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it’s been a year since i discovered that i’m grayromantic.
for the longest time, i was confused and frustrated by my ambivalence, apathy, and even repulsion towards romance, and while i had the capacity to like people romantically, it was rare, and it never seemed to reach the level of intensity others experience. i felt alienated from my peers and overplayed or even feigned my attraction to fit in with them, all the while having no real interest in pursuing romantic relationships, no significant romantic attraction to anyone, and never being able to relate to my friends.
the more i learned about aromanticism, the more things started to make sense. my greyromantic identity was something i discovered long after realizing i wasn’t straight, wasn’t cis, and wasn’t allosexual, so it wasn’t something that scared me. i was just relieved to finally understand why i felt the way i did and to be able to stop waiting around for feelings i didn’t have and stop trying to force attraction that wasn’t natural to me. my greyromanticism had been there all along. it felt like coming home.
that’s not to say i never worry. it still bothers me sometimes that i don’t relate to my allo peers, and i still fear how my parents will react to the fact i likely won’t get married, but these things were always true, regardless of how i labeled myself. this is who i am, i love who i am, and i wouldn’t change it if i could. being aro is beautiful.
i’m immune to valentine’s day sadness! i don’t waste time on crushes! i don’t need a romantic parter to feel fulfilled! my favorite color is green! i love being grayromantic and it’s something to be celebrated!!
this aromantic spectrum awareness week, i’m making myself some aro spectrum pride pins, reading Loveless by Alice Oseman (finally, it’s been on my shelf for months!) and taking the time to learn about other identities and facets of the aro community. i implore you to celebrate in your own way too. Aros all across the spectrum, you are amazing, your aromanticism is amazing, happy aro week!
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someone likes me (this is very bad)
CrisisApple replied to CrisisApple's topic in Aromantic Relationships
thank you, that really helps to hear! -
There's this person I've always really admired and wanted to be friends with, and for the duration of high school they've been really nice to me, always complimenting me, saying nice things about me to other people, letting me join them in class activities when I had no one else, and recently we've been starting to become friends through one of our mutual friends, and I was so happy, but today I found out through another friend that they have a crush on me, and I'm, well, crushed. We have so much in common and I think they're awesome! I feel like we could be such good friends and I was so glad that it seemed like we were becoming great platonic buddies, but they like me romantically, and I know that I don't and won't like them back. I don't want to have to reject them, I don't want to make them feel bad or make things awkward, I just want us to be friends. The idea of someone liking me romantically honestly makes me quite uncomfortable, I feel like they've only been so nice to me because they want me to like them back and none of it was genuine, and given my past experiences with rejecting people, I really don't want to screw this up. I wish this weren't happening. I was really excited that they wanted to be friends, but that's not what they want at all :(
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What made you question(?) if you were aromantic?
CrisisApple replied to Bumble_Bee_'s topic in Aromantic Relationships
I was aware of aromanticism without really having an in depth understanding of what it was like until I read a fanfic about an aromantic character and the experience sounded a little too familiar lmao. -
What's your favorite "aro song"?
CrisisApple replied to quarterpast4am's topic in Aromantic Pride and Culture
same here!! I adore lovejoy and some of their songs have such strong aro vibes! All my favorite songs with aro vibes have already been said, save for "Favorite Band" by chloe moriondo, which is about realizing you're not interested in someone because their music taste sucks and you don't like them as much as you like listening to good music. So my life story. -
I'd heard or Arocalypse before, but I didn't realize it was a forum! Well, hi! I'm something like gray-aroace, but I'm still figuring it out and don't currently have anything more specific than that. I realized maybe a year or so ago? But it took me awhile to really understand it. I'm so glad to be here, and just in time for aromantic spectrum awareness week! And I'm totally loving the frog theme.
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it depends. As far as being aspec goes, I'm more sure of my romantic orientation than my sexual orientation. My general lack of romantic attraction is consistent and sure, but my amount of sexual attraction fluctuates too much to be totally sure if I'm allo, ace, or something in between. When it comes to what genders I'm attracted to, though, I'm much more sure of my sexuality because my sexual attraction is more clear than my romantic attraction.
