grade ( in 11th) so I decided to share some I've been in 2 relationships, both caused me much stress and uneasiness because I felt akward when my two partners tried to show romantic affection, I eventually broke up, 2 times and never really knew how to explain it, only to say: "it doesn't feel right when I'm with you" I've also been told I just need to wait, that it'll take time, and in 9th grade, I was in a health class, the teacher was talking about relationships, at this point I knew a little about aromantic people, he asked who wanted to get married, I didn't raise my hand, he then called on me to ask why, I responded "I don't know, I don't want a wife or a husband, or anyone, well, maybe a lizard or bird, but that's it really" everyone was in shock of what I said, then to be made fun of by them and everyone else So I single handedly came out to my class back then! What about y'all, did you ever have those moments before you realized you were aro lol 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotHeartless Posted October 29, 2019 Share Posted October 29, 2019 God, I'm sorry you had such a situation in class - sounds very unpleasant. Props to you for being so honest! I don't know why teacher feel the need to ask such questions... Speaking of teachers: In 10th class, we were asked by a teacher to write about our future life. You should have seen my face because I had no idea what I wanted for my future (expect going to university). At the time I was stuck in a relationship I actually did not want but it was very complicated. My thoughts were all about "After this ends, I do not want to enter another relationship, ever". Because I was afraid to face the truth back then and I wanted the stupid task to be over, I wrote something about going to university, owning a house, having my own library (because I love books so much), having two cats and a partner. But the moment I wrote down "partner" I did not think of a lover or someone I'm married to. It was more like "yeah, I'll move in with a friend". Back then I was friends with a girl I would have done it with and subconsciously, I've thought of her. I did not think it was strange at all, it felt very natural. Other situation(s): A boy made clear he "liked me" in 5th grade and I answered "You can't be serious" and walked away. That was very rude (especially because he apparently still liked me for several years after) but I couldn't handle his feelings and the situation, at all. It was horrible for me (took me years to realize WHY exactly). I comforted a broken hearted classmate in 4th grade, who was rejected by her crush on a class trip, by saying something along the lines of the boy who rejected her is stupid anyway - my honest opinion of the guy. And if I remember correctly, I even wore a green rainjacket...hmm! (I still own a green rainjacket, lol). I was taken by surprise (I was...14?) as Kim and Ron from the Disney Cartoon "Kim Possible" suddenly kissed and were a couple and I've always wondered if it was a mistake. Or why this needed to happen, why they couldn't remain close friends, etc. Their relationship actually started to feel a little more shallow after it and I've always wondered why I felt this way (liked the show as young teenager). I was always more open to talk about sex than romance. Though sex seemed very strange for a long time, too (unless it was fictional). The romance in Disney movies either went over my head or I just did not care for it. I liked Disney movies because of the songs, speaking animals, colors and settings but never for the romance. A classmate once asked me if I would like to have children. I replied: "No". Then she asked me if I wanted to marry. I said "maybe" but wasn't fully satisfied with my own answer and wondered why once again. Just a few situations I could think of right now, today I'm not surprised I'm writing in a forum for aromantic people . Oh, and welcome @Ivan-The-AroAce to our community! It's nice to meet you! I hope you'll have a great time, we support each other as much as we can . 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivan-The-AroAce Posted October 30, 2019 Author Share Posted October 30, 2019 doesnt help that both of the relationships were with one of my close friends, both of whom were emotionally and mentally unstable,i thought i was just helping but they saw it as dating. my parents never knew till i told my parents so and so liked me, and they helped me a lot Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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