CharredSkeever

Personally, when people ask about me, I generally say I'm asexual and just don't explain further unless it's someone I'm interested in (and even then, only if the situation calls for it.) I don't particularly like being touched in any sense of the word, but I'm fine with it going the other way. No one needs to know this about me unless they're going to have a long-term thing with me. It also helps with warding off people who are only interested in the sexual aspects, like hooking up, from interacting with my profile since I usually put it in my bio. On the topic of dating apps, I don't think they're a great way to find a partner. It can often turn into an addictive game where you forget that the people that you're swiping on are actual human beings with full lives and personalities. This is why they tend to work better for hook-ups rather than actual dating. On the other hand, they can be a great tool for people who have been socially isolated for a while and are trying to get back into the world in a low-stakes way. I do also think that it would just be more beneficial to go places and join groups that have similar interests to you. Anything from a hiking group (check facebook) to a d&d group. You don't have to stay forever and like you said, you're not the most social, but just meeting new people and letting yourself try to feel free to develop that sort of connection could help you learn more about yourself. All that said, you don't need a partner to feel fulfilled but it's something worth exploring if you're interested. Most labels are honestly kind of dog ass and don't help, but I do understand that it's a cool feeling to feel understood, both by others and yourself. AND MAYBE I'M BIAS but as someone who identifies with queer, you're allowed to just like people if you like them and have sex with people you want to have sex with, or not do any of that shit. If they're not trying to date you, they don't need to know, and if they are? Just tell them that you like them too, because that's literally all that matters. Relationships don't have to be this all or nothing sort of deal. I'm currently dating this dude and we just hang out a lot and very occasionally kiss. He also lives with me, but we have our separate rooms because I value my alone time a lot. I do loads of stuff that is considered very romantic with him, but I also have no desire to sleep with him, and he doesn't have that desire with me. It's all about finding someone who can fulfill your needs and compromising to fulfill the other person's needs as well. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes. It is hard to explain to other people sometimes, but it's also not their business. Overall, this is just my experience and opinions on it all. I've felt similarly confused before and just sort of accepted that it didn't matter to me and I would just date whoever I liked. Probably isn't super helpful, but eh. And side note, I say shit like, "God damn, I'd let her hit" all the time. It's more of an expression of how that person makes me feel (usually hot and bothered) rather than me actually wanting that. People and things are sexy, but sex isn't sexy to me. That's the best way I can explain it.