The Aro Mando Echo

Hello! I'm Echo. I'm AroAce as well! Welcome to the forums! :)

2 minutes ago, Harvest said:

I especially relate to the people disrespecting teachers part :(( it doesn't happen as much anymore but like 2 years ago everyone was so mean, its like they didn't even see them as actual human beings.

I can relate.. Some people at my school just give me a headache

5 minutes ago, Peggy said:

For me, there was the obvious 'I made up a crush' which I feel like every aro person has done.

But also, when my friend came out to me as bi, my first reaction in my head was just 'how have you experienced enough attraction to know the gender/s you're attracted to?' Because I'd only ever had one crush (which may have been a platonic crush?) so I didn't understand how everyone else could already label their sexuality.

I had this reaction too! I was confused at first, because I was noticing how everyone around me began to come out and develop crushes, and I didn't feel anything.

3 hours ago, 7sev said:

im usually curious abt what kind of fucked up shit theyre into but at the same time i wonder if ill feel anything; i ended up being weirded out tho. no arousal nor attraction happening; just taken aback

ikr! I just end up being disgusted to be honest..

13 hours ago, 7sev said:

checking out nsfw accs on twitter; along with the liked content of any accs with the 18+ emoji or symbol in their usernames bc why tf not. i want to see what kinda shit theyre into and i always end up regretting it bc they just retweet and like porn of anime girls that looks like 5 years old children; but oh well. i got my answer

SAME. Sometimes I purposefully look for it just to be like "Hmmm... any attraction here? No? Alright then.."

Almost like a test 😅

I'm still on the fence. If there were enough benefits I might, just to be financially smart (And also be undercover in society and pretend I am an allo). 

I'm more of the type to focus on myself, and I don't have many friends in the first place, so I don't know if I will ever feel like marriage is even necessary.

Definitely something to think about though. There is a big stigma against being unmarried in society, so I assume many people will "pity" me if I don't get married, which I find strange.

hello 👁️‍🗨️

I have a story lol

These guys in my Spanish (Idiot, popular cishet guys for context), were pestering me about my orientation bc I made a joke with my pan friend, so after thirty minutes I sighed and told them.

Of course, they didn't know what AroAce was, so I tried my best to explain it. We went through the whoooollle cycle man... 

They asked

"You reproduce asexually??"

"Have you been, like diagnosed?"

"Wait so you see like someone hot and just... nothing? That's so weird!"

"So you're a plant??"

- (One of them asked when I knew I was aroace, and the other guy asked -as a joke- "Yeah, when did you sprout?💀)

it was pretty funny ngl. Like they genuinely didn't understand it. Props to them for trying to tho, I was surprised by how genuine they were at some points.

I still shake my head thinking about it. 

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Oh yeah I love the zillo beast, the clone wars arc with it made me so sad as a kid :((

I think the aspect I find most interesting is the hidden 'dystopian' parts of the universe. Like the droids for example: lot are at least clearly a little sapient, and yet they are treated horribly. I love this video in particular on the battle droids: 

Yes! The treatment of droids is such a neat moral question that I wonder about a lot! The video brought up lots of great points.

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Hi! I like your avatar, it is 100 % like I imagine an aro Mandalorian to look.

And green as we know is a canon color for Mandalorian armor, symbolizing duty.

Thank you! I drew it myself, with the intent of using these colors. I also have a purple version, that is for ace. I am actually hoping to create my own costume with this design.

Once someone asked me when I  told them: "Are you diagnosed??" 

some other honorable mentions

-Are you a plant?      (The follow-up question asked by someone else was "When did you know?" And this guy asked, "Yeah, when did you sprout?" ..I'll admit it was funny

- So you never want to have sex?

-So.. you just saw it on the internet...?

- So you'll die a virgin?

- So when you see someone that's hot just... nothing? 

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The more I read this, the more convinced I am that I'm aro?-

Same. Also, Jaiden Animations' video was also... uncomfortably relatable. That's honestly around when I started really looking into it. If anyone hasn't seen it I recommend checking it out!

Oh geez, I'm not sure.. Maybe you could try asking in the friends and allies discussions? They might know something. Sorry you have to figure out such a strange situation!

You cannot control when you give the look and force everyone you see into silence.

I can get a perfect score in every activity, game, or sport.

Dang, that's a tough one... I love the ships and creatures a lot. I feel like a lot of them are really creative and interesting, like the zillo beast in clone wars, and the krayt dragons in The Mandalorian. I also love how many different species there are like wookies, twileks, togrutas, rodian, etc.. How about you? 

But you instead feel their pain yourself. (Essentially trading)

I can memorize any book I open.

Man I've been there before..

I'm sorry you have to handle this, and like hemogoblin said it is not selfish to care for your friends. It's understandable that you feel like you could lose them, and I don't think it's self-centered. It's weird for us when allos or alloros prioritize romance over friendship, but just know that it's okay to set boundaries and feel how you feel.

Personally, I like both, though I love the combined flag bc I feel like both flag colors are so aesthetic!  ✨

Just a general discussion on flags, but to start things off, to all my fellow aroaces out there, do you like the "sunset" aroace flag, or the flag that is a combo of the ace flag and aro flag? 

Hello everyone, I'm Echo. I'm Aroace, and I just use she/her 'nouns. Nice to meet all of you!

Man that's always so awkward, ugh.. especially when teachers or whoever make comments about how "You'll all feel urges someday.."

On 3/20/2023 at 8:33 PM, Peggy said:

Hi everyone,

I just joined Arocalypse and I'm excited to be here! My name is Peggy (not my real name) and I use she/her pronouns. I'm an aro-spec teenager (I mostly identify with aro). I'm here because I was recently feeling pretty bummed that none of my friends really understands my feelings as someone who is aro, and I don't have anyone who I can talk with about these things, so I decided to join an aro forum. In my spare time I really enjoy reading so if anyone is a fan of books, I'd love to talk more! I mostly read YA, and recently I've been reading realistic fiction mostly, though I do enjoy fantasy as well.

Hey I'm Echo! I love fantasy books! What kind of books have you read?

On 3/19/2023 at 4:58 AM, Keith said:

I really like "Despair"! It's not necessarily about being aro, but I've always interpreted it like this. Same goes for "Emotional Machine", "Oh No!" and "I Am Not A Robot".

Yes! I have had "I Am Not A Robot" by Marina and The Diamonds stuck in my head for days!

Also "Love song" by Sara Bareilles

I don't usually like to talk about this too much, but I have been working really hard recently, and I'm getting very discouraged with everything. I have tried to branch out in all of my hobbies, school, and home, but it feels like my limbs were cut off. I am disappointed in myself, and it feels like everyone is disappointed in me as well. Even when I'm really tired I try so hard to care for everyone around me and bear my problems in silence, but everyone just seems irritated that I can't give more. On top of that, I came out to my friends, (most are bi and queer) and I think they think I am just aroace to "fit in" or "be special too" I honestly am tired of hearing about their crushes all the time.

It's very late, and this probably sounds worse than it is, but I am just really, really, tired. 

Also my fish died

I love The Clone Wars, definitely one of my favorite shows! Season seven tore out my heartstrings though... My all-time favorite SW show is The Mandalorian, though (as you might be able to tell from my profile), for a lot of reasons.