CanadianBird

No. 5 - Patiently plotting a plan to run off with 10 & 11's lunch.

But uh, otherwise No. 3. On a beautiful, sunny day I'm ignoring nature and instead choosing to read fanfiction :)

I'm gonna say May. Usually around this time the snow is no longer brown and wet, not to many bugs are out yet, and it's about the time where it's warm out but not scorching.

'Romance is Boring' By Los Campesinos

True. (I had a phase)

TPBM is a reddit user

1 hour ago, HelloThere said:

I know for a fact that if I went on a date, the conversation wouldn’t be about one another, it’d be about movie plot lines and politics. I’m not joking those are like the two topics that I can’t shut up about. XD

THANK YOU. Sorry, did you want to talk about jobs and pets while awkwardly stepping on eggshells? I was thinking that we could have a debate on whether we should part from the common wealth and analyze the significance of Wanda's character in the MCU. Also apple juice vs orange juice? Is that too much? 

Idk about everyone else but what better way to get to know a person than their view on a subject vs what they do/have? Again maybe this is just how I would try to recruit a friend over dinner XD

I always thought that if I was going to date someone they had better been a nerd and interested in some of the things I was otherwise romance and attraction would die out fast. Restaurant over dinner trying to get someone to like you (and vice versa) by saying things that seem 'normal' is tiring. The only great thing that comes out of it is a free meal

At first when I had heard about it, I didn't even consider myself being aro (and continued not to for years). Then I learned about aesthetic attraction and my world view shifted. I picked apart the grounds behind every love interest I had ever encountered and did some super deep soul-searching over the course of one weekend. I spent many, many hours reading the experiences of others to see if I felt a similar way or could relate, and I could. Learning that aromanticism was a spectrum, and that some aromantics loved love.

At the time though I was mildly depressed so even though I already had my answer I decided waited until I got out of it just to be sure. (I couldn't tell if I was aromantic or just lazy lol)

When I was at my fullest and happiest, I paused and asked myself if I would enjoy going out with someone. And guess what? The answer was no. That's when I knew and decided to officially identify as aromantic.

11 hours ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

it consumed my life for a good month, I just - 💀

This is so me. I remember locking myself in my room for every day in May listening to Lofi while obsessively writing that monster-

I actually thought that I was gonna be famous 💀

3 minutes ago, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

thanks!

Also a 24k HTTYD fic sounds kind of awesome lmao

But I understand that, since I have old docs of fantasy stuff I thought of when I was younger, and it's still rather interesting stuff, but then I think to myself of not only how I came up with the shit, but why?? lol

Glad I could help out a little :)

The descriptions definitely need work and the dialogue is kind of cringe but there were some cute moments 😭

LMAO I GET THAT It's like woah. But also man, was I FR? it's crazy to look back at.

On 6/14/2023 at 3:52 PM, The Newest Fabled Creature said:

I don't write as much as I did when I was younger 🙁 (any tips on that??)

Same here!

The longest thing I ever wrote was when I was 11 and it was a 24k word HTTYD Fanfiction (It wasn't amazing. I actually still have a copy of it in my Docs 😂). It did have romantic elements to it but it was otherwise centered more around family, duty, and close friendships. Eleven y/o me had endless time on her hands, and thought that she could do anything. Now the only spare time I have is in between exams when I'm not drowning in course work or other responsibilities, never mind having the energy or motivation.

For now I just write shorter fics (a few thousand words) whenever I find inspiration and am in the 'mood'. I really want to write something longer but at the same time most of the long stuff I plan ends up abandoned 🤷‍♀️. Anyways what I'm trying to say here is feel free to go with the flow, do what you can and if it makes you feel good, then why not?

I'm way less careful with it now, if that counts. Past the point of actively trying to hide it, but not exactly writing it on my forehead either.

I can relate to this a LOT.

I don't want romance, at all. Still, I feel a bit jealous when I imagine my close friends or ex partners with other people. Since I was little I also had a really bad habit of leading people on even though I didn't actually want a relationship - maybe as a really messed up way of trying to romanticize my life or make friends? I love the closeness of friendships, while at the same time kind of hate it. (I have looked into QPRs but I'm the type of aro who just can't do close relationships) It always feels amazing to know that you're loved by someone, but for me personally it becomes suffocating after a bit. When I get out of it I feel free, but also want it again. 😂

If it makes any sense I want to love, but how much of that I want reciprocated is iffy.

Not exactly as a child but the first time I watched Zoo-topia I had nightmares about this one scene.

What's an unusual/hidden talent that people are unlikely to suspect about you?

I'm a passionate ukulele player :)

About two years ago I was completely obsessed with one particular brodinsons fan artist on twitter. I found it floating around in my screenshots and didn't feel much like deleting it 🤷‍♂️

You don't need to lead someone on for them to like you!!!!

I'm proud of myself for reaching the conclusion but if I got to choose my orientation my first choice would probably not be aromantic :,)

Little me would object to any other answer than Frozen but I'd have to say Moana

Originates from another site but 'Cerimonials' is the name of a Florence + The Machine album I was crazy about at the time. Found it once where it was used nowhere and used it here too :)

Heyo! Nice to meet you :DD

Heyo, does anyone have any fun experiences of completely missing something because you were aromantic? I thought it might be fun to share :)

Here's mine: Not to long ago a new branch of a particular fandom sprouted, and I discovered that not too many people were writing for it. I love writing and thought that a great way to farm some clout (joking, please don't take that too seriously) and reach a greater audience would be to write something for it.

Up until this point most of the stuff I had written were more about familial bonds. Ignoring this, I sat myself down and said "Alright, we're going to write a romance." So many aromantics are talented at writing romance pieces... I am not one of them xD

For several hours I attempted to awkwardly write about romance while feeling incredibly uncomfortable the whole time. It was torture.

If you're wondering in the end I decided that it was to much trouble to write for something I didn't like all too much (to put it lightly) so I gave up. Anyways, the end.

33 minutes ago, Midnight said:

I'm looking for some help in the figuring out what I am department. You see for quite some time I've thought that I was lesbian, but upon recent research and comparing things to my life I've come to a halt. I've hit some possibilities such as, aromatic, cupioromantic,  and demi-romantic. I rarely have crushes, but when I do they are generally close friends. 

Can someone help me out???

You can be Lesbian and Demiromantic too! Feel free to tack on as many labels as long as you feel that they fit you.

9 minutes ago, Anaim said:

Tbh I didn't even know this existed

This is the first one ever, actually. I heard about it from Tumblr

Us aros finally have a day all to ourselves! :D

Edit: So it has been brought to my attention that an aromantic awareness week already exists (in February) so I would just like to specify that this is the day, not a week. Hope that clears everything up!

A lot of allos (and aros too!) often feel that being aromantic is lonely and depressing.

I disagree. I think being aromantic is awesome. I find it liberating and comfortable :-)

To help clear up the misconception, why would you say being aromantic is awesome?

I love switching between different styles, fashion wise. Sometimes it's a flashy belt, business pants and platforms, or a toned sweater with cargos and hoops. Essentially I have a bunch of 'set' outfits, but they don't necessarily fit within one particular style :)

depends on the weather maybe?