personally, my sexuality is like spare change between the couch cushions, i dont know where it is and i dont really care about it. if i really had to label my sexuality, id label it as aromantic because no matter i may feel, ill always view through the lens of being aro. my sexuality is not something i really think about or something that affects me. my aromanticism, however, is like super important and affects every aspect of my life and worldview. i identify with it so much more than any sexuality ive tried to label myself as in the past. i must have found it on some random tumblr post? maybe one of those posts with a bunch of different arospec flags, or maybe during a tag deep dive, im not really sure, but tumblrs definitely where i found it :)